twiggle
Well-known member
I'd find it a breath of fresh air.
Anybody can lose their virginity. Absolutely anyone. Even if they've never been in a relationship they could go and even pay to do it.
I know of guys who have been so desperate to lose their virginity that they've paid people to have sex with them. Then they've felt more accepted by society, and more macho, because they're not a virgin (they may not necessarily tell people how they lost it).
If I meet somebody who is virgin, I actually have a lot of respect for them. I know it sounds easy to say. I was a virgin until I was 20 (well, technically I lost it when I was 17 with a guy on holiday but it was an awful, awful drunken decision which I have always regretted, so much so that I kept it a secret. I tell people I lost it when I was 20 because that was when it really meant something. But I'll tell the forum the truth!), and when I was 18/19 I often worried how people would view me for being a virgin, particularly when I started University and my new flatmates were talking about sex so I had to tell them I was a virgin. All too often people are saying "don't worry about it" and its not often a great deal of solace if you feel like everybody else is doing it.
But now I'm a little older I can see that its true.
Virgins are probably more concerned about their virginity than other people are.
As somebody who has had enough sex to be able to enjoy it (don't get me wrong, sex with somebody you love can be absolutely amazing) but its not EVERYTHING.
I haven't had sex in 2 years because there's really a LOT more to life.
And if I meet male virgins I instantly have more respect and like them a lot more because I know that they too have a life that's about other things.
Too many guys are just focussed on sex sex sex and I feel uneasy around guys like that.
Anybody can lose their virginity. Absolutely anyone. Even if they've never been in a relationship they could go and even pay to do it.
I know of guys who have been so desperate to lose their virginity that they've paid people to have sex with them. Then they've felt more accepted by society, and more macho, because they're not a virgin (they may not necessarily tell people how they lost it).
If I meet somebody who is virgin, I actually have a lot of respect for them. I know it sounds easy to say. I was a virgin until I was 20 (well, technically I lost it when I was 17 with a guy on holiday but it was an awful, awful drunken decision which I have always regretted, so much so that I kept it a secret. I tell people I lost it when I was 20 because that was when it really meant something. But I'll tell the forum the truth!), and when I was 18/19 I often worried how people would view me for being a virgin, particularly when I started University and my new flatmates were talking about sex so I had to tell them I was a virgin. All too often people are saying "don't worry about it" and its not often a great deal of solace if you feel like everybody else is doing it.
But now I'm a little older I can see that its true.
Virgins are probably more concerned about their virginity than other people are.
As somebody who has had enough sex to be able to enjoy it (don't get me wrong, sex with somebody you love can be absolutely amazing) but its not EVERYTHING.
I haven't had sex in 2 years because there's really a LOT more to life.
And if I meet male virgins I instantly have more respect and like them a lot more because I know that they too have a life that's about other things.
Too many guys are just focussed on sex sex sex and I feel uneasy around guys like that.