Um, not to get off topic, but I learned most, if not all, of my moves from porn. And I'm pretty sure most of the women I've been with weren't "unfamiliar" with porn moves either. It's not just about showing naughty bits on camera; a lot of those positions increase pleasure and stimulation for both people. Anyone who's ever read an issue of Cosmopolitan (a magazine for women BY women) knows this is true.
Also, I don't see why anyone would ever feel sorry for porn actresses. They're doing what they're doing out of their own free will and are most likely getting paid extremely well for it. They're not sex slaves nor victims of human trafficking; they're not people from third world countries working for literally pennies an hour making our random junk just to feed their families; and they're not livestock. I mean seriously, we raise animals specifically to kill and eat, so feel sorry for those mofos. haha. Porn actresses on the other hand most definitely have all sorts of choices.
And da_illest: I'm glad you're feeling better.
I think it's pretty common to be traumatized (for both men and women) after your first sexual experience when it's with some random hookup. Like was said many times already, you just have to find someone you really care about and really trust, and whom you can communicate with openly, and things will probably be amazing. Some people just can't handle random hookups (I'm one of them), and there's nothing wrong with that.
