This meme is how I feel about our two main parties too (Labor and Liberal) but thankfully the Greens seem to be starting to become more popular here so perhaps the two party system is on its way out. But my intention was not to get you talking politics, nor was I trying to call you entitled. Just sharing the post that came to my head when I read your post.
Because they absolutely cannot be in the same place at the same time with my mother. I know she can be overbearing, being a completely talkative extrovert (something I definitely didn't inherit!), but I do get tired of the waits or no-shows because of this. 
Sounds like a good day out. Hope you have an awesome day mate!I'm driving up to Williamsburg tomorrow.
My cousin and I are going to hit the outlets and cruise down memory lane. He grew-up in the Newport News/Hampton area and we're gonna go over there as well. I have so many great memories of that place.
Outlets, historic Williamsburg, cherished memories... but the main thing...
we're hitting a little spot called HOT DOG KING.
Just hoping I sleep well, it would suck to go up there tomorrow dead-tired and super anxious.
Sounds like an awesome trip! I went to VA Beach and Norfolk 1 1/2 years ago with the hubs for our honeymoon. (We also hit up DC for a day as well during that whole trip) I had never been down that way before and I had a blast! Had a lot of fun checking out the sights even in the middle of February -- did a whale watching cruise, checked out the aquarium, zoo, and a couple art museums, and we even got our nature fix walking the beaches, doing some bird watching, dolphin watching, and even got to do some walking at False Cape. I would love to go back to VA someday. It's such a fun state!I'm driving up to Williamsburg tomorrow.
My cousin and I are going to hit the outlets and cruise down memory lane. He grew-up in the Newport News/Hampton area and we're gonna go over there as well. I have so many great memories of that place.
Outlets, historic Williamsburg, cherished memories... but the main thing...
we're hitting a little spot called HOT DOG KING.
Just hoping I sleep well, it would suck to go up there tomorrow dead-tired and super anxious.
Often you don't have to get involved or interfere. People will hang themselves if you give them enough time.
So true! I kept telling myself not to stoop to her level when she would try to blame me for her mistakes. Looks like it paid off.
My lovely day didn't stop there. Sure enough, as soon as I came home from work that, the oldest (she's a 35 lb. beagle at nearly 15 years old to put in perspective) went after our GSD (literally three times her size, 13 months) AGAIN and of course nearly got herself killed. So, so, so freaking scary! We took her into the emergency vet an hour away and spent nearly the whole night there. I told him he should just let her go, but of course we're not doing that.Having a really fucking terrible day. Started first thing this morning with both the dogs getting in a huge fight. Our oldest has really declined this year cognitively. Three times already this year she's snapped at me out of the blue. (She's had other symptoms but won't get into it now -- basically I think it's almost time for her to go but husband won't let her go which is sad) Over the summer she went after our GSD and she didn't back down. That was horrible to break up and I prayed it wouldn't happen again. Well it did today right as I was about to leave for work. Good thing it happened in the kitchen because I broke it up spraying cold water from the kitchen sink. Got myself and the floor soaked but no one hurt thankfully. Made me late to work though. Thankfully my job is understanding. But it left me so rattled though I've been "off" all day, and sure enough caused an injury to my hand this afternoon at work. Burned myself and was sent to the er as a precaution. Hurts like a bitch and have to stay bandaged up for the next couple days. No production at work for me but I have training courses still to do, so I'll still get to go to work and be paid. I'm just so freaking pissed off over everything though.
Wound up paying out the ass to have her treated with pain meds, antibiotics, and 10 stitches, leaving the other puncture wounds open as they didn't look too concerning that they'd get infected or wouldn't heal on their own. She looks like a mess and now we've had to arrange the whole living situation. I am 100% backing out of her care. I do not trust her at all after this whole situation. She's my husband's dog, she's never reacted negatively towards him or even shown her episodes around him, his responsibility. I know I sound like a dick saying that, but I'm not getting in harm's way and I'm not letting her risk harming others or herself picking the wrong fights. My husband will now be keeping her in the basement while we're at work, take her out to do her business alone when he's home, and then taking her to bed once our GSD is in her bed and crated. I'll feed her, and give her pills, but that's about it. Everything else is 100% him. Even taking her to appointments. I'm not risking getting bit lifting her in and out of the car. I'm also not risking getting bit changing any dressings.
I'm also afraid all the work I put into our GSD will be erased after these incidents. She's not an aggressive dog by any means, I raised her to love other animals, children, and other people (despite her being guarded around certain men -- still working on that), from the week I got her I sent her to daycare, purposely chose a pet sitter with other animals and children, and took her to the park for socialization, just so she was raised to be a great dog who wasn't fearful, but I'm so scared of her getting that aggressive label now and actually becoming that way. I'm going to work with her this weekend again, since I had to put an end to a lot of it this summer thanks to covid. Just sit at the park at a distance and watch her reactions to others and other dogs. I'll plan to do this for a while I think, even with winter coming and as long as covid restrictions stay as they are or better. Again, I'm just so scared of this incident having a large impact on her overall behavior and training now.
My lovely day didn't stop there. Sure enough, as soon as I came home from work that, the oldest (she's a 35 lb. beagle at nearly 15 years old to put in perspective) went after our GSD (literally three times her size, 13 months) AGAIN and of course nearly got herself killed. So, so, so freaking scary! We took her into the emergency vet an hour away and spent nearly the whole night there. I told him he should just let her go, but of course we're not doing that.
The most frustrating thing about this is the fact that 2 years ago I saw the signs of her cognitive function declining -- alzheimers, dementia, whatever you want to call it since I don't even have an official diagnosis -- and no one wanted to listen to me. Some days I caught her staring into space or standing in front of cupboards and staring at them. It was only every once in a great while, not an everyday occurrence. On top of that, at least once a month she'd pee in the house. Actually for a long time I didn't see any signs at all. I still brought it up with the vet we were seeing at the time and they didn't have any answers for me. They thought it was just her old age and she didn't really have dementia or anything since it wasn't continuous. Well, now that we've had a new vet the past year, I brought it up to them last fall when she was in that she seems confused some days, hoping maybe these people would listen. Nope. Didn't know why she licks her bed constantly, wanders around at night, but still manages to keep a schedule okay for the most part. She wasn't getting caught in tight spaces or doorways, so nothing apparently was wrong.
Now this year she's been acting out in aggression and wandering around at night and doing weird stuff and then this happens. Does someone want to listen now?????
Ugh, what a very long, very scary day that I never want to relive ever again. In better news, today is Thursday which means the week is almost over and I am so looking forward to it. Get paid Friday, will do holiday shopping (online) this weekend, and hopefully just keep to myself the whole weekend. My hand is healing pretty quickly and won't need a wad of gauze wrapped around it today so I can function better again and actually type all this.
We did talk about this. Ideally, I would want that for her, but unfortunately there's no one we know that would be willing or able to take her. Between other pets and children, that rules out his siblings and my parents. (She used to love children too and now she doesn't like them at all, sadly.) His parents don't like animals in the house long-term either so that also rules them out. No close friends nearby to help either. To add to that, even if she did end up somewhere else that could care for her in the best way she needs, her health would probably deteriorate worse than it is now. When we've had her dropped off at his parents to care for her a night or two while my husband and I had to be away somewhere in the past, she never ate the whole time she was there. She's so attached to my husband, she definitely has separation anxiety which only adds to all her issues. It's just a really hard situation all around, always has been with her. I feel at a complete loss of what to even do anymore. Been treating her for the last handful of years now for her numerous ailments with zero improvement of quality of life other than seemingly just making her comfortable. I want to be done with it -- actually, I am done with it. I just wish my husband was done too.
