How was your first sexual experience?
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WeirdyMcGee
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ohhh... haha
I guess mine was much better than how it seems most girls go these days?
I'd been with my boyfriend for more than a year, it was sober, it was mutual, it was kind of in a strange place... XD
It hurt ALOT. So much that the first time was more like a failed attempt then straight into a bath.
It was okay though. He was very gentle and understanding; and probably the next 12 times or so hurt alot as well- so I'm surprised that I didn't give up on the idea entirely!
But, it was pretty good. About a 6 on the romance scale. a 12 out of 10 on the pain scale.
I guess mine was much better than how it seems most girls go these days?
I'd been with my boyfriend for more than a year, it was sober, it was mutual, it was kind of in a strange place... XD
It hurt ALOT. So much that the first time was more like a failed attempt then straight into a bath.
It was okay though. He was very gentle and understanding; and probably the next 12 times or so hurt alot as well- so I'm surprised that I didn't give up on the idea entirely!
But, it was pretty good. About a 6 on the romance scale. a 12 out of 10 on the pain scale.
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Beatrice
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Hehehe, then for me it would be when I was, oh....... 10? You're a late one, aren't you? :
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drganon
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Hehehe, then for me it would be when I was, oh....... 10? You're a late one, aren't you? :
I guess I was about 13 when I discovered the horrible, dirty, and vaguely shameful things I could do just by myself........ and the internet...
Hehehe, then for me it would be when I was, oh....... 10? You're a late one, aren't you? :
I guess I'm a very late one... because I had intercourse (at 19) way before I was interested in self exploration (at around 25). Probably the biggest reason why I never enjoyed intercourse with my partner (now my ex-husband).
But to actually answer the thread topic, I thought that first experience was okay at the time (pretty uncomfortable- slightly painful), but now I know it was horrible. Not only because I didn't enjoy it, but because I really wasn't attracted to or have any feelings for the person I was with. Unfortunately, my lack of experience and self-esteem caused me to eventually marry the guy. I thought that that was what it was "supposed" to feel like, and I must just be weird for not enjoying it (or stupid for not knowing how to), and no one else would probably ever like me anyway- which so far has proven to be mostly true. I've only had one partner where I actually enjoyed it, and I've only had three total (one was practically a one night stand- although we were technically in a relationship, we weren't all that emotionally close yet, so intimacy was awkward and the relationship was over pretty quickly).
MagicPotion
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i'm afraid this topic just became "that topic"
My experience of s.e.x threads on SA forums is they always do.
Btw I started when I was 10 and never looked back
No internet then, you had to pray you found a porno magazine discarded in a bush. Which I did on several occasions, brushing off the earthworms and so forth and sneaking it back to my parent's house... :
: You could never really believe your luck Otherwise you were limited to lingere catalogues and posters of the Spice Girls from Smash Hits magazine.
Good times, good times
Rembrandt Broam
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LOL! That happened to me and some of my friends a few times when we were walking home from school.
Who discards a porn magazine in a bush anyway? Are they just trying to get rid of it ("How should I discard this unwanted magazine? Should I throw it in the bin? Nah. I'll go and find a bush to stick it in there instead.") or is it meant as a Random Act of Kindness, done in the hope that others will find pleasure in something that they no longer need?
MagicPotion
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LOL! That happened to me and some of my friends a few times when we were walking home from school.
Who discards a porn magazine in a bush anyway? Are they just trying to get rid of it ("How should I discard this unwanted magazine? Should I throw it in the bin? Nah. I'll go and find a bush to stick it in there instead.") or is it meant as a Random Act of Kindness, done in the hope that others will find pleasure in something that they no longer need?
Loled at this
I always wondered why somebody would go through all the embarassment of going into a corner shop and buying a porno mag, then just chuck it in a bush? I found my first porno in a bush in the nature walk at my primary school lol - I was 11. They say the internet corrupts our youth - we still found plenty of ways to corrupt ourselves long before internet porn.
PROTIP: Builders skips were always a great source of Daily Sports as well
I think it's a random act of kindness like you say - or it's the porno fairy
nothingtofear
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I was relieved at the simplicity of it all, having been worried for years my first experience would be a humiliating disaster. It also wasn't anything like I expected and I was kind of disappointed that every second of it wasn't mind-blowingly awesome as I'd assumed for whatever stupid reason I don't know... and not just disappointed because I couldn't finish, which I knew may have been because we were coming down off MDMA, but finishing would have been nice too. We gave it another go first thing the next morning and I was able to get there but not by way of intercourse. Kind of disappointing is an understatement really. All these years, without even thinking about it, I associated the feeling of an orgasm with the thought of just touching a womans body only to find out that no matter how great she looks, she's human too and skin is just skin and even when she does pleasure me down there it's not that awesome degree of pleasure that for some reason I expected to get during each and every moment of the act. Wasn't even anything bad about the experience, it was more or less my false expectations that killed it. Just to clarify, this was with a girl I felt very strongly for and who I thought (and later knew) felt very strongly for me but the roll MDMA played in our relationship from the very start had me very confused about the feelings I had for her and I was even more lost after this experience. Maybe this is a good reason to keep drugs out of the beginning of a relationship - or your first serious relationship all together - or maybe any relationship at all. Idk, I just know it was a really confusing time for me and I handled it poorly.
I've never actually talked about this with anyone so I feel weird posting it now.
I've never actually talked about this with anyone so I feel weird posting it now.
Rembrandt Broam
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Once my friend found a polaroid photograph of a woman "pleasuring" a man, just lying on the pavement. He was quite popular for a few days.
It's wrong though. I mean, the pavement is a PG-13 area. Where was Coyote to protect our youthful innocence then, eh?
JonnyD
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now to the poeple who had experience with a partner, before you get to 4th base , were any of you selfconcious about your bodies , that's the first thing that comes to my mind when i think about the topic...
if you follow the tooth fairy idea? what would you need to leave to the tooth fairy? i'll regret it later...
if you follow the tooth fairy idea? what would you need to leave to the tooth fairy? i'll regret it later...
panicsurvivor
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I had no body image when I was four.
MagicPotion
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@NothingtoFear - That's more or less how I found it to start with too. Thanks for the honesty of your post, I can relate to it a lot.
Having to - ahem - use my familar means of acheiving orgasm whilst I actually, finally, had a girlfriend lying next to me wasn't entirely what I was expecting.
Btw don't feel weird buddy, most of the posters here have said that it's not like the movies and it helps to talk about it.
@Rembrandt Broam
Ha! Your mate hit the jackpot - back in the days when porn came from skips, bushes and pavements (not a google search). I just wonder what catastrophic series of events led to that photograph being on the pavement...
My mate found a floppy disk copy of something called 'More Mandy' in the last year of school and we all got banned from the computer room for watching it He got suspended. Totally worth it
Having to - ahem - use my familar means of acheiving orgasm whilst I actually, finally, had a girlfriend lying next to me wasn't entirely what I was expecting.
Btw don't feel weird buddy, most of the posters here have said that it's not like the movies and it helps to talk about it.
@Rembrandt Broam
Ha! Your mate hit the jackpot - back in the days when porn came from skips, bushes and pavements (not a google search). I just wonder what catastrophic series of events led to that photograph being on the pavement...
My mate found a floppy disk copy of something called 'More Mandy' in the last year of school and we all got banned from the computer room for watching it
He got suspended. Totally worth it
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MagicPotion
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Noop - Was that aimed at me? Sometimes it's hard to judge the tone of somebody over the internet.
MagicPotion
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Ok - no worries then. Thanks for clearing that up.
EDIT: You didn't upset me - you can say what you want, it's a free country. If you thought I was talking cr@p then fair enough, I probably was.
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