No strip club. High school & college, as well as hiking trails and other exterior environments.
Well, this sounds totally out of the ordinary situation indeed.. I've never encountered it before either.. Was this a 'normal' high school or, sorry to ask, 'special needs' people or something like that? (some of those can be pretty blunt, though usually more well-meaning than this, most people with special needs are quite adorable!)
Or was it a 'popular crowd' making fun of 'less experienced than they were'? Maybe one or a few of those girls had a crush on you? Or thought you or your mates were being arrogant for not wanting them? (And attacked because felt rejected etc. because none of you guys hit on them and it made them feel unattractive/bored?)
Some promiscuous people can feel 'threatened' or 'attacked' as if people less promiscuous could make them feel bad about themselves etc. Some more 'righteous' people (like my dad or some very religious people) can call the more promiscuous people 'slutty' (though it may not be the truth), some people can feel 'attacked'.. Not sure if you know what I mean?
They think we're something infinitly more evil than satan, and that we're the key to something that's so bad that they'd regret the day that they were born. That's how most of them acted towards me and my friends when we told them that we were virgins, despite the fact that we had no romantic or sexual interest in them whatsoever. The stupid part that I was 17 when I experienced that extreme ridicule from telling the girls that I was a virgin. I wasn't even a legal adult!!
I've never encountered such a situation either, where girls would be just randomly asking people this-? Of course you always have the right to not answer too - like just say, 'Top secret'. Or something like that?
Or even, if you're mean, 'That's for me to know and for you to never to find out.' (though this could make'em meaner too, hehe.. or just get 'em to back off?)
Were the girls 17 too, or older? Very attractive and 'popular' crowd, or just girls in your clique or something? If you look at the reasons behind it, it could be several different reasons..
One of the reasons why I thought that I was going to be single forever was the fact that almost every girl and woman I spoke to absolutely loathed virgins. I could have just been sitting and reading something on a computer, and have a girl walking by, and asking me if I was a virgin. Once I said yes, that individual would be looking at me as if she wanted to break me head off of my body.
How many girls were that? 1-3, 5, 20? 30+ or 100? Did they know each other? (Could it be they knew it was a 'sensitive point' for you and it was just plain 'bullying'? (They couldn't find anything else so they got hung on that?)
The majority of the female gender hating virgins...
Sorry but I have to disagree with that. I've never spoken to anyone who'd say she hated virgins. And I know a lot of girls.
But maybe it's different if you're 17, on certain schools.. Is this a 4-year or 3-year program, more 'low income' kids that would soon end up knocked up single mums on the streets or kids going off to study and have careers etc? I'm just flabbergasted, is all..
That's just something that makes me want to vomit. That's the kind of attitude I read about on how the soldiers in the korean war treated their prisoners.
Well, if that's how you've been treated by women/girls, no wonder you have a bad opinion of this and yourself.. Please know there are MANY girls out there, who are NOT like that!!
Whenever I think about this, I'm just amazed.
Yup, me too. It's sounds just plain 'bullying' (?)
What did we ever do to them?! Just because we're virgins automatically means that we're the single greatest threat to them in the universe?
As said above, maybe they thought you were of the proud Christian variety who wanted everyone to be Christian and 'pure' too, and they felt threatened.. Or had bad experience with other Christian people (like church leaders or youth leaders or kids..) Were they religious or not? Anti-religion/atheist/wicca/'all goes' liberal or...?
Yup, political views and worldviews may make a difference too..
That is just...I can't even find a word in any language to describe it.
Oh yes, and the worst part? They treated virgins of their own gender the same way! >:O
Why do they do this?!
Sounds like at least one or a few of them may have even been abused as a kid, and may have gotten a very weird view of life, love & sexuality etc. We live in a very 'over-sexed' society, so many TV shows, videos, etc just 'pushing' young people into things too soon, when they are not even emotionally ready... making them think it's the normal way to be... (?) Things can get distorted.. Why do people bully? To make themselves feel less bad, to impress friends/clique/people of a perceived 'higher status' (own or another clique).. Some may have extreme low self-esteem or 'overblown self-esteem', too spoilt as a kid, odd parents who didn't teach'em right when they were little...? Lots of options.. Difficult to say though the computer, it seems that their behavior says more about them than about you or any other guy.
And I hate to think what a partner or husband of one of those girls must be going through?? uhh..??
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