How was your first sexual experience?

[panicsurvivor]

I really think personally porn is not good, not b/c I am religious or anything like that but it makes your mind go numb and you get dumb and over-stimulated at the same time. Nobody looks or acts like that in RL they(porn stars) are all so plastic Fake everything and drugged-up and mechanical and it's degrading to woman, so you won't view woman the same anymore, and it's not natural any of it. I am speaking from years of real sexual experience.
turn it off and try for something real or just read a book or something LoL I was having issues with it for awhile myself, and being female i think it's a little less likely as a male to have this addiction but it's no less real of a problem and it is not good for your mind. trust me. You have some experience now with this being the case so go with your gut and stop watching it so much. It's an addiction like any and treat it like one. Replace your bad habit with a good one. Writing in a journal for example is so helpful to me.

O.K. I don't agree, and I agree with this post. I actually don't care much for porn, but I find nothing wrong with it. If you like porn and have a healthy........at home sex life, I see nothing wrong with that. However it really isn't like that in real life. And if you try to have real sex like you see in a porn, it is not going to be any good. Ninety percent of girls don't like to have sex like that.

 

[MollyBeGood]

O.K. I don't agree, and I agree with this post. I actually don't care much for porn, but I find nothing wrong with it. If you like porn and have a healthy........at home sex life, I see nothing wrong with that. However it really isn't like that in real life. And if you try to have real sex like you see in a porn, it is not going to be any good. Ninety percent of girls don't like to have sex like that.

yeah I wasn't having a happy sex life and I turned to porn(long story) and I was shocked to see what they do b/c I haven't ever really looked at it(pretty disgusting and most of it humiliating) in awhile. I really worry about today's youth having such easy access to it and like the poster here being basically ruined from it. How can that be your first experience, and your first real experience not be so totally different or in his case horrible and traumatic? I don't have kids yet but I would be crushed if they watched it obsessively. Like you said 90% of girls don't like to have sex like that but they don't know that from watching that stuff. Girls too have gotten the idea from watching that it is what men want and they also suffer trauma from doing things sexually they are not ready for. I think it's really messed up, but I have watched it &

 

[megalon]

I really think personally porn is not good, not b/c I am religious or anything like that but it makes your mind go numb and you get dumb and over-stimulated at the same time. Nobody looks or acts like that in RL they(porn stars) are all so plastic Fake everything and drugged-up and mechanical and it's degrading to woman, so you won't view woman the same anymore, and it's not natural any of it. I am speaking from years of real sexual experience.
turn it off and try for something real or just read a book or something LoL I was having issues with it for awhile myself, and being female i think it's a little less likely as a male to have this addiction but it's no less real of a problem and it is not good for your mind. trust me. You have some experience now with this being the case so go with your gut and stop watching it so much. It's an addiction like any and treat it like one. Replace your bad habit with a good one. Writing in a journal for example is so helpful to me.

Meh, it's better than nothing.

 

[MollyBeGood]

better than no sex at all? hmm...well i guess so. You're a guy(from your avatar) so that's who it's aimed at anyways. My point was it's bad if you're young and impressionable and you then think it's the way it really is.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

yeah I wasn't having a happy sex life and I turned to porn(long story) and I was shocked to see what they do b/c I haven't ever really looked at it(pretty disgusting and most of it humiliating) in awhile. I really worry about today's youth having such easy access to it and like the poster here being basically ruined from it. How can that be your first experience, and your first real experience not be so totally different or in his case horrible and traumatic? I don't have kids yet but I would be crushed if they watched it obsessively. Like you said 90% of girls don't like to have sex like that but they don't know that from watching that stuff. Girls too have gotten the idea from watching that it is what men want and they also suffer trauma from doing things sexually they are not ready for. I think it's really messed up, but I have watched it &

I don't really watch very much porn, but I wouldn't describe what I have watched as unrealistic. Most of it consisted of a man and woman involved in a consensual act of sex, which both appeared to be enjoying. (OK, I know they're actors, but you know what I mean.) Maybe I just have very tame pornographic tastes, but I'm always a bit confused when people talk about it ruining people. I totally agree that watching it obsessively isn't healthy, but of course that applies to most things when taken to extremes.

 

[Pookah]

I think if you watch porn too much you begin to need it.

 

[MollyBeGood]

Without getting at all graphic since well over half the people here are virgins, and young, I don't think it's realistic at all.. but then I have been like a deer in the headlights with some of it( porn), or like when you drive by a car wreck and cannot help but look no matter how disturbing it might be when you see the body/bodies, that kinda curiosity. lol

So being addicted to it and not sexually experienced is a bad combo imho.

 

[nothingtofear]

always good to hear about someone not regretting it

my first experience may not have been anywhere near as great as hers was but I don't regret it in the slightest... I mentioned disappointment but that was just because of my impossible expectations of the physical aspect that I had formed with my imagination in the absence of experience, and I mentioned that the relationship didn't work out and I do have regrets about that since I could have done better but I had very strong feelings for her and she did for me, that relationship made me happier than I can ever remember being and that night was a wonderful night.


as for you people talking about porn, is it weird that I was more afraid that it would be like porn than it wouldn't? Even in all of porns fakeness, it's very one dimensional, it's two bodies going at it and not much else and I never wanted that, I wanted it be personal and meaningful and not with any random (even very attractive girl) but with someone who meant something to me and that emotional element isn't part of porn and I was worried that maybe it was just in movies and would never go like that when it actually came time to have it for myself. Also, all the pre-choreographed position changes or just people clearly knowing wtf they were doing always intimidated me because I always figured I'd be lost - and one thing I was worried about over the years is that my being clueless and lost would be extremely humiliating in the moment... so while porn may have shaped some of my expectations, I never thought it would be much like what I see in porn and in some ways I didn't want it to be.

as for my impossible expectations of the physical pleasure, I thought what I thought for as long as I can remember, maybe it was based on how much I pleasure I perceived people as having in porn but I think it could just as likely be have been based on how people talk about it. I thought it would be the best most unimaginably mindblowingly pleasurable feeling every second I was in the act and I have no idea why I thought that. You would think my experience getting myself off would be suffice to at least know the difference between having an orgasm and being stimulated on your way to one but I never gave it any thought and I certainly never fantasized about the uhhh final moment haha. The truth is that even the physical aspect felt really good for me, just not nearly as good as I expected it to be and that doesn't say much about how good it was, only that I set the bar very very high... like, in the heavens!

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Mine was gooooooooood. Beautiful girl, teenage love, parents who left us at each others houses alone for long stretches of time - it was a great experience. I just wish I hadn't been so religious and guilt-ridden during that period. I could've had a lot more of it - she didn't have my hangups.

 

[*eMmCaM*]

my first sexual experience was absolutely beautiful

until her pimp burst into the room and robbed me at gunpoint

LMFAO..!!!! omg(eeee) how funny...oh and sorry at least yu HAD 1 im stiiiill a VIRGIN.!

 

[NP88]

Terrible, embaracing, short, pregnancy scare. Its get better though haha.Really. I was never really comfortable with sex unless it was with someone I trusted. As soon as I found that in some it was amazing. Both physically and mentally.

 

[MagicPotion]

People act like Newcastle fans are the only ones that take their tops off.

It was one of the first pics on google images that happened to be the right size But yeah I used to watch Ipswich at Portman Road and pretty much every away support in the championship when I went has fat shirtless blokes. Not like it's a Newcastle-only phenomenon.

I wanted to add - having read some of the posts since last time - I do appreciate that it actually, finally happened. Hell I was 30 years old, I'd had plenty of time to hate myself for being lonely. I used that anger and frustration to motivate myself to do something about it.

My anger and envy and frustration and self-destructive behaviour became *greater* than my fear of attempting to go on dating sites and slowly learn how to find a partner.

But I am sorry to be going on about it, I used to feel the same way about SA-ers on forums *compaining* about sexual experiences and relationships. Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth - at least I've got a sexual experience to complain about etc. etc. So, I'll shut up about it, promise. I want to be helpful not pee everbody off. Sorry.