How are you feeling?

As they say animals and young children can sense things in people, that adults are too busy to sense.
It seems your nieces could sense that you have a warm heart and are pleasant to be around, Graeme! (y)
Plus, I don’t have that dour, unfriendly demeanour about me when they come n’ see. Or I do my best not to across that way. And when they open my bedroom door n’ go: “Graeme ?!” If I’ve got my headphones on, and I’m playing guitar, I usually stop what I’m doing when I see they’ve come in, smile and say: “Hullo” :D

Then I’ll tell or show them what I’m doing if they ask me. :)

It’s also quite ironic that, whenever they’re around me or my oldest sister, our nieces are happy and well behaved. But as soon their mother asks, or tells, them to do something, they refuse. :LOL:
 
I’ve really pissed off lately, to the point where I don’t know if ah even want to write my own music anymore. :cry:

Ah genuinely want to just pack up n’ get tha f…k away from where I grew up and have lived my whole life, but that’s easier said than done. Far easily if you can afford to do it, financially.

Just found out, today, from my oldest sister that our middle sibling and her treatment of our mother is the main reason why one of our cousins no longer feels she can come and visit. :mad: That explains why she only does the off visit, here n’ there, and doesn’t stay long. It’s because our cousin feels a massive row would just kick off if she spoke up, and said not to speak to our mother the way our middle sibling does and gets away with.

And, after my experience yesterday, with my nieces, my oldest sister and I wondered if our sister (the middle child) was jealousy of the fact that her kids like us more than her. Because that must hurt as a parent ?

Though, we also agreed things can’t keep on going the way they’ve been for the last 2 years. I brought up the idea of us all sitting in the living room, and discussing things. But, knowing how well the women in my family take criticism when the words are comin’ oot my gob, ah doubt that would have the desired affected of changing things for the better. :(:cry:
Your mom and sisters are just conflict-driven ball busters, Graeme. I don't think they even want peace.

You can't fix them, especially while dealing with your own problems... and you shouldn't have to. If you try to sit down with them they'll just start shouting and try to twist all your arguments around, anyway. They won't let anything upset their rotten little apple-cart.

Just focus on you and try to get out of there when you can. Also, I know it can be disheartening, but if you're able, try to sublimate your resentment into your music, rather than letting it stifle you from creating new songs.
 
Your mom and sisters are just conflict-driven ball busters, Graeme. I don't think they even want peace.

You can't fix them, especially while dealing with your own problems... and you shouldn't have to. If you try to sit down with them they'll just start shouting and try to twist all your arguments around, anyway. They won't let anything upset their rotten little apple-cart.
Och, tae f__k wae them ! They mair alike than they’d care to acknowledge.

I’m just a point where, I’ve honestly had enough. Losing respect for my mother by the day.

As for the older sister (the middle child), I’m seriously on the verge of grabbing her by throat and unleash a torrent of verbal abuse. Me lashing out physically would just result in me killing her, ah know it would. Physical violence, intimidation and emotional abuse seem to be the only languages those 2 understand. Given how I’ve been on the receiving end of it from both of them throughout ma life at some point. And proudly got the scars to show for it.

But this carry on has been gan oan, as I said, for nearly 2 years ! And I’d like it to end, but that’s probably just wishful thinking by this point? Somebuddy’ll need to be deid afore that happens. And how our mother hus’nae took her own life is a miracle, considering what she has to put up with. I’d say “we have put up with...”, but how ah feel counts for f__k all, since am a man and how would ah what it’s like... being a single parent, etc. Y’know, the usual “you dinnae huv empathy” argument. Guess that’s what happens when ya spend much o’ yer f__kin’ life caring for a co-dependent parent, eh ?

Quite ironic that am the yin who has to listen to the arguments n’ complaints, but as soon as ah voice how am feelin’, am telt to either “F__k off !!” Or dismissive asked: “Whit huv you got to be depressed about...? Ooh, a disability or a dysfunctional family, which is worse in grand scheme o’ things? :unsure:

Just focus on you and try to get out of there when you can. Also, I know it can be disheartening, but if you're able, try to sublimate your resentment into your music, rather than letting it stifle you from creating new songs.
Oh, channeling my rage n’ resentment into my music is easy enough. Using it to write songs that are actually any good is another matter, though. Musically, speaking, anyway - I’ve got plenty of song titles that allude to past incidents. Things said during massive arguments, etc. Not that I don’t want to write “depressing music”, I just don’t fancy writing a whole album’s worth o’ them, y’know?
 
Your mom and sisters are just conflict-driven ball busters, Graeme. I don't think they even want peace.

You can't fix them, especially while dealing with your own problems... and you shouldn't have to. If you try to sit down with them they'll just start shouting and try to twist all your arguments around, anyway. They won't let anything upset their rotten little apple-cart.

Just focus on you and try to get out of there when you can. Also, I know it can be disheartening, but if you're able, try to sublimate your resentment into your music, rather than letting it stifle you from creating new songs.

Well said, Fountain. (y)


 
Well today wus crap ! Got woken up by my mother yelling at my older sister over the phone, just because my sister assumed my mother saying “Aye, ah’ll wae ye...and the kids” meant she didn’t want to go somewhere. All because our mother’s tone of voice wus’nae enthusiastic enough. :mad:

Then, ah got snapped at for merely pointing out that I’m more than capable o’ looking after myself. And saying how am really effin’ fed-up with all this... having to listen to the arguments. Which occur on a almost daily basis. I don’t think I’ll be around much longer, given how things have been these past 2 years. Which should make my older sister happy, since she always bemoaned me my existence. :(

On the more positive side o’ things, I refurbished one of my old laptops that’s been laying about, it was still in decent nick so I put a bigger hard drive in it. I’m going to give it to my oldest sister, since she’s been saying to me for sometime now that she needs a laptop with more storage space. And I messed about on my guitar for a couple hours, and came up with a few ideas that I think could be turn into songs. :D
 
I have to schedule an appointment for Gus to have his second round of vaccinations this week; the vet's office is full of attractive women and that sort of thing always magnifies my anxiety.
You are the client of the vet, so these attractive women who work there will make sure they are nice to you - even if your anxiety is obvious to them - because it is their job to make you feel welcome.

If they display any negative vibes towards you because you are anxious, then they might be nasty or dumb, therefore there is no need for you to feel nervous around them.

It is so sad that pets get so scared of going to the vet. If only someone could invent an app that translates English into "dog language". Then we can communicate to them that it will be over quickly, and the procedure is going to help them. :)


 

Phoenixx

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Sitting here, trying to get up the nerve to make the phone-call for Gus' appointment.

Dammit, this sucks.
If it makes you feel any better, I had to make a vet appointment today for tomorrow just to get my cat a nail trim. I'm currently recovering from a cold/sinus infection thing so my voice sounds even more weird than usual and I dreaded calling. Had to explain to them that she has a weird non-weight bearing nail (common in polydactyls) in between her toes that constantly curls and this isn't the first time I've had to schedule this. The last time I went, her nail nearly got infected because I didn't watch it. And once again, I haven't been watching it and it's starting to curl. They were super nice about it, even though I feel like a bad pet owner.

So anxious or not, vets and vet techs are meant to be kind and caring people always willing to help. My vet's office is filled with such positive and genuinely nice people, makes the process of scheduling a lot better.
 
If it makes you feel any better, I had to make a vet appointment today for tomorrow just to get my cat a nail trim. I'm currently recovering from a cold/sinus infection thing so my voice sounds even more weird than usual and I dreaded calling. Had to explain to them that she has a weird non-weight bearing nail (common in polydactyls) in between her toes that constantly curls and this isn't the first time I've had to schedule this. The last time I went, her nail nearly got infected because I didn't watch it. And once again, I haven't been watching it and it's starting to curl. They were super nice about it, even though I feel like a bad pet owner.

So anxious or not, vets and vet techs are meant to be kind and caring people always willing to help. My vet's office is filled with such positive and genuinely nice people, makes the process of scheduling a lot better.
Thank you, Phoenixx.

I'm sorry your cat's extra-nail is giving it trouble.

Certain social scenarios just make me nuts, but you're right, these women are in a therapeutic field so I guess I shouldn't feel too bad.
 
Hoping all goes well, that relative of mine gets their operation in a couple days. But they’re getting checked into hospital tomorrow for a few tests ahead of the surgery, and staying overnight.
Don’t know how things went today, I’m assuming well, since the operation is still set for tomorrow morning. Though, my Mum told that the staff had lost the medical notes relating to my relative, and had no idea why they were being admitted. Which was the same thing that happened to me at the very same hospital 3 years ago when ah hud my orthopaedic surgery. F…kin’ ridiculous, man ! What a joke !:mad:

Makes me wonder if that’s a level o’ incompetence is a common thing at my local hospital? :unsure:

Aside from that it’s been another boring day for me. Dinnae do much. But ah wus tempted to smack my older sister smartphone outta her hand this morning. Cuz when I came downstairs, to give my mother the TV remote I bought off eBay for her and the middle child’s just sitting there, staring at her phone as her kids are running about. Which says it all, really.

Even if me being woke by their screaming n’ running about as the came in the front door wus’nae exactly the wake up call I needed or wanted. They weren’t in to visit for long, though. Which I don’t think the youngest was too happy about, as she heard me moving about upstairs and starts saying: “Graeme, Graeme upstairs... upstairs”, to her mother. :LOL: Which didn’t get much of a response from my mother, who, must - surely by now - be getting pissed off with the fact her wee ‘uns take more o’ an interest in me than her. I’m guessing, anyway..

But how the “Huh! How come they f…kin’ like you mair than me then, eh?” argument hasn’t occurred yet is still beyond me. She’s probably holding off on it after our last arguments, which did’nae end too well for her. :LOL:
 

LoyalXenite

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Don’t know how things went today, I’m assuming well, since the operation is still set for tomorrow morning. Though, my Mum told that the staff had lost the medical notes relating to my relative, and had no idea why they were being admitted. Which was the same thing that happened to me at the very same hospital 3 years ago when ah hud my orthopaedic surgery. F…kin’ ridiculous, man ! What a joke !:mad:

Makes me wonder if that’s a level o’ incompetence is a common thing at my local hospital? :unsure:
Definitely incompetent for sure :eek:
 
Don’t know how things went today, I’m assuming well, since the operation is still set for tomorrow morning. Though, my Mum told that the staff had lost the medical notes relating to my relative, and had no idea why they were being admitted. Which was the same thing that happened to me at the very same hospital 3 years ago when ah hud my orthopaedic surgery. F…kin’ ridiculous, man ! What a joke !:mad:

Makes me wonder if that’s a level o’ incompetence is a common thing at my local hospital? :unsure:
Wow. If they could lose such a big thing like that (important medical notes of a patient) then I wouldn't dare have any surgery in that hospital!
If the Hospital's administration is that careless, they could mix-up patient notes, and end up doing the wrong procedure/surgery on a person. (n)
 
Wow. If they could lose such a big thing like that (important medical notes of a patient) then I wouldn't dare have any surgery in that hospital!
If the Hospital's administration is that careless, they could mix-up patient notes, and end up doing the wrong procedure/surgery on a person. (n)
Aye, ah know... But, thankfully, in my experience, and this recent incident with my relative, we both knew the op that we were getting done and the surgeon who was going to be doing the surgery.
 
Just bloody typical ! My older sister - the middle child - isn’t all that happy that our mother got asked to go n’ see that relative of ours, and she didn’t. Even though, when they got the cancer diagnosis, my older sister did’nae once ask how they were doing. :mad:
 
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