How was your first sexual experience?

[EnigmatiConduit]

Well, I can list at least a dozen things in my life that I consider better than horrible or average. Why bother falling off the bike if the experience is average at best? I suspect the large majority who voted as virgins in this thread aren't missing out at all.

The consensus is that this activity is average at best. Why bother?

.... so cynical and i'm sorry but oh so wrong. Why do you think humans do have attractions to one another? Physical/emotional.. which ever or a combination of both.. to reproduce of course, however us and very few other species were given the gift of it actually being an enjoable experience. Here's the key - find someone you love - have sex with them - it is good! The simple negativity here about something that is very natural and very necessary for healthy relationships andddd yes i dare say this - needed! Everyone has different preferences of what they want from sex, i myself would be horrified to have sex with a stranger and so my choice is to do so in relationships.. you find what you want and do that, don't rule it out all together - that really is a ridiculous thing to do.. it's actually ignorant - i totally understand bad sexual experiences leading you to think it isn't worth it, and it can be hard to get over.. oh and so no one decides to have a go at me for ..whatever.. there'd be something, i will share something personal - i was sexually abused as a kid from 8-12, so that technically is my first sexual experience, though i do not count this... and i didn't let that discourage me - there are all these ideals and ideas put on sex, make your own definition of it, don't dismiss it. No one reply to the personal thing i shared, i just wanted to make note that there are things to over come sometimes, but there can always be good! Go chat to any psychologist and they shall set straight this crazy mindset. I love how there's so much negative banter yet there's numerous threads related to sex, attractiveness.. all linked to sex! Why so curious about these topics guys.. if sex is "average" it's interesting that it is an above averge topic..

 

[Duraldo]

Mine sucked too, I regret every moment meeting and mating with this red-headed devil. Such is what happens when you add drugs and alchohal to deserate feelings. -_-

 

[Felgen]

I'm going to be a virgin forever. I'm 20, I already gave up. The only guys that approach me are ugly low life thugs. So yeah. I'm screwed for life. Never mind my personality, because I got a big butt and all big butted girls can get are horrible men. :'(

First of all, no decent guys are going to be bothered by the fact that you're a 20 year old virgin. Secondly, most straight men like women with a feminine body type. Thus, having a voluptuous butt is rarely a deal breaker.

 

[Newtype]

I'm going to be a virgin forever. I'm 20, I already gave up. The only guys that approach me are ugly low life thugs. So yeah. I'm screwed for life. Never mind my personality, because I got a big butt and all big butted girls can get are horrible men. :'(

I like big butts and I'm not a low-life or a thug.

 

[N0D]

All guys like big butts...all straight guys at least, maybe gays too? No idea about them. I can assure you though, 100% of straight guys LOVE big butts, we would think nothing of breaking our neck to get a second look at that girl with the big butt that just walked past us. Seriously...big butts are epic win...there are countless popular songs about big butts...they are sweet.

 

[chrisjurban]

Mine was with my ex-girlfriend. I get really bad performance anxiety, and I couldn't get it up! I just kind of kissed her all over her body and was afraid to take off her panties, so when I was done I flopped over and laid next to her. It took me many more encounters like this to be able to feel comfortable enough to stay hard and actually DO something...

 

[lunarla]

I'm going to be a virgin forever. I'm 20, I already gave up. The only guys that approach me are ugly low life thugs. So yeah. I'm screwed for life. Never mind my personality, because I got a big butt and all big butted girls can get are horrible men. :'(

Hey now! I've let a lot of stuff hold me back in life, but one of them has never been my big ass. Embrace it, I say.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Hey now! I've let a lot of stuff hold me back in life, but one of them has never been my big ass. Embrace it, I say.

I'm trying to imagine how someone would embrace their own ass. I think they'd have to be pretty flexible.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

I don't even know why i'm stupid an read this thread, it just meakes me enviuos and depressed. Some of you will say "c'mon, it wasn't that great"

At least it was.

 

[da_illest101]

I don't even know why i'm stupid an read this thread, it just meakes me enviuos and depressed. Some of you will say "c'mon, it wasn't that great"

At least it was.

I can't tell you anything you haven't heard before. I was in the same boat as you before, i always thought that it was important if i do it or not. Now that i did it I saw how pointless it was to make myself crazy over this. Maybe you should just do it, go online pick a random girl and shut off your mind and just do it, it was the only way for me to learn my lesson

 

[MollyBeGood]

Yeah don't pick some random person to loose your virginity to. It's supposed to be one of the most special things that happens to a person.
I lost mine at 16 to my first real bf. I dated him for three years. It was a good first time b/c I loved him and he treated me very special and with care. I have heard of people having a bad first time and I think that would be pretty awful and traumatic. I guess I am one of the lucky ones. Just remember to try and find someone who you love and loves you. Then also you can practice with that same person and it keeps getting better from there.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

Thank you both for the advice above. The funny thing is that probably for me finding a person who loves me and I love is as hard as finding a one night stand. The fact is that I can't start a casual conversation with a woman (is an irrational fear, any argument agaisnt it is useless), and from that point I don't see how could I build a relationship or "hook up" with someone.

I'll be more inclined to achive the long term relationship, as I'll probaly have to be with someone willing to be extremely understanding with me to help me overcome my insecurities.

 

[megalon]

Thank you both for the advice above. The funny thing is that probably for me finding a person who loves me and I love is as hard as finding a one night stand. The fact is that I can't start a casual conversation with a woman (is an irrational fear, any argument agaisnt it is useless), and from that point I don't see how could I build a relationship or "hook up" with someone.

I'll be more inclined to achive the long term relationship, as I'll probaly have to be with someone willing to be extremely understanding with me to help me overcome my insecurities.

Same for me. I almost think the casual thing would be more difficult because you have to open up to a random person and convince them you're not some kind of weirdo in a short time frame.

 

[punklove]

I'm very lucky to be able to say my first time was everything I'd ever hoped it could be and more! I'm still with the guy I lost it too and we plan on getting married and spending our lives together. If I wasn't certain he's the one for me I would have never had sex with him because I promised myself a long time ago I'd only ever have sex with one person. Anyways it was really romantic.. There were candles all over my room.. and the song "i want to know what love is by foreigner" Was playing on repeat.. He was so sweet and gentle and kept asking me if I was ok which he still does sometimes <3 . The next morning when I woke up in his arms I didn't regret anything =]

 

[Thelema]

I don't have sex, I runwayyyyy runawayyyy. Like monte python

 

[nothingtofear]

I'm very lucky to be able to say my first time was everything I'd ever hoped it could be and more! I'm still with the guy I lost it too and we plan on getting married and spending our lives together. If I wasn't certain he's the one for me I would have never had sex with him because I promised myself a long time ago I'd only ever have sex with one person. Anyways it was really romantic.. There were candles all over my room.. and the song "i want to know what love is by foreigner" Was playing on repeat.. He was so sweet and gentle and kept asking me if I was ok which he still does sometimes <3 . The next morning when I woke up in his arms I didn't regret anything =]

I'm happy for you, I really am... that's really wonderful

 

[CZi]

I'm very lucky to be able to say my first time was everything I'd ever hoped it could be and more! I'm still with the guy I lost it too and we plan on getting married and spending our lives together. If I wasn't certain he's the one for me I would have never had sex with him because I promised myself a long time ago I'd only ever have sex with one person. Anyways it was really romantic.. There were candles all over my room.. and the song "i want to know what love is by foreigner" Was playing on repeat.. He was so sweet and gentle and kept asking me if I was ok which he still does sometimes <3 . The next morning when I woke up in his arms I didn't regret anything =]

D'awwww it's great that your first was a good experience. :] Mine was pretty predictable, awkward and goofy as most firsts tend to be hahaha!

I love me some Foreigner, but after hearing "I Want to Know What Love Is" for the 4th time in a row I'd have stars in my eyes and loopy. XD

 

[da_illest101]

I'm very lucky to be able to say my first time was everything I'd ever hoped it could be and more! I'm still with the guy I lost it too and we plan on getting married and spending our lives together. If I wasn't certain he's the one for me I would have never had sex with him because I promised myself a long time ago I'd only ever have sex with one person. Anyways it was really romantic.. There were candles all over my room.. and the song "i want to know what love is by foreigner" Was playing on repeat.. He was so sweet and gentle and kept asking me if I was ok which he still does sometimes <3 . The next morning when I woke up in his arms I didn't regret anything =]

always good to hear about someone not regretting it

 

[da_illest101]

Something is very wrong with me. I was traumatised after my first time but i can't stop thinking about it and i keep telling myself maybe I should try again, with the same girl ( who wasn't has attractive in real life as in her pictures) . it's like I love hurting myself. To make things worse I went back into my addiction of internet .... content. This is really turning into a nightmare

 

[MollyBeGood]

I really think personally porn is not good, not b/c I am religious or anything like that but it makes your mind go numb and you get dumb and over-stimulated at the same time. Nobody looks or acts like that in RL they(porn stars) are all so plastic Fake everything and drugged-up and mechanical and it's degrading to woman, so you won't view woman the same anymore, and it's not natural any of it. I am speaking from years of real sexual experience.
turn it off and try for something real or just read a book or something LoL I was having issues with it for awhile myself, and being female i think it's a little less likely as a male to have this addiction but it's no less real of a problem and it is not good for your mind. trust me. You have some experience now with this being the case so go with your gut and stop watching it so much. It's an addiction like any and treat it like one. Replace your bad habit with a good one. Writing in a journal for example is so helpful to me.