What do females think of male virgins?

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boro

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Quelqu'un said:
As a (female) virgin, I would much rather be with a guy that's a virgin than one who's been with many, or even a few girls (unless he was in monogamous, committed, long-term relationships).
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Thats exactly what the woman I lost my virginity to thought. It was quite a revelation after thinking that naturally any woman would find a mid 20s virgin repulsive. I was even considering lying, or more accurately just not bringing it up. Luckily i didnt have to.
 
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Kinetik

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I found this forum option in the user cp today. I do think I'm going to go ahead with the download and get my vcard back since being a virgin is apparently where it's at. :D
 
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Error

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mmmm said:
Wow. I'm the 13th poster so I find it a little surprising that I am only the second woman to reply to this thread.

To be blunt and possibly offend some people, I must confess that there is a type of male virgin I don't like and sadly, I have met more than a few so it's not like I'm stereotyping for the hell of it. There are those who think of their virginity as this huge massive gift that any woman should be swimming around in her own tears thanking him for. I have personally never been with this kind but I have been around a few of them in social situations and heard them talk about how giving it up for the right woman will solve all their problems and finally make them happy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting around for the right one, whether it takes 20, 40, 50 years but when the moment finally comes, don't treat her like she has this DUTY to realise what a sacrifice you are making for her. If it really is such a sacrifice to lose it, then maybe you would be happier if you keep it. If she really is the right one for you and she feels the same about you (whether she is a virgin or not) then surely the real gift is each other's company. You should be able to see each other as equals no matter who has what level of experience. Remember, she neither asked nor expected you to wait for her to come along and if she really is a worthwhile as you believe, the fact that you are a virgin (or not) will be no more than a little blip at the back of her mind compared with how cool she thinks your personality is. (This all probably applies to chick virgins too).

Right, that aside. It does not really matter to me whether a guy is a virgin or not. Most guys I know (including a few who have responded to these sorts of SPW threads) seem to think that practice makes perfect and the best way to please someone is to go in with a game plan. Not true at all (at least in my case). Whether I am with a virgin or not, I know more or less what I want and I am more than capable of asking for it. It's a cliche but what women really want is a man who will listen and respond to what they hear. This applies to all aspects, including the bedroom, in which case, a virgin should be just as capable as anyone else.
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This is the problem of the world. I agree with you: it should not be a "huge massive gift". Definitely. It just should be a normal thing. But it might just be me who is an old-fashioned virgin guy...

People should only have sex with the one they will be spending their lives with! The problem is that this society is corrupt! Girls should avoid the type of guy who screws around, but they love them instead. Then they complain they were played and mistreated. So sad... They also complain that guys can freely screw around and they are seen as being cool, and girls who screw around are called bitches. No wonder.

But I heard that guys on the other thread said they prefer non-virgin girls? Because they are not so clingy??? I don't get it, I surely don't! Oh god, the level of corruptness.

Before someone comments, I am not religious, and I am 29 years-old virgin male, and yes, and I probably always will be. I don't think I'm ugly or freaky, I just dislike everybody and everything. I am not desperate, and if I was, I would pay someone to loose my virginity, but I don't want to do that. But believe me, that option would be a lot cheaper, faster and to get a girls who slept with 20 guys or 200, should not be too much of a difference.

Resuming, I think both males and females should think poorly of their non-virgins partners!
 
Arthur_Dent

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I can imagine that many women will be understanding or even not care at all about a man's viginity 'till certain age. But I would like to know what they think about a guy who never had a date nor a kiss, and from what age that starts to seem weird.
 
LadyWench

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As a virgin myself, I may be a bit biased. However, I think male virgins are actually a good thing. It's so rare these days (compared to most of society, and that goes for both sexes), that it's something that should be respected.
 
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LadyWench said:
As a virgin myself, I may be a bit biased. However, I think male virgins are actually a good thing. It's so rare these days (compared to most of society, and that goes for both sexes), that it's something that should be respected.
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Very rare but its definitely not respected. I was watching this show on National Geographic called Strange Sex and it said that less than 3% of the population are male virgins over 25 years old. Way to go Natgeo making people feel like a carnival freak.
 
Mickery

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LadyWench said:
As a virgin myself, I may be a bit biased. However, I think male virgins are actually a good thing. It's so rare these days (compared to most of society, and that goes for both sexes), that it's something that should be respected.
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I find the opposite. I think it's ludicrous that the label is still so widely thought of. If you had never heard of the concept, would you be naturally inclined to divide people in that way? I doubt it. It's just another remnant of social conservatism from less sophisticated times that will naturally pass in due course.
 
Hellhound

Hellhound

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No biggie. Sex is not everything in a relationship, and there's more in a person than what they hide in their pants and what they did with it.

And honestly, I don't think that kind of thing is anyone's business.
 
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Rembrandt Broam

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popolala said:
Dont you think its weird if a girl prefers if her boyfriend slept around with other girls?
thats a weird girl there, who would want another woman to touch their man?
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I don't think it's that exactly. I think what is being suggested is that if a guy has reached a certain age and hasn't slept with a woman, then that might be viewed by some girls as strange, and cause them to wonder why the guy hasn't previously lost his virginity. It's not so much that being a virgin would be viewed as bad, but that it might raise questions in the girl's mind about there being something "wrong" with the guy.
 
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