I don't know why, but I just don't like the thought of somebody I love, and loves me back, being with another guy before. Might be because I've never loved or been loved, but I know it'll be tough to get used to, for me.
BTW, it's cuz I's a virgin too. I'd understand if neither were a virgin.
I think your feelings on this matter are very understandable. I'm sure plenty of people feel the same way. I'm a virgin and I always thought it'd be better to be with someone that's a virgin, too. However, I met someone that isn't a virgin, and I've been with him for over two years now. He's only been with one person, though. He lost his virginity to her when he was only 15. She was an awful person that ruined his life, basically. The fact that he's been with someone else doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would. I know that he loves me and that's all that matters. I trust him and I know that if he could take back having slept with that other girl, he would. It was just a dumb mistake that a lot of kids make, ya know?
If you fall in love with a girl that has slept with someone else before, maybe it won't matter so much anymore. I'm not sure. I don't think non-virgins are ruined people or damaged goods. Having sex is something that humans SHOULD experience. Now, if they've had sex with loads of people, then that's something to think about. That isn't good.
Anyway, the reason I'm still a virgin even though I'm in a relationship is rather complicated. It has a lot to do with my OCD and anxiety and such. I'm just scared to have sex. I fear pregnancy a LOT. Blah blah blah. This post is long and stupid. Sorry I wasn't very helpful.