What do females think of male virgins?

[A friend]

As for the whole what women think of male virgins thing, ultimately it depends upon the individual. Can also possibly depend upon the age of the virgin in question.

I myself am now nearing 30. In about 8-9 months. I still haven't managed to sleep with anybody, but that isn't the biggest problem, as I'm still searching for my first girlfriend.

Actually, I believe that being nearly 30 and never being in a relationship is an even bigger turn off to women, as opposed to being a virgin. However, if you're almost 30 and never had a girlfriend AND you're still a virgin, like I am, most women will avoid you like the plague.

I want to make one thing clear to you:

If you have never had a girlfriend/wife once in your life, then you obviously are going to recieve something better (I know you deserve better, that's for sure).

If you're going to be single forever, than it's entirely possible that there's something better in life and it's waiting for you.

Don't feel bad about yourself because you haven't had sex before, if people avoid you like the plague because you're not some perverted sex maniac, then I say they can go *$#@ themselves until their ugly heads explode.

If you're going to be a single virgin forever, than I think (I don't know if this is true or not) you deserve better than every female human being.

Don't think of yourself as a bad person/loser, the ones who reject you are the losers here in life. Good people who are single and never had one girlfriend deserve better than love/sex.

There is something greater in life than romantic love/sex, trust me, there is. And one day, you will find it, and you will think that sex is a joke.

 

[Error]

I'm 28 and I also never had a girlfriend. Worst yet, I also never kissed.

But I'm not too worried. In fact I don't think I am lesser than most guys. And also, I believe that 99.99% of the female population is "undatable" - that is, I would not date them even if they begged me. Even if you select girls who are from 18 to 30 years old, 98% are undatable.

I have a lot of fun on my own (no, not only watching porn, but reading, watching movies, playing games, etc... I am never bored - in fact, I don't have time to do everything I want).

 

[Kinetik]

I think some of you dudes need to watch out with your overly harsh criticisms relating to women, because that's the sort of attitude that really does leave you high and dry in all areas of life.

Don't get me wrong, I'm the first to admit that women are insane, but I think that has its own charm. In any case, it can't be that you go through life believing you are destined for some sort of greatness simply because you can't pick up women. All we're guaranteed is the current moment, and I suggest you try and take advantage of it, as difficult as that is.

But honestly, saying things like 99% of women are un-dateable... what? Have you even met any of these women? Do you know what it's like to feel that click, that warmth in your heart when you properly connect with a woman? Don't you wonder if perhaps it's your life lesson to be able to access their world which seems completely impenetrable to you right now?

In short, don't let bitterness rule you. You may not like the game of life, but you still have to play ball.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I think some of you dudes need to watch out with your overly harsh criticisms relating to women, because that's the sort of attitude that really does leave you high and dry in all areas of life.

Don't get me wrong, I'm the first to admit that women are insane, but I think that has its own charm. In any case, it can't be that you go through life believing you are destined for some sort of greatness simply because you can't pick up women. All we're guaranteed is the current moment, and I suggest you try and take advantage of it, as difficult as that is.

But honestly, saying things like 99% of women are un-dateable... what? Have you even met any of these women? Do you know what it's like to feel that click, that warmth in your heart when you properly connect with a woman? Don't you wonder if perhaps it's your life lesson to be able to access their world which seems completely impenetrable to you right now?

In short, don't let bitterness rule you. You may not like the game of life, but you still have to play ball.

Excellent post.

 

[Error]

I think some of you dudes need to watch out with your overly harsh criticisms relating to women, because that's the sort of attitude that really does leave you high and dry in all areas of life.

Don't get me wrong, I'm the first to admit that women are insane, but I think that has its own charm. In any case, it can't be that you go through life believing you are destined for some sort of greatness simply because you can't pick up women. All we're guaranteed is the current moment, and I suggest you try and take advantage of it, as difficult as that is.

But honestly, saying things like 99% of women are un-dateable... what? Have you even met any of these women? Do you know what it's like to feel that click, that warmth in your heart when you properly connect with a woman? Don't you wonder if perhaps it's your life lesson to be able to access their world which seems completely impenetrable to you right now?

In short, don't let bitterness rule you. You may not like the game of life, but you still have to play ball.

It's not bitterness. People are ugly inside. Males too! I just can't relate to this kind of world and society. Ethics are all messed up. That's my opinion though. But it's not bitterness!

 

[Beatrice]

I agree with this, they probably won't notice. I suspect most men are rubbish at it no matter how "experienced" they claim to be. It's like football, all guys grow up in school playing it but the majority just never get very good no matter how much they play. Infact a large amount play every day and still can't trap it to save their life. I'm not saying if you are good at football you will be good at sex, what i'm saying is..... I can't remember what my point was.

This post made me laugh

 

[thegunners21]

Saying that 99% of girls are undatable is a pretty big accusation. My guess is you have had bad encounters with females and i am pretty sure you have met about 0.00000001% of female population.

You need to lower your standards. No woman is perfect and searching for one is foolish.

 

[Kinetik]

It's not bitterness. People are ugly inside. Males too! I just can't relate to this kind of world and society. Ethics are all messed up. That's my opinion though. But it's not bitterness!

I'm just saying keep trying and choose positivity if you can. I think it's a real shame if someone resigns themselves to a life of solitude when it's clear that they want something more for themselves. If it's your real and honest choice, fair enough, but you owe it to yourself to do your best in the outside world if you have even the slightest urge to meet someone.

 

[Beatrice]

Saying that 99% of girls are undatable is a pretty big accusation. My guess is you have had bad encounters with females and i am pretty sure you have met about 0.00000001% of female population.

You need to lower your standards. No woman is perfect and searching for one is foolish.

Agreed.

Though, I will say that American women, as a group, seem to be a lot more... I don't know, what's the word? They can just so often be immature and selfish, not to mention loose morally. I mean, sure everyone can, that's human nature. But because of our culture, I think we American females have been brought up believing damaging things about men and relationships.

Just my two cents.

 

[Waybuloo]

It's not bitterness. People are ugly inside. Males too! I just can't relate to this kind of world and society. Ethics are all messed up. That's my opinion though. But it's not bitterness!

I do believe that most people are selfish and self serving. There are a few who aren't and the struggle is in finding one of the few who will click with you and who also loves you for who you are. I just want to say that I feel the same as you do and you are probably not alone in that thinking. I believe most of it is down to breakdown of familal and communal values, Capitalism and greed, and too many people.

 

[Waybuloo]

Although I hate the term 'damaged goods', sadly I do have to agree with you. I'm only 3 years away from officially being 'damaged goods' and its definitely not natural. ::

Actually, without wanting to offend anyone who has been around the block, I tend to think of somebody who's had multiple partners as damaged goods, rather than a virgin. A virgin technically hasn't been damaged, if you think about it. The statistics for STDs are pretty high as well.

 

[Error]

I'm just saying keep trying and choose positivity if you can. I think it's a real shame if someone resigns themselves to a life of solitude when it's clear that they want something more for themselves. If it's your real and honest choice, fair enough, but you owe it to yourself to do your best in the outside world if you have even the slightest urge to meet someone.

Yeah, that's true. I want a girlfriend. I dream about this. I want one! I admit, no use lying about this.

But not to the point that any girl will do.

Yes, my standards might be too high, but believe me, I don't need girls with big breast or nice asses! I don't see a girl as a toy. I don't want a girl just to have sex. Ok, a pretty face will help, but generally, the problem are certain behaviors...

Since I finished school, I haven't met any girls. But I had a few pretty nice female friends. And I respect girls. I hate guys who disrespect girls.

All this to say: SingleAloneForever, don't worry about never having had a girlfriend. It's not the end of the world. If they avoid you because of that, they belong to the 99% group in my standards. That's all.

 

[Error]

I do believe that most people are selfish and self serving. There are a few who aren't and the struggle is in finding one of the few who will click with you and who also loves you for who you are. I just want to say that I feel the same as you do and you are probably not alone in that thinking. I believe most of it is down to breakdown of familal and communal values, Capitalism and greed, and too many people.

She understands me.

When I criticize girls, I am not saying that boys are any better. In fact I may be undatable too. I'm ugly inside. I say mean things all the time. I am full of hate about the world and people. I blame my parents for bringing me to this world. But I know my parents are extremely good people. I know some people are extremely good. Not like me, who only says bad things but does nothing good. I hate being like this. I want to be different but I can't.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I do believe that most people are selfish and self serving. There are a few who aren't and the struggle is in finding one of the few who will click with you and who also loves you for who you are. I just want to say that I feel the same as you do and you are probably not alone in that thinking. I believe most of it is down to breakdown of familal and communal values, Capitalism and greed, and too many people.

Defining selfishness when it comes to people is tricky. Every organism on earth is essentially trying to get what they want for themselves--evolution wouldn't allow an organism that gives more than it takes to survive.

I am a selfish creature. Everything I do is to please myself. However, often my needs and desires often coincide with those of others. An example would be that it makes me feel good if I can help someone who's a friend. I do it because it pleases me--it's still for me, but it doesn't take away from someone else.

 

[Beatrice]

Defining selfishness when it comes to people is tricky. Every organism on earth is essentially trying to get what they want for themselves--evolution wouldn't allow an organism that gives more than it takes to survive.

I am a selfish creature. Everything I do is to please myself. However, often my needs and desires often coincide with those of others. An example would be that it makes me feel good if I can help someone who's a friend. I do it because it pleases me--it's still for me, but it doesn't take away from someone else.

Good point Nate, good point.

I used to be of the opinion that many others hold: that humans are oh so selfish. But really.... aren't all animals? Of course! That's the nature of a living organism, looking out for itself and its best interests. How else can you survive as an organism?

I mean, I DO think there is a point when it crosses the line. There are some people who are SO self-absorbed that everything is about them, their needs are the most important at all times, etc.

But really, you can't expect people to be altruistic all the time either. It's just not realistic. Like it or not, it's how it is. A person complaining about this probably doesn't realize he or she is often the same way because that is human nature!

Also, I AM of the opinion that there are certain groups/types of people that are more selfish than others. America is one of them IMO. We are very selfish. Not that there aren't many great Americans, I'm not saying that at all, but as a whole people, I think we are rather greedy and self-important.

Hmm, going off topic now, sorry.

 

[Mickery]

The more you categorize the opposite sex, the less relevant the categories become.