My parents were very supportive with everything I've done in my life. I'm very lucky to have two separate caring people-- even if they don't quite understand why I am the way I am.
I can't say I had terrible parents for they have given me anything I have ever wanted but it always fell short beyond the materialistic nature. /spoiled
My father, or lack of a father, was definitely a contributing factor.
How can a father not think of the damage it would do to not have contact with his own child?::
No, not really. I definitely don't blame them solely, but I will admit my mom certainly had her good share of making me feel like crap and only contributing a bit to my issues. Thankfully, my dad has never done or said anything that has made me feel horrible. Dealing with my mother was enough.
I would say my dad contributed a bit when I was growing up, but I have forgiven and realized that I am an adult now, and it is up to me to change my life. Also, it helped to forgive when I found out that he was treated pretty badly by his dad and siblings, and he did the best he could with the hurt he was carrying around for yrs. He was able to forgive and let go of those monkeys on his back as well just before his dad passed and everything is good. Sometimes its good to forgive just to get those monkeys off your back and to create peace within yourself.
yes, for alot of things... but we shouldn't "blame" ... it has all already happened, analysie what you do blame them for, then the roots are pin pointed and you can work toward resolving issues rather than holding onto blame - in the long run it does you no good
I do blame them, but it's not there fault- they had no idea I'd end up this way. They just thought what they were doing was best.
If my Mum had really listened to my difficulties and tried to help to be less shy and fearful of other kids, I wouldn't have spent my childhood inside the house playing Lemmings. Plus she did nothing to lessen the attached bond I used to have with her, meaning I grew up completely dependent on her. And my estranged Dad who made little effort, showing no emotion yet anger.
I don't blame them at all. Even if some things were to be caused by situations developed by their actions, it's the past, it doesn't exist, and as with other past-based things like regret I try not give it an existence. I have 100% of the power for myself now, the past is the present.
Yeah, to a point. I'm the age now that they were when they were raising me, and I would never behave the way they did in front of a sensitive kid. Never.
I'd love to pop-in on them in 1985 and point to myself and say "this is where this is heading." Not that it would've done a bit of good.