I've always fought against all that "common" stuff.
But things are getting pretty grim & desperate right now in my life. If i do somehow manage to get through this "phase" in my life, and out the other side (out of the long, dark tunnel), and start "a new beginning" which is kind of my main project right now (have a done a thread on it) ... well the things i think required for "a new beginning" are fairly substantial changes for me, and change f**cks me up big-time ... but if i could somehow manage to handle those changes, then i would fear less the idea of having a partner, and maybe even marriage.
Basically i think i've just had a gutsful of being alone, lonely, bored, depressed, etc (probably had two lifestimes worth of gutsful actually). And desperate times calls for desperate measures. If i'm starting to think "quite fondly" of the idea of premature death, and i'm quickly losing my fear of such, well then i think the fear of having a partner, and even living with them, pales in comparison. I think that's what it may take with me to get a partner - to have essentially no other options left in life, and even be right at death's door???. Just seems to be the way my life is. Perhaps some necessarily life-lessons for my soul??.