dottie
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that's a good one! i will try to remember to use it next time someone asks me this annoying ass question.
Why are you so quiet?
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that's a good one! i will try to remember to use it next time someone asks me this annoying ass question.
ripewithdecay
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"I don't talk to morons."
Riptor
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I've wanted to say that so many times. My default answer is a stiff "I don't know, I just am." It's a rude thing to ask someone, so they're already in the wrong, so whatever answer I want to give is good enough I reckon.
BeachGaBulldog
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When someone asks that stupid question, I always put an end to it with, "When I have something to say, I will say it". End of conversation.
I will have to use some of those smart ass comebacks that I saw a few threads earlier. HYSTERICAL!
I will have to use some of those smart ass comebacks that I saw a few threads earlier. HYSTERICAL!
recluse
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On too many occasions i have had comments;
I had to go to Sunday school as a child untill i was 12. I remember going in a car with other members to a meeting at another chapel and on of the girls my age commented ''He never talks! He can't talk!'' thankfully her mother backed me up
This man who is a friend of the family told me ''What's the matter, cat got your tongue?''
My grandmother; ''Remember to talk to people, i don't want them thinking you're some strange mute!''
A female cousin of a friend when i was at school, we were walking home from a disco - ''You're quiet, you don't say anything!''
A girl at college- ''You're no fun to be with!'' (ouch!)
A girl when we were divided into groups in a Welsh lesson at school for a oral presentation about a book -(to the teacher) ''He doesn't say anything, he just sits there saying nothing!''
My mother - ''For gods sake! Don't you have anything to say..It's like living with a monk! You're just like your dad..Boring and moody!'' (ouch!)
These are comments which i remember right now, there's probably an endless list lol!
The worst thing is when you can see on the persons face that they feel awkward in your company.
I had to go to Sunday school as a child untill i was 12. I remember going in a car with other members to a meeting at another chapel and on of the girls my age commented ''He never talks! He can't talk!'' thankfully her mother backed me up
This man who is a friend of the family told me ''What's the matter, cat got your tongue?''
My grandmother; ''Remember to talk to people, i don't want them thinking you're some strange mute!''
A female cousin of a friend when i was at school, we were walking home from a disco - ''You're quiet, you don't say anything!''
A girl at college- ''You're no fun to be with!'' (ouch!)
A girl when we were divided into groups in a Welsh lesson at school for a oral presentation about a book -(to the teacher) ''He doesn't say anything, he just sits there saying nothing!''
My mother - ''For gods sake! Don't you have anything to say..It's like living with a monk! You're just like your dad..Boring and moody!'' (ouch!)
These are comments which i remember right now, there's probably an endless list lol!
The worst thing is when you can see on the persons face that they feel awkward in your company.
BeachGaBulldog
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When I was young, my parents came up with the ridiculous idea of taking me to see a psychiatrist to see why I would never talk. This had the opposite effect of their plan. The more they ever tried to get me to do something to be more outgoing, the more I would fight them. Of course, I never said a word. Just stared at the floor for an hour.
billy
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Well i was hanging out with my one friend and he ended up meeting up with 2 of his friends. We hung out for an hour at my friends house and i was quiet the whole time. Then one of my friends friends said to me wow i forgot you were here,you know you should talk dude thats how you make friends you know.(me in utter silence).Now how do i respond to that?not that i would have been able to talk the anxiety killed me
Argamemnon
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"Why are you so quiet?"
Because my brain is too busy arranging the bombardment of thoughts and feelings. I feel so much pain, I'm so confused that I'm simply unable to talk. How on earth do you explain this to people who don't experience this at the same level?
Because my brain is too busy arranging the bombardment of thoughts and feelings. I feel so much pain, I'm so confused that I'm simply unable to talk. How on earth do you explain this to people who don't experience this at the same level?
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successful
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"i just am" then i look away
robin_hood
Member
Well said!!
I used to hate this question when i was younger. Its such a pointless and insensitve question to ask someone, its like asking someone why they are so fat or why they have got a big nose. Some people just dont have the open mindness to appreciate diversity and want everyone to be like and act like them, try not to let it get to you.
Also try to remember that some people might just be genuinly curious to know and dont mean any harm by it.
Now I usually dont mind this question and if someone says youre quiet I usually take it as a compliment because its who i am and I like quiet people. People who never shut up talking just bore the hell out of me.
Also try to remember that some people might just be genuinly curious to know and dont mean any harm by it.
Now I usually dont mind this question and if someone says youre quiet I usually take it as a compliment because its who i am and I like quiet people. People who never shut up talking just bore the hell out of me.
typewriterx
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I always embarrass myself horribly when I do talk. I'm so awkward, and giggle too much.
Hellhound
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I get annoyed and say "Why? Does it bother you?", or something of that sort. I don't mind if friends ask me anything they want (I am happy if they do), but when random people I don't know come and ask me these kind of questions, as if I were some kind of weird monster, I get really angry. It makes me think they believe I am a psycho killer planning my next massacre or something.
Shift
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"I don't know..." is my usual response. Or I just ignore it.
I also don't like when people say, "I used to be shy like you" after they ask me if I am always this quiet or why am I so quiet. That happened twice to me yesterday. It's just irritating because you'd think if they really understood, they'd know not to ask because it is kind of rude...
Although, I have had one person say he used to be shy like me that actually did make me feel better because he told me what happened in his life that helped him become more social and I just felt like I could change too because I'm doing the same thing he did.
I also don't like when people say, "I used to be shy like you" after they ask me if I am always this quiet or why am I so quiet. That happened twice to me yesterday. It's just irritating because you'd think if they really understood, they'd know not to ask because it is kind of rude...
Although, I have had one person say he used to be shy like me that actually did make me feel better because he told me what happened in his life that helped him become more social and I just felt like I could change too because I'm doing the same thing he did.
thursdays_child
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I hate this question so much. I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets this from people.