How are you feeling?

I had such a great and fun birthday trip, but I am sad again. I’m (yet again) dating someone who doesn’t give me much attention. I hate how that can just ruin everything for me. I require tons of attention from my romantic partners, I don’t know what my problem is :(
 
I had such a great and fun birthday trip, but I am sad again. I’m (yet again) dating someone who doesn’t give me much attention. I hate how that can just ruin everything for me. I require tons of attention from my romantic partners, I don’t know what my problem is :(
Have you done any research on the subject Sarah? In the end you could run run the risk of smothering your partner. Both people in a relationship need room for themselves and room to breathe.
I myself enjoy lots of attention form my partner and I like to give lots to her. But there are times when I just need..to let my own mind have space.
 

lily

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I had such a great and fun birthday trip, but I am sad again. I’m (yet again) dating someone who doesn’t give me much attention. I hate how that can just ruin everything for me. I require tons of attention from my romantic partners, I don’t know what my problem is :(
There's nothing wrong w/ you Sarah_M, i would like lots of attention from my partner too.
 
Have you done any research on the subject Sarah? In the end you could run run the risk of smothering your partner. Both people in a relationship need room for themselves and room to breathe.
I myself enjoy lots of attention form my partner and I like to give lots to her. But there are times when I just need..to let my own mind have space.
I totally get that and need time, too, but I haven’t spent time with him since last Thursday. Our schedules don’t align and the last time I saw him was Wednesday before I left for 5 minutes. He’s barely texted me or said he missed me... My mom and sister’s husbands were calling them to say how much they missed them and I received no warm reception. It makes me feel even worse about myself; like, I’m not worth it :(
 
I totally get that and need time, too, but I haven’t spent time with him since last Thursday. Our schedules don’t align and the last time I saw him was Wednesday before I left for 5 minutes. He’s barely texted me or said he missed me... My mom and sister’s husbands were calling them to say how much they missed them and I received no warm reception. It makes me feel even worse about myself; like, I’m not worth it :(
Oh, fair enough. Sorry your original post didn't say those things.
Well, yea it can be tough. Maybe just let him be until he comes to you?
 
I totally get that and need time, too, but I haven’t spent time with him since last Thursday. Our schedules don’t align and the last time I saw him was Wednesday before I left for 5 minutes. He’s barely texted me or said he missed me... My mom and sister’s husbands were calling them to say how much they missed them and I received no warm reception. It makes me feel even worse about myself; like, I’m not worth it :(
This may be something you've done, but have you communicated these feelings? I ask because I can see how it could seem like one of those things you shouldn't have to say, but people aren't mind readers and aren't always aware of the impact their actions (or lack of action) has on a person. If you want be showered with affection and are not easily smothered, I think it's totally okay to say so if you haven't.

To use an example from my own relationship, I'm the opposite and can go weeks without talking to someone and not have it be a major impact on me. But early on in the relationship my girlfriend made it clear that's its important to her to communicate everyday even if its just a text to say good morning. So now I always start my mornings with a text to her because I know it's important to her, but probably wouldn't have had she not told me it mattered to her. Relationships can be complicated, and in my case when I'm told point blank what's important to the other person it helps simplifies things.
 

Marc7

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Idk why it is so hard to open up about my feelings to certain people I know and people I don't know. Idk if it is because of me not being assertive or anxiety.
 
This may be something you've done, but have you communicated these feelings? I ask because I can see how it could seem like one of those things you shouldn't have to say, but people aren't mind readers and aren't always aware of the impact their actions (or lack of action) has on a person. If you want be showered with affection and are not easily smothered, I think it's totally okay to say so if you haven't.

To use an example from my own relationship, I'm the opposite and can go weeks without talking to someone and not have it be a major impact on me. But early on in the relationship my girlfriend made it clear that's its important to her to communicate everyday even if its just a text to say good morning. So now I always start my mornings with a text to her because I know it's important to her, but probably wouldn't have had she not told me it mattered to her. Relationships can be complicated, and in my case when I'm told point blank what's important to the other person it helps simplifies things.
Thanks, vj288 - you’re right. I need to communicate even though it is obvious to me. We talked about it and it has since been resolved :)
 

Marc7

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Fear of be judged negatively, maybe? How they’ll react...

I know I kinda stopped opening up about my feelings due to being unsure about what reaction I’d get.
I think it could be that as well as getting an negative reaction such as a disagreement or argument. Also not wanting to burden them with my feelings or words. Plus it could be not wanting the attention on me. Plus not wanting to change my life. Also it could be due to me being a male at least for my feelings part but idk though.
 
I think it could be that as well as getting an negative reaction such as a disagreement or argument. Also not wanting to burden them with my feelings or words. Plus it could be not wanting the attention on me.
Yeah, going by my past experience with ma family, I understand what ye mean, there.

Plus not wanting to change my life.
Why don't you want to change yer life? Just asking... but don't feel you have to answer if that question is too personal.

Also it could be due to me being a male at least for my feelings part but idk though.
I know that stigma all too well, man. Quite ironic that - being raised in predominately female household - ah git guff from my family whenever I do or don't talk about my feelings.
 

Kiwong

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I've been quite positive lately. I am getting some attitude from a person at work. I say hello, but don't get a response from her. I think it is not my problem. People!!!!!!!
 
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