How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Uhm idk but.. I've always felt that virginity is something all of us has just one for every lifetime. Once you give it away and you lose it for good.

So I've always held back and believed it should only be given to The One as in, The One that I think is really meant for me (o_O)

I mean, I wouldn't want to give it to some guy out there and turns out we're not meant to be :/

Besides, I think guys who say stuffs like "If you really love me, you would give it to me.." are bull**** lol

Well if a guy really loves you for who you are, he would respect you.

What in the world. "Once a lifetime"? Lol what is that? First, what makes you think you existed before or that you know the future and will have another life later? Second, why does it matter so much? There's a first for everything. Why does it have to be something that's remembered? Sure, you may remember a lot of firsts, but good or bad, it's an experience.
And yeah, any guy who says "if you really love me you'll give it to me" is a moron, because all guys want sex they would just never say that.
I think you're living in a fantasy. There is no "The One" (in caps). You live, you learn, you experience. The more you do, the more you're likely to find someone with more compatibility with you. But there's always more than one "the one" person for everyone. It's just that no one can travel and meet everyone in the entire world.
Also, sex and love can be two different things.
Live a little.
 
What in the world. "Once a lifetime"? Lol what is that? First, what makes you think you existed before or that you know the future and will have another life later? Second, why does it matter so much? There's a first for everything. Why does it have to be something that's remembered? Sure, you may remember a lot of firsts, but good or bad, it's an experience.
And yeah, any guy who says "if you really love me you'll give it to me" is a moron, because all guys want sex they would just never say that.
I think you're living in a fantasy. There is no "The One" (in caps). You live, you learn, you experience. The more you do, the more you're likely to find someone with more compatibility with you. But there's always more than one "the one" person for everyone. It's just that no one can travel and meet everyone in the entire world.
Also, sex and love can be two different things.
Live a little.

Perhaps it just how one feels. Perhaps it is right, perhaps not. Is it the right repsonse to the question? To you? To me? To others? I will not answer. Will others have similar answers? I think, yes. I feel it is not our place to judge. Especially how one sees. Others may feel otherwise.

It would seem you may be offering advice, it can be taken the wrong way.

ToolShuggah, I apologize, felt a need to say something. Didn't mean to offend. Hate being singled out for something, anything. Hate to see it happen to others.
 

agoraphobickatie

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What in the world. "Once a lifetime"? Lol what is that? First, what makes you think you existed before or that you know the future and will have another life later? Second, why does it matter so much? There's a first for everything. Why does it have to be something that's remembered? Sure, you may remember a lot of firsts, but good or bad, it's an experience.
And yeah, any guy who says "if you really love me you'll give it to me" is a moron, because all guys want sex they would just never say that.
I think you're living in a fantasy. There is no "The One" (in caps). You live, you learn, you experience. The more you do, the more you're likely to find someone with more compatibility with you. But there's always more than one "the one" person for everyone. It's just that no one can travel and meet everyone in the entire world.
Also, sex and love can be two different things.
Live a little.

aww damn dude, chill a little, lol.. some people have different values than you, novel idea huh? :) for some people, sex is a pretty big step, and some people want sex to involve a lot of emotion, love, and feeling.. that takes a lot of security. i'm all for waiting for someone that you feel is totally worth it. do what ya do, ecclesiastes :)

open your mind up a bit and don't stomp on someone for being different, tool, come on now! haha :D
 

NathanielWingatePeaslee

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No not fun...I absolutely loathe these "Are you a virgin?" threads. It's just another reason for someone to feel bad about themselves. Especially when you see that you're one of the few your age that are. >.>
Not nearly as bad as having someone in real life ask you if you're a virgin when you are. Especially if it's a girl, and especially if they already know or strongly suspect you are and just want to see you squirm. Not that that ever happened to me in high school or anything...:mad:
 
I've lost my viginity almost 2 months ago. I'm 24. So it's pretty late. I'm not even in a relationship. I just did it, cuz I wanted and I needed it.
 
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Avery

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Virgin still, 23 and counting. I simply take intimacy too seriously to ever practice casual sex, but at the same time my idealism and anxiety make it unlikely I'll ever meet (much less successfully date) a girl I'd deem worthwhile. I expect I'll live and die a virgin.

I was once dismayed at my status, but I've learned that I don't need sexual experience to laugh with friends, or enjoy my meals, or help my family, or donate to charity, or sample the incredibly array of art and entertainment available in the 21st century. I can live a long, healthy life without sex, and I'm planning on it.
 
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Not nearly as bad as having someone in real life ask you if you're a virgin when you are. Especially if it's a girl, and especially if they already know or strongly suspect you are and just want to see you squirm. Not that that ever happened to me in high school or anything...:mad:

Actually that has happened to me before. I was asked in front of a group of guys and gals who strongly suspected, but I was too embarrassed to even play it off. And that wasn't even in high school but in the Air Force of all places. FML :mad:
 

Felgen

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Actually that has happened to me before. I was asked in front of a group of guys and gals who strongly suspected, but I was too embarrassed to even play it off. And that wasn't even in high school but in the Air Force of all places. FML :mad:

The next time someone ask you this, ask them an equally personal question (i.e. if he wanks in the shower or if she has ever swallowed sperm) and then tell them to f*ck off because it's none of their business.
 

coyote

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I had my first sexual encounter when I was 16.

Since then, I have had sex approximately 2,846 times, with 27 different partners.

I hope you don't judge me too harshly.
 

boosh

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i turned 16 2 months ago and i haven't. i think both of my brother's lost theirs quite early, sort of makes me feel like i'm missing out on everything
 

mads

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I was 26, yes when I lost it.

Something strange I think, is that in Denmark it is almost a crime not to have lost it.
 

Scira

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21, haven't lost it yet, never even had a girlfriend.
Even though I'm kinda a horn ball sometimes I don't even really care about sex, I just want to lose it because of the social stigma. Of course I would need to know the person pretty well, I wouldn't do a one night stand, but I would do a FWB, not that I would ever get the chance in my current situation.
I still want a girlfriend though, but I just assume that I would be needy or clingy until i build up my confidence more.
As for saving it till marriage, thats just not my thing, I can understand wanting to wait till you met the right person though.
 

Ignace

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17 And still counting. And yeah, it's gonna be a while like that. I'm an isolated nerd, and girls don't knock on doors..
 
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