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I was just wondering what some of the (seemingly) little things one can do to gradually break away from this SA mess. Maybe they can be little goals we can try every day or once a week or something. For instance, things like: -Initiate a 'hello' to someone first -Ask someone a question -Wear a...

This may be a little off topic, but I don't have any friends to really talk this over with. I am just wondering if I am being overly jealous / insecure or if other people would be a bit upset about this situation... My BF (of about 4 months) still talks with his ex-gf. They were together about...

This is stemming off of the funeral post (thank you to the person who suggested we start a topic on this, as I am curious to see the responses to this, too.) Do think you will ever marry? Do you want to marry? If so, what sort of wedding would you want? A big celebration or a private ceremony...

Has anyone labeled or thought of you as 'smart' or 'stupid' based off your SA/Shyness/Quietness? I have gotten them both. I'd say mostly stupid, though. Just some memories: I remember in second grade, playing a game in the classroom where we had to go up to the board and compete with another...

When I was younger (elementary and HS) I actually had things I enjoyed doing: Writing, reading, drawing, painting, arts/crafts. And then for awhile I was big on working out. But now I have absolutely nothing. It's a shame because I used to have talent in some of the above ventures. I don't play...

"Know what my number one fantasy used to be? I used to think about one day, just not telling anyone, and going off to some random place. And I'd just ... disappear. And they'd never see me again." Enid, from Ghost World. Has anyone else had a fantasy like this? Ever since I was in middle...

I just realized that I haven't had a girl friend since about 1998/1999 (when I was about 15ish) My only two girl friends were girls that lived up the street from me- so I knew them from childhood. But we have since grew apart and moved on with our lives. I have a couple guys that I talk to and...

I just needed to vent. I know this is dumb, but my first true love has a date tonight. And supposedly, they have been dating for a couple days now. I try to laugh, try not to care, but it really is so finalizing for me. We have been on-off for the last couple of years (had a good relationship...

I go through these waves of finding one or two people that I can talk to, hang with, and feel comfortable around (friends - I guess you call them hehe..) All the way up to mid-highschool I had a couple close neighborhood friends (girls). Until we all grew apart and stopped hanging out. It...

Would you feel more uncomfortable with hanging out with a more talkative/outgoing person -or- a more introverted, quiet person? I can see the pros and cons for both. My last few BFs have been pretty talkative, outgoing, and at ease with communication. There are a couple people that I have...

I HATE the phone to no end. I would rather talk on text message or in person before the telephone. Does anyone feel the same way? I only bring this up because everyone I meet - and is interested in me- gives a phone number. I cannot return, pick up, or talk on the phone until I am comfortable...

I wish I had a perpetual buzz. I feel so energized and alive when I do. I have great ideas and my words ooze from my mouth. It's how I imagine 'normal' people act. If there was a drug out there that made me feel like this, I would consider taking it :0) The funny thing is, I was at the bar a...

I have had 3 boyfriends in my life. But, I hate the way that their mothers perceive me. I was only with my first BF for a month, my second BF for almost 4 years (on and off type deal) and my third BF for 3 months. I believe that all of their mothers perceived me negatively. I worry that their...

Okay, so here is something sort of positive. There is this lady at work- who actually likes my quietness. She said to a fellow coworker "I like the way she talks. She is all nice and quiet. You don't hear that much anymore." Just had to share. And I also remember back in college- freshman year-...

Hi everyone The other night I went out to a bar, got drunk, and met a few people. Well, I ended up going home with this one guy and we had sex. This is not usually like me, :? We were talking the whole night, and when morning rolled around he had to drive me home (40-45 minute drive.) I think...

Last night I had to give a presentation for my public speaking class. I drank before hand, as I sometimes do before speeches, but I finally took it too far. I drank so much that I don't remember it all. I remember sitting in the hallway with my teacher, a nurse from my class, and public safety...

For those of you who are in a relationship (or were) where and how did you meet your bf/gf? I know it can be hard to meet people with SA/shyness, so I am just curious. I am in a bad relationship right now, and quite frankly, I don't think it is going to work out. I am scared to be single again...

Isn't funny how quickly people pick up on your quietness? The other day I was buying a bottle of alcohol (LOL) and the cashier said to me, "Are you always this quiet?" I sort of laughed and said "yeah." That was the quickest encounter I ever had with someone pinpointing me - so to speak. I hate...

"You can't love others, if you can't love yourself?" Do you think this old saying is true? I know I don't love myself, but I am in a relationship (almost 2.5 years). I feel bad because I have turned so hateful and mean. I can't let things he has done go - however big or little they may be. I...

Yesterday I decided to go out to see this band with my sister and her friend. My sister's friend's BF was being so annoying and unintentionally rude that I actually was in tears! I suppose he was trying to be funny, but he just went so far. I never cried over things people have said, but it was...