How was your first sexual experience?

[sucettes]

Ehmm, why is your display name "sucettes"? Hehe

HAHAHAH! very funny!

It's from a French song called 'Les Sucettes'.

 

[JonnyD]

slut?? quite the contrary you've just became a hero for all men

actually i have a question, i find the idea of having relations with more then one partner at the same time, a double edged knife, i find it very very speaking excitingstricly sexually, but i also find it hard to bear if i was with a girlfriend or someone who really meant something to me i would feel like that person would both make me feel bad and threaten me.

Also what to do with the love factor, so many people say they only have sex with people they love, what if a person who said that to you would participate in a menage?

I have one month of pay left before I have to move out of my nice flat into... One room. Social security is only paying for one stupid room now

wait , a flat , social security helps you that much out there? god save the queen!

 

[sucettes]

Too much sausage involved to be my hero, i like tales of spontaneous lesbianism.

Aye, who doesn't.

slut?? quite the contrary you've just became a hero for all men

actually i have a question, i find the idea of having relations with more then one partner at the same time, a double edged knife, i find it very very speaking excitingstricly sexually, but i also find it hard to bear if i was with a girlfriend or someone who really meant something to me i would feel like that person would both make me feel bad and threaten me.

Also what to do with the love factor, so many people say they only have sex with people they love, what if a person who said that to you would participate in a menage?

I'm not quite sure if I understood your question right but I'll try to reply as good as I can anyway. The threesome, it wasn't anything special. I'm not one of those girls who's all about making the first time special. I just wanted to have sex, you know? So it was just a thing we did for fun. I have social phobia and of course pretty much everyone will be nervous the first time. But the drink made me relax and I've always felt pretty comfortable in that 'area' anyway. It was only for fun and pleasure, it wasn't any romance involved. Now, that I have a boyfriend I'd never do anything like that. And I wouldn't want to, or to share him with anyone either. That one time was just a one off, if I was single though I'd probably do it again. I know most people say that it's best with someone you love and that's true. But it can still be great. I don't want to talk too much about this, it's quite embarrassing, especially because everyone on the site will read this now, lol . And why would your girlfriend / or someone you really cared about make you feel bad or threaten you? if the person loves you that shouldn't be an issue.

 

[vexatiousmind]

ok I have been reading this, and some people have been saying that they don't find " sex parts" attractive.

I do not agree with this at all. I admit there are some people who do not have attractive parts, but for the most part they all look good.

I just don't get how people can think so badly of such beautiful things.

 

[coyote]

I just don't get how people can think so badly of such beautiful things.

my sentiments, exactly

 

[sucettes]

ok I have been reading this, and some people have been saying that they don't find " sex parts" attractive.

I do not agree with this at all. I admit there are some people who do not have attractive parts, but for the most part they all look good.

I just don't get how people can think so badly of such beautiful things.

I agree with you. It's just natural parts of the body. I don't think they are disgusting to look at or anything. Actually, I enjoy looking at them lol :: And I thought most people did.

 

[vj288]

ok I have been reading this, and some people have been saying that they don't find " sex parts" attractive.

I do not agree with this at all. I admit there are some people who do not have attractive parts, but for the most part they all look good.

I just don't get how people can think so badly of such beautiful things.

I always say beauty is in through the eye of the beholder, but that's not really what you're getting at I don't think.

I believe why some people don't find the "fun parts" attractive is has a lot to do with how they were raised or how they learned about them. If you're encouraged to explore sexuality and embrace it odds are they'll find the parts attractive. Everyone isn't like this though, I tend to think of the Elliot Reed character from "Scrubs" as the opposite of this, and all her made-up words for the different parts. That may be more out of discomfort then unattractiveness though. I think of a handful of reasons why people may not find them attractive though.

The first and simplest one is they just don't, like I don't like feet. Feet just aren't my thing, I don't like the way they look, nothing more than that. I bet it's a little more than that for most people.

If you think about how we see them on a daily basis on other people, it sort of makes them seem like they're not supposed to be seen. We wear clothes to cover them up so no one else can see. We sensor them in all the media. Subconsciously (or consciously) you could come to the conclusion this is because they're ugly and unattractive, and are hidden because of this.

 

[coyote]

...If you think about how we see them on a daily basis on other people, it sort of makes them seem like they're not supposed to be seen. We wear clothes to cover them up so no one else can see. We sensor them in all the media. Subconsciously (or consciously) you could come to the conclusion this is because they're ugly and unattractive, and are hidden because of this....

yeah, i've never been able to understand that

for what it's worth, i've been told that my parts are magnificent

it seems such a pity to hide them all the time

 

[BlaiseBLATES]

Mine was okay but I wouldn't say it was the best experience of my life.
I could never ever regret it because the guy was my first love, it happened when we were both ready and such. But I was only 13 and now me and the guy don't talk at all.
It wasn't scary or anything though... Just very natural, unplanned, yet we both knew what the other wanted and comfortable.

 

[EvilFlyingCow]

My very first experience wasn't that great cos neither of us knew how it worked... took us like an hour to get that thing in there... but then things were all good!

 

[Aussie_Lad]

I think as part of the whole body, then yes there is nothing wrong with looking and appreciating the sex organs. The problem comes when you look and endless close-ups and headless shots of people in the buff, but in particular men. As part of a the full body experience, then yes I can appreciate both men and women, but there is nothing more unattractive than people thinking that a close-up shot of their part will send other people into a raging orgasm.

 

[vexatiousmind]

I think as part of the whole body, then yes there is nothing wrong with looking and appreciating the sex organs. The problem comes when you look and endless close-ups and headless shots of people in the buff, but in particular men. As part of a the full body experience, then yes I can appreciate both men and women, but there is nothing more unattractive than people thinking that a close-up shot of their part will send other people into a raging orgasm.

haha yeah. Didn't mean that. I just don't get how people can have sex if they are repulsed by sex organs.

 

[Pookah]

none of the people who had sexual experiences had any body image issues?

I pretty much never want to be naked, ever, in front of someone else.

 

[Aussie_Lad]

^^ Really? I think it is an important part of intimacy to have no inhibitions when it comes to being in a sexual relationship with someone. When you are naked in front of someone, you are putting total trust in them to love you for who you are in your entirety, and that is something very special.

 

[BlueDays]

My first sexual experience was.....meh.
It hurt like crazy. I think it depends a lot on the person you are with. I've only been with one guy and most of the experiences were just meh.
I hope I eventually get to be with another guy to see if sex is very overrated, or I was just with a "meh" type of guy.

 

[iamthenra]

I pretty much never want to be naked, ever, in front of someone else.

OMG, I can relate to this completely... The few times I have had to do this for medical tests and what not, I am sure I had a panic attack at the urology clinic.... The nurse, and only female to have ever seen me naked, had to put lidocaine in the urethra... Needless to say I was 5 shades of red, and just about in tears... Embarrassed and humiliated beyond words. I wanted to die right there... It was terrifying for me. I'll never forget it any time soon...::

 

[MagicPotion]

^This is worse:

In fact really fat blokes getting anything out isn't exactly a turn on.

I guess if you don't find somebody's face, body etc. attractive you're unlikely to find their naughty bits attractive either.

I don't find them unattractive at all btw, at least I didn't until my brother asked me to google-image a certain phrase involving waffles. If you know what I mean, you've probably been traumatised by it too

 

[mismeek]

So last night I had my first sexual experience and to be honest it was one of the worse, if not the worse experience I ever had in my life. i don't want to go in details for obvious reasons but all I can say is that Porn lied to me ( lol), I couldn't sleep well last night because I was so, and still am traumatised. I don't want anything to do with something sexual for a very very very long time. Intimacy with someone is simply not for me

Mine was very traumatic also.. if you want to talk you can message me

 

[Helmaninquiel]

How was my first sexual experience... Oh wait I haven't experienced that yet and it's looking like I never will. lol

 

[Helmaninquiel]

So last night I had my first sexual experience and to be honest it was one of the worse, if not the worse experience I ever had in my life. i don't want to go in details for obvious reasons but all I can say is that Porn lied to me ( lol), I couldn't sleep well last night because I was so, and still am traumatised. I don't want anything to do with something sexual for a very very very long time. Intimacy with someone is simply not for me

Wow, was it that scary? Now I'm alittle afraid.. Did it hurt or just embarrassing or something?