Hahahaha sorry I couldn't resist YouTube - Bend and Snap scenes- Legally Blonde the Movie!
How to act towards men you are attracted to...
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MikeyC
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I remember a really hot girl at the beach doing a similar thing. When my friend and I were walking past she bent over to "dry her hair" - I guess the bend without the snap? Haha. Her flirting was so obvious it was retarded but my anxiety prevented anything from happening. Le sigh.
I'm now more aware of the bend and snap, though.
MollyBeGood
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Guys are visual. They like you to smile and laugh and be flirty. Always show interest in their hobbies and hope it's not prowrestling or monster truck rallies haha
Agent_Violet
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When I'm attracted to someone i usually smile a lot. Eye contact is SO important too. I found I don't even have to speak a whole lot if I remember to smile and maintain eye contact.
not creepy eye contact...just steady,"i'm focused on this moment and you" type of contact.
not creepy eye contact...just steady,"i'm focused on this moment and you" type of contact.
razzle dazzle rose
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Eye contact and smiling are very important. These can be a challenge for most of us (with our social anxiety and all). I am a terrible flirt and can never tell when a guy likes me, and I usually give poor signals when I like someone so they can never tell either. Online it is different though, and most of my dating experience has revolved around my meeting guys online and then meeting them in real life.
I once saw a man I felt instantly attracted to while walking on the street. I knew I would never see him again so I just stared at him, something I don't usually do, my reasoning being I would never see him again so it didn't matter if he thought I was a creep. I just wanted to look at him for as long as I could. What he did next shocked me. He actually smiled at me, and asked if he could give me his phone number. We dated for a year.
That is how obvious it has to be apparently. What I thought was staring was probably regular "I am interested" eye contact which gave him the go ahead to approach me. I am in a relationship now (met him online, ha), but if I were to date again, I'll remember the eye contact and smile technique. Guys, if you notice a girl doing that, she is most likely interested in you.
I once saw a man I felt instantly attracted to while walking on the street. I knew I would never see him again so I just stared at him, something I don't usually do, my reasoning being I would never see him again so it didn't matter if he thought I was a creep. I just wanted to look at him for as long as I could. What he did next shocked me. He actually smiled at me, and asked if he could give me his phone number. We dated for a year.
That is how obvious it has to be apparently. What I thought was staring was probably regular "I am interested" eye contact which gave him the go ahead to approach me. I am in a relationship now (met him online, ha), but if I were to date again, I'll remember the eye contact and smile technique. Guys, if you notice a girl doing that, she is most likely interested in you.
nafadda
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I tended to always act indifferent to men I was attracted to.
I mean I could carry on a normal conversation ,but had no desire to flirt, because I always knew that they had no problem getting women to 'flirt' with them,so I was just the opposite..just indifferent..not flirty..not rude.
It seemed to have always worked out quite well that way and most certainly 'peeked' their interest.
I mean I could carry on a normal conversation ,but had no desire to flirt, because I always knew that they had no problem getting women to 'flirt' with them,so I was just the opposite..just indifferent..not flirty..not rude.
It seemed to have always worked out quite well that way and most certainly 'peeked' their interest.
Hoppy
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If a woman really wants to get my attention, she has to make eye contact, smile a bit, and put her hand on my forearm.
I will instantly be in love, my brain will melt and dribble through my ears and conversation will be optional.
Hugh Laurie-The Sophisticated Song - YouTube
I will instantly be in love, my brain will melt and dribble through my ears and conversation will be optional.
Hugh Laurie-The Sophisticated Song - YouTube
WeirdyMcGee
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I have a wonderful idea!
How about-- from now on; when faced with a man whom you deem as attractive, you raise your arms up and scream into his face:
"WOW! YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE! LET'S US MAKE BABIES!!"
Yes?
Would that be enough of a hint?
...maybe too much of a hint?
Oh well... I'm no expert in any capacity.
How about-- from now on; when faced with a man whom you deem as attractive, you raise your arms up and scream into his face:
"WOW! YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE! LET'S US MAKE BABIES!!"
Yes?
Would that be enough of a hint?
...maybe too much of a hint?
Oh well... I'm no expert in any capacity.
twiggle
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Well, it would certainly save all the faffing about.
hoppy, gosh damn you. I now have a huge crush on Hugh Laurie when he was younger (as if I didn't have it on Dr House already!! Though he slightly scares me!!)
Will now need to google him obsessively yikes!!
(PS That link didn't work so I had to google it! Some other cool songs & funny bits by him & Stephen Fry online!! lol!!)
Girls, yeah, they usually run at the word 'babies' - not all of them tho!! (and some may come back??)
Completely unrelated to the thread (but for some reason I want to post it!)
Elmo's Got A Gun - YouTube
or maybe it's a symbolic representation of what happens?? (I mean in the chorus lol!! 'run run run' - oh there isn't a chorus yikes, just imagine it then?? I hope this isn't too violent to post huh?? I'll remove it if needed!!)
(some may also 'go for it' and then hop off and might have kids all over Europe... happened to a friend??)
Yeah, it seems that just being friendly and polite (and enthusiastic or just generally happy/appreciative - at least in the situation) can often 'do the trick'!!
I think Dottie said in another thread that people often misunderstood being friendly& polite for trying to flirt or such! (I can admit to it sometimes happening too!!)
Sometimes misunderstandings can happen, alas! On both sides, I guess... so hm...?
and yeah, people can be speechless - on both sides lol!! (sometimes mutually yikes!!)
Sorry I'm not being helpful... too distracted by Hugh Laurie Youtube videos!! gosh!! lol!!
I didn't know Hugh Laurie existed until he was Dr House??
Oh gosh maybe I need to start a Hugh Laurie appreciation thread/blog post?? lol!
Will now need to google him obsessively yikes!!
(PS That link didn't work so I had to google it! Some other cool songs & funny bits by him & Stephen Fry online!! lol!!)
Girls, yeah, they usually run at the word 'babies' - not all of them tho!! (and some may come back??)
Completely unrelated to the thread (but for some reason I want to post it!)
Elmo's Got A Gun - YouTube
or maybe it's a symbolic representation of what happens??
(I mean in the chorus lol!! 'run run run' - oh there isn't a chorus yikes, just imagine it then?? I hope this isn't too violent to post huh?? I'll remove it if needed!!)(some may also 'go for it' and then hop off and might have kids all over Europe... happened to a friend??)
Yeah, it seems that just being friendly and polite (and enthusiastic or just generally happy/appreciative - at least in the situation) can often 'do the trick'!!
I think Dottie said in another thread that people often misunderstood being friendly& polite for trying to flirt or such! (I can admit to it sometimes happening too!!)
Sometimes misunderstandings can happen, alas! On both sides, I guess... so hm...?
and yeah, people can be speechless - on both sides lol!! (sometimes mutually yikes!!)
Sorry I'm not being helpful... too distracted by Hugh Laurie Youtube videos!! gosh!! lol!!
I didn't know Hugh Laurie existed until he was Dr House??
Oh gosh maybe I need to start a Hugh Laurie appreciation thread/blog post??
lol!
MikeyC
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No, silly. That's going to drive them away!
I think giving any kind of special attention to a man will do the trick. Depending on the circumstances, there are lots of way you can do this. If you meet him at work, try to cross paths with him as much as possible, and always smile. If you meet him in class, sit near him or just happen to linger long enough to meet up with him as he is coming out of the classroom. Most men are pretty laid-back and good-humored, so some light teasing is a good way to go. If it's not too creepy, learn what his favorite snacks are, and find a way to surprise him with them, either directly or indirectly(you could just happen to bake up a batch of his favorite cookies and leave them out for the whole office to share, for example). I'm no good at flirting, but I do know how to be perceptive and creative when it comes to dropping little "thinking of you" hints. I like to go for the sincere approach, rather than the flippant approach which doesn't suit my personality at all. And, you can always, always, always make a mix tape--er, mix cd for him.
This made me lol.
Aletheia
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MikeyC
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How To Make A Girl Uninterested In You In 10 Seconds Flat (Mikey Edition):And, you can always, always, always make a mix tape--er, mix cd for him.
Her - Hey, cutie. Can I make a mix CD for you?
Me - Sure. Can you put "Voracious Haemoglobinic Syndrome" by Aborted and "Vaults Of Ageless Pain" by Beheaded on there?
Her - Uhh....
No mind games, isn't judgmental, can talk about something besides themselves and tv shows and can show that they have a strong side. Just my taste and experience.
^ This isn't really giving advice on how to act but hey.
^ This isn't really giving advice on how to act but hey.
Yes, yes and uhhh I agree
WeirdyMcGee
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Plan B:
Run around the block 18 times; get all hot and sweaty, and then approach your target and pour a bottle of water over your head and chest.
Then look him in the eyes and say: "What the **** are YOU lookin' at?!"
...hmm...
I guess that has the same effect as the making babies version of my plan does?
I'm not very good at this whole... attraction thing...
I'm sure half of my plan is decent-- but the speech part probably needs to be changed to something more along the lines of: "I'm sweaty. Do you like getting sweaty? Want to get sweaty together?" > then go running some more.
Yes?
No?
I don't even know what we're talking about anymore.
I would say that my technique needs some work, but... meh.
Run around the block 18 times; get all hot and sweaty, and then approach your target and pour a bottle of water over your head and chest.
Then look him in the eyes and say: "What the **** are YOU lookin' at?!"
...hmm...
I guess that has the same effect as the making babies version of my plan does?
I'm not very good at this whole... attraction thing...
I'm sure half of my plan is decent-- but the speech part probably needs to be changed to something more along the lines of: "I'm sweaty. Do you like getting sweaty? Want to get sweaty together?" > then go running some more.
Yes?
No?
I don't even know what we're talking about anymore.
I would say that my technique needs some work, but... meh.