lyricalliaisons
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Do you hate yourself?
It seems to me that a lot of people with social anxiety, etc. seem to hate, or at least severely dislike, themselves. I've been on a lot of social anxiety forums where people will blatantly say that they hate themselves. These are all very good people & I think everyone can see it except for the person him or herself. I've never really understood how truly great people can have such a low opinion of themselves. It seems to me that if other people can realize how great they are, they should be able to see it for themselves. It seems that some people blame themselves for their social inadequacies, & think badly of themselves because of it. I know a lot of it probably goes back to experiences they had in their childhoods, because it's the only thing I can think of that makes sense as to why they would think such things about themselves.
For myself, I definitely don't hate myself. I really like myself. I do not like my life, but I do like myself & there is a very big difference between the two. There are definitely a lot of individual aspects about myself that I don't like, but those aspects don't overshadow the feelings that I have about myself overall. It's why I don't feel that I have low self esteem. Therapists have always asked me whether I feel I am deserving of happiness & other good things in life. I say yes, because I definitely am. They ask how "worthy" I feel. I feel very worthy. I am worthy of all good things. They always seem shocked by the answers I give to their questions because they (& a lot of others) seem to think that social anxiety can not be had without low self-esteem. I've even had others tell me this, despite my own experiences to the contrary. Just coming from my own feelings about myself, I know that low self-esteem does not have to exist in order for social anxiety to. I have very severe social anxiety, yet, I'm a really good person & I know that. I think that other people would also realize that if they got to know me (or if I would let them get to know me). Internally, I'm a very kind person, though that doesn't show a lot when I'm around others because I'm so scared.
So.... How do you feel about yourself? If you have social anxiety, do you hate, or really dislike, yourself? Do you like yourself, despite your anxiety? Or are you somewhere in between?
It seems to me that a lot of people with social anxiety, etc. seem to hate, or at least severely dislike, themselves. I've been on a lot of social anxiety forums where people will blatantly say that they hate themselves. These are all very good people & I think everyone can see it except for the person him or herself. I've never really understood how truly great people can have such a low opinion of themselves. It seems to me that if other people can realize how great they are, they should be able to see it for themselves. It seems that some people blame themselves for their social inadequacies, & think badly of themselves because of it. I know a lot of it probably goes back to experiences they had in their childhoods, because it's the only thing I can think of that makes sense as to why they would think such things about themselves.
For myself, I definitely don't hate myself. I really like myself. I do not like my life, but I do like myself & there is a very big difference between the two. There are definitely a lot of individual aspects about myself that I don't like, but those aspects don't overshadow the feelings that I have about myself overall. It's why I don't feel that I have low self esteem. Therapists have always asked me whether I feel I am deserving of happiness & other good things in life. I say yes, because I definitely am. They ask how "worthy" I feel. I feel very worthy. I am worthy of all good things. They always seem shocked by the answers I give to their questions because they (& a lot of others) seem to think that social anxiety can not be had without low self-esteem. I've even had others tell me this, despite my own experiences to the contrary. Just coming from my own feelings about myself, I know that low self-esteem does not have to exist in order for social anxiety to. I have very severe social anxiety, yet, I'm a really good person & I know that. I think that other people would also realize that if they got to know me (or if I would let them get to know me). Internally, I'm a very kind person, though that doesn't show a lot when I'm around others because I'm so scared.
So.... How do you feel about yourself? If you have social anxiety, do you hate, or really dislike, yourself? Do you like yourself, despite your anxiety? Or are you somewhere in between?