How are you feeling?

[MikeyC]

*hugs* Mikey.
I worry that you are defeating yourself before you even get started. Of course you will meet new people and they will be interested in talking to you, and you are not boring. If you keep letting yourself think about yourself this way, you will never feel any better.
In the chatbox, as in real life, it's not enough just to show up and watch other people have fun. You have to jump in there and engage. Bring up topics, start a debate, or just say something random and see where it takes the conversation. If it doesn't work the first time, you have to try again and again.
Don't discount all the victories you have made. You showed up to the events in the first place, which is more than I ever would have done. You said you chatted with someone and got her number. That's amazing! During my first year at college I didn't even talk to my own roommate. Ever. You are open to the likelihood of meeting new people and that is great. But you can't sit back and wait for them to come to you.
Best of luck, and chin up. I'm 100% certain that things will get better for you as the year goes along.

I find it hard to "jump in there and engage" when there's already groups of three or four or five all drinking and talking to each other, and I'm a solitary person trying to fit in. I also have tried engaging in the chatbox to mixed results. Just recently I tried chatting to one person in there and got no response, only to see a full conversation happen not long after I left. So that was a little deflating.

However, I know you're right. I do need to take some initiative. Maybe once the lectures begin I can talk to someone, but I again worry that everyone has already made friends and I'll be the odd one out.

God, I think I just need some more sleep.

 

[Graeme1988]

Still as social akward and inept as ever.

Personally, ah feel too much pressure upon to be social. Also, feel like a total retard, intellectually. Like I can't relate. Mibbe it's better for me to alone, than around people. Maybe ah've got Asperger's Syndrome after all, huh? :sad:

So, just venting. My anxiety/depression have been quite high, lately. Also, lacking in energy.

 

[Nanita]

I find it hard to "jump in there and engage" when there's already groups of three or four or five all drinking and talking to each other, and I'm a solitary person trying to fit in. I also have tried engaging in the chatbox to mixed results. Just recently I tried chatting to one person in there and got no response, only to see a full conversation happen not long after I left. So that was a little deflating.

However, I know you're right. I do need to take some initiative. Maybe once the lectures begin I can talk to someone, but I again worry that everyone has already made friends and I'll be the odd one out.

God, I think I just need some more sleep.

I had a similar experience when I started uni. I talked to maybe one person I liked and she dropped out after just 2 weeks and from then on I was alone, completely. You seem more outgoing than me though. I really think it will work out for you.
I almost never go to the chatbox here, since it feels as nervewrecking as entering a real room full of real people.

 

[planemo]

I had an awful day today. My issues have been piling up and up over the last few weeks, and all it took was a confrontation with a family member to finally snap. And i snapped big time. Passive-aggressive is what they call it, i think.

i'm just so tired of everything being so hard. things that everyone else take for granted i struggle with immensely.

i saw another object flash across the sky. not sure what on earth it was. maybe it was a comet or maybe i was just so stressed my mind was playing tricks on me. the uncertainty doesn't help though. :sad:

 

[Graeme1988]

My issues have been piling up and up over the last few weeks, and all it took was a confrontation with a family member to finally snap. And i snapped big time. Passive-aggressive is what they call it, i think.

i'm just so tired of everything being so hard. things that everyone else take for granted i struggle with immensely.

Sorry to hear that, planemo. I did this recently, as well. I hope this isn't too personal a question, but do you have/or do you think you have Asperger's Syndrome? Just asking... If not, sorry if I'm jumping to conclusions. Or are your issues related to something else entirely different?

Either way, I can definitely relate, sadly. :sad:

 

[Opaline]

Today was a really good day

I really have made a friend. My classmate DOES really like me; it's obvious (and of course I like her too, she's a sweetie). She added me on Facebook and when she hugged me goodbye today she gave me a little friendly air kiss on the cheek (you know what I mean).

I just feel a little embarrassed that I don't have any pictures on my Facebook of me hanging out with anyone outside of my family :sad: I know I shouldn't care but I'm human and socially anxious and I just hope she doesn't give a crap about what's on my Facebook. I know that might sound shallow, but acknowledging that fact doesn't change the way I feel about it, which is insecure.

I don't want to focus on the negative, though, and I don't want to find things to worry about, so... I'll just try to enjoy the fact that I HAVE A FEMALE FRIEND! It's been ages. I just hope I can keep her (worry again, bah!).

 

[Nanita]

^ I'm really happy for you Opaline, that is great.

 

[Silatuyok]

I'm feeling crushed in the absolute way you can only feel when someone inadvertently says something so completely true that they don't even know they are crushing you.

 

[nodejesque]

I'm sorry, Marie. If you'd ever like to talk... I'm here.

 

[nodejesque]

I feel like crap, look like crap, and am too tired to care. On top of that... I'm getting the flu.

 

[Yggdrarox]

Pretty proud of myself! Yesterday I went to my younger sisters history presentation. There were a lot of people around, and I felt trapped and kept anxiously looking at the clock for the hour I was there, but I hung in there! On top of that, I met both my sisters teacher and principal. Needless to say, I was one of the first people out the door!

 

[desery]

my sister laughed at me when she see me i'm logged in here hehe her laugh is low..

 

[Srijita52]

Pretty proud of myself! Yesterday I went to my younger sisters history presentation. There were a lot of people around, and I felt trapped and kept anxiously looking at the clock for the hour I was there, but I hung in there! On top of that, I met both my sisters teacher and principal. Needless to say, I was one of the first people out the door!

Well done! erfect:

 

[BlueDays]

I'm feeling crushed in the absolute way you can only feel when someone inadvertently says something so completely true that they don't even know they are crushing you.

^Sending (((Hugs))) to you Marie. :sad:

I feel like crap, look like crap, and am too tired to care. On top of that... I'm getting the flu.

^I hope it does not last too long for you, nody. Pop some Vitamin C and zinc pills daily.:thumbup:


I am feeling so angry. I need to train my brain to ignore things I can not change.:thinking:

 

[Kiwong]

So tonight was the final night of orientation week at the university and it's ended on a sour note.

I did chat to a person I met and we've now exchanged numbers. She's nice enough but she's had way more world experience than me and she's six years younger. I ponder as to why she's talking to me because I'm boring.

And that's the crux of my problem. Tonight was a live band thing where everyone could dance and drink. Groups have already been established now and yet there I was, aimlessly walking around, hoping for someone, anyone, to talk to me. I could then feel the usual loneliness symptoms of a heavy chest and a dropping mood, and knew there was no going back. I know study hasn't started but I just feel like I'm going to be alone, as usual. I hope someone in my class wants to talk to me because I'm sick of being alone. Socia.lising is very important to me, even if I do get anxious a little bit, and tonight highlighted that problem.

Sometimes I feel I deserve not to talk to anyone. I feel repulsive. It has even happened in the chatbox here, which is why I'll seldom go there. I wish I didn't have these extreme feelings. All I want is to make a few friends. I hope it's not going to be that difficult.

I think you need some time MikeyC. Maybe there will be a chance later on, once you are studying and get to know some of your class mates. That's how I made friends at uni, with people on the dorm I stayed in, and with those that were the doing the same classes as me. Bar nights were never good for socializing, everbody was pissed, and looking to go wild away from their parents. The uni probably has a union, with lots of clubs and interest groups you can get involved in.

 

[MikeyC]

I had a similar experience when I started uni. I talked to maybe one person I liked and she dropped out after just 2 weeks and from then on I was alone, completely. You seem more outgoing than me though. I really think it will work out for you.
I almost never go to the chatbox here, since it feels as nervewrecking as entering a real room full of real people.

I'm sorry that happened. It's not good when someone you connect with leaves.

I think I'm done with the chatbox. I'm never relaxed in there, and I have never felt completely welcome.

I'm feeling crushed in the absolute way you can only feel when someone inadvertently says something so completely true that they don't even know they are crushing you.

What did they say?

I am feeling so angry. I need to train my brain to ignore things I can not change.:thinking:

What's making you angry?

I think you need some time MikeyC. Maybe there will be a chance later on, once you are studying and get to know some of your class mates. That's how I made friends at uni, with people on the dorm I stayed in, and with those that were the doing the same classes as me. Bar nights were never good for socializing, everbody was pissed, and looking to go wild away from their parents. The uni probably has a union, with lots of clubs and interest groups you can get involved in.

Yeah, I realise I'm making judgments before the first lecture has even started, so maybe I'll wait, although tell that to my sadness and wavering emotions.

 

[singing-love]

Crushed


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[planemo]

Sorry to hear that, planemo. I did this recently, as well. I hope this isn't too personal a question, but do you have/or do you think you have Asperger's Syndrome? Just asking... If not, sorry if I'm jumping to conclusions. Or are your issues related to something else entirely different?

Either way, I can definitely relate, sadly. :sad:

I have considered AS, graeme. but i did ask a psych informally about it. and he said he doesn't think i have it. this wasn't a proper evaluation, but i took his word for it.

my issues are very much based on low self esteem and a poor body image, although i suppose it goes a lot deeper than that.

thanks for the reply. i hope you're well.

 

[hidwell]

I'm feeling better now that Autumn is here.

 

[Phoenixx]

Annoyed. For one, I'm a bit cranky because I'm tired. Two nights in a row my dog has bugged me constantly all night. I think she's just anxious with my dad being on the night shift for work this week, she tends to get like that. But it's so irritating, no matter what I do she doesn't settle down so I always end up yelling at her or bringing out the newspaper. :thumbdown: The only reason I didn't do it last night is because my boyfriend was sleeping and I didn't want to wake him up since he had to get up early to leave for an all-day work meeting.

My mom has plans today to meet up with a family member we haven't seen or visited with in a while. I wanted to go... until I realized what the date was. I need to stay home and finish my FAFSA, since it's only half done and it's due really soon. I'm also trying to get a hold of the college again to see if they updated anything on my application since I STILL haven't heard anything! It's really pissing me off at this point.... :veryangry: Already called twice, first time no answer after letting it ring nonstop, then the second time the line was busy. Ugh...

Sorry. Rant over.