Sexually Frustrated!

[cowboyup]

I'm a girl and I do get frustrated.
'self satisfaction' is a healthy thing.

*side note: I got caught up in the bdsm (not just s & m)scene big time quite a few years back and ended up going to therapy. Role play is good, if you have a partner, to keep things alive, etc. but I (and ppl around me) took it too far.

Reason I confess this is that if you engage in some kind of self-satisfaction, it might help 'curb' the appetite - at least to a degree. I know it is not the same as actual human/human contact, but to a point, it does ease the tension temporarily. Look around the internet (carefully) and there are some toys for men out there.

Hope this helps somewhat :thumbup:

 

[jaim38]

I'm a girl and I do have sexual needs during certain times of the month. I attribute this to the hormonal changes caused by my monthly menstrual cycle, which sometimes puts me out of whack. So, having sexual needs is really a biological thing that is programmed into us.

I satisfy my sexual needs with daydreams. I know people will tell me that I'm living in my head and that I need to get into a real relationship. But let me say this: getting romantically involved at this point is very risky. I am immature, naive, haven't really grown up yet. I don't want to get into a relationship at this time. I also don't want friends with benefits or have sex with random strangers. Sex is risky - it can lead to pregnancy, STDs, HIV, and have emotional repercussions. Even with condoms, protection is not 100% guaranteed. Think about the consequences.

I have come to accept myself for who I am: a human being with sexual needs. I used to deny this and beat myself everytime I have such “improper” desires. But, sometimes I find myself obsessed with sex. There would be days where the word “sex” repeats itself over and over again in my head. The more I try to stop it, the more it repeats itself. Doing yoga and meditation help alleviate this to a certain degree. But if I see a movie or tv show with sex in it, I can’t get the scene out of my head and it triggers my sexual desires. Even sexual songs and lyrics can make me have unwanted thoughts and feelings. Sex has become so ingrained in our culture that I wish the media would stop obsessing over sex.

 

[Section_31]

Im in this same boat. Its part of what triggered my porn addiction that ive only recently been able to overcome.

Everyone has it. If they dont theyre lying. Its a simple biological fact. Its not good or bad. it just IS. its a part of you. That said, taking care of said need certainly has positive health effects. But like anything, too much can be a bad thing. Moderation and balance is the key.

That said im the first to acknowledge how bloody difficult it can be. My porn and masterbation addiction was bad to the point where it started to affect my professional life. I literally could not concentrate on anything, it would invade my thoughts untill i did it. Its taken me a year but i can finally go days being normal and not having to do it 5 or 6 bloody times a day. And its made me feel like much less of a slave to myself.

That said i still enjoy it from time to time but it has its place and is no longer in control.

 

[Hellhound]

I don't get sexually frustrated in that sense. I am however extremely frustrated with the oversexualisation of culture. Media has become more and more suggestive to the point where sex pervades nearly every corner of society. It's inescapable. If anything this has transformed me into the genderless asexual weirdo I am today.

Story of my life.

 

[miserablecow]

When I was taking citalopram, it affected my libido a lot for the first month. But then went back to normal and was glad. I think it is something to think about then you take meds, as it seems a lot of meds we take effect our libidos, for some it goes back to normal.

 

[skins]

social sex party it is then....although we will need to be separated to 2 groups...those taking SSRI's and those who arn't. The SSRI's can be allowed more time to get sexcitied:sarcastic:

 

[Kiwong]

Sex is like an itch in need of scratching. When desire and arousal rears its ugly head I say OK if I scratch it know will you go away, and let me get onto more productive things?

 

[psych]

Count me in for the frustrated females... Over two years now.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

It's been too long. I've lost hope.

 

[coyote]

i just had sex ten minutes ago, only the second time this week :sad:

 

[tonicobastos]

i just had sex ten minutes ago, only the second time this week :sad:

Are you poking fun at us or something?
I don't want to sound aggressive but sexual frustration is no laughing matter.:sad:

 

[Klonoa]

Freud was right. 'Nuff said.

... Okay so there's more to say.

I, personally, feel like this daily, but also frustrated on an emotional level. I don't want just sex, but hold that person afterwards...


;_; Klonoa am lonely.

 

[Silatuyok]

Of course women get sexually frustrated: all animals do. Just ask the cat who has been waving her vagina in my face for the past three days, howling. It's not a pleasant sensation for anyone.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Of course women get sexually frustrated: all animals do. Just ask the cat who has been waving her vagina is my face for the past three days, howling. It's not a pleasant sensation for anyone.

:lol:

And yeah, there's been a cat howling outside my house. Obviously in heat, obviously talking to my boy-cats. Both of whom are neutered.

Poor girl. h:

 

[nerdygeek]

It's amazing the resposes that you get when you put "sex" in the title! Anyway, I can definetly relate. There are ways of dealing with it. Masturbation is on top of the list. (actually, that IS the list) I haven't found anyone out there that is worth having sex with. Of course sex is supposed to be a sacred thing, but then again, this is 2013. The way I figured one of two things will happen eventually. 1. I'll find that special someone before I before I get to 80, or 2. I'll go out with my **** in my hand. I guess either way, I'll be happy.

 

[Metal_isthe_Answer]

Do people who grew up in liberal households also feel this way?

They do, a religious upbringing might cause someone to think that god is watching them or that they are doing something morally wrong, someone in a liberal household could have more of a feeling of inadequacy or an inferiority complex

 

[Dennis1980]

Tell me about it.
30+ year old virgin here. I didn't get my first kiss until 25, and that was also the last time I was kissed.
I don't think any woman will ever find me attractive. Other than prostitution, I don't see a way out. And I don't really want to do that. At least not now. Maybe later when I am more desperate.

Damn. I hate being sexually frustrated.

 

[wanderingstar]

Yeah, I feel like a cat in heat.

I don't believe in casual sex and doubt I could handle it if I did try and I have not found "the one" or anyone I can project my idealizations onto (and I am not in a mental space to try), so masturbation and erotica (and okay, porn) it is.

Sigh...

 

[itisgoingtobefine]

I grew up in an Evangelical Christian household and I have always felt bad about masturbation until now. I don't think most Christians understand what God is really saying about 'Lust'. They seem to think that if you merely think about a woman in sexual way your lusting. But I think Lusting is the desire to obtain something no matter and however you can get it. Most of the women I pops into my head during my sexual moments I don't want in my life. What I mean is they merely pop into my head because they are sexually 'attractive', not because they are kind relationship compatible people. I have learned that my body just merely wants sexual release. It's a very normal biological function.

 

[InvisaLady]

:lol:

And yeah, there's been a cat howling outside my house. Obviously in heat, obviously talking to my boy-cats. Both of whom are neutered.

Poor girl. h:

Ugh, I feel her pain.