Are you ready for a relationship?

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laure15

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superTn said:
To be quite frankly, I’m not ready either but when opportunity comes to be in one, I will take it. Yes I’m scared to socialise and stuff but sometimes you got to do what you got to do. If a girl likes me, I’m hell ready to take her to be mine! Though it probably won’t last because of my unsocial ways but I don’t give a damn. Life is short; you might as well have relationship now if you have a chance too! Don’t say “oh I will have one in 5 years time blah blah I’m not ready”..NO! Do it now because you don’t know what tomorrow brings. You don’t want to die without experiencing a romantic relationship! Well I certainly don’t want to yano!
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People say this all the time, and the next thing they know, they're on the Jerry Springer show denying paternity and trying to get out of child support payments. I don't care if life is short. So what if I have never smoked hasheesh or went skydiving; I don't need to experience every little thing in this world.
 
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knowledgeofself

knowledgeofself

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I always tell myself i'm not and think I need to work at stuff, but just as soon as i'm comfortable on my own life often throws me into situations with people that seem to like me and it leaves me thinking this could be good if I just let things happen and be more carefree.
In the instances where I try and just go along with things, i'm always reminded shortly after that my problems and failure at recognizing a complimentary partner is why i'm probably always destined to be alone.
 
miserablecow

miserablecow

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I think I am ready for a relationship, but I have trouble trusting people and always feel that I'll be hurt if I let someone in my life.

Plus, I don't seem to be approachable and think no one would be interested in me.
 
tak13squee

tak13squee

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I doubt I am ready, cause I have never been in a relationship, and the person I want to love would have to be incredibly patient with me. A trait that doesn't seem to be in a lot of people.
 
MollyBeGood

MollyBeGood

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NO I am not but I do believe it's like kids if you wait until you are(when is that really?) you never will be finding the right time/person/always excuses..Obviously don't get involved with someone if your a heavy drug user, or have anger/abuse issues, not that that ever stops anyone...just remember not to hurt anyone.
 
planemo

planemo

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probably will have to say no. i don't think i'll ever be. i don't really have much of a personality in front of others. maybe if i felt comfortable around someone i could show them more of who i am, but i never feel comfortable around females. i'm just a mess in so many ways, so in reality, no i'll never be ready.:sad:
 
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Dreamscape

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I thought that I was in love with this girl. but in the end i realized that it's just affection; not love. my protective shell is too thick that my isolation from other people affects them also. which makes them highly disturbed.
 
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jaim38

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No, I am not. I don't have anyone I particularly like. And I chose not to be in a relationship out of my own will.
 
Austie

Austie

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I split up with my ex about a year ago. We had been together for 10 years. We made each other unhappy, she got angry at me and said things that have brought my confidence and self-asteem down drastically and I messed her up by ignoring her.

I realize that I can not be in a relationship because the girl I was in a relationship with was the nicest person in the world and if I can't make it with someone as kind and understanding as her then I can't make it with anyone. My conclussion is to stay clear of relatioinships.

So I am a little torn because I have a big sexual appetite but I don't want to be in a relationship. I would never pay for it and I find one night stands are awkward.

So I guess its packets of tissues and internet porn for the forseable future, lol
 
cowboyup

cowboyup

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I've made some very bad choices since I moved to the city I am in now. I was in therapy for BDSM as well as other 'issues' so I am staying clear of relationships - at least in the foreseeable future.
 
takeheart

takeheart

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As far as I’m concerned, I’m not ready for a relationship, though I would love to be in one. But as they say, there is first time for everything so if opportunity comes to be in a relationship I would take it.
 
IntheLabyrinth

IntheLabyrinth

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I really wish I was ready but I have not been on a date in over 3 years and have never been in a relationship for longer than 2 weeks (only twice). I have never actually been on a date where I initiated it. I guess I am too afraid of the inevitable panic attack, which will have me sweating like a marathon runner and will make my mind go blank, that comes with meeting someone of the opposite sex when it is more than just superficial smalltalk. Also, the fact that being around anyone and everyone (family included) makes me sweat from my underarms and feet and having a shy bladder, among other issues, makes me feel like a relationship is out of the question. Even though I really would like to someday have a wife and kids, I would settle with making a few good friends.
 
Nanita

Nanita

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I am in a relationship, but I´m not a relationship type of person, meaning I need a lot of alone time doing my creative work or reading or whatever, and, the most difficult part about being in a relationship; I´ve never been okay with hanging out with friends & family of my partner.
 
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ImNotMyIllness

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Malthael said:
No,i have nothing to offer....some people are meant to be alone.
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I don't think anyone is meant to be alone....I mean unless they really want to be. Everyone has something to offer-kindness, love, affection, feelings...the stuff that makes us human! If you're human, you have something to offer. Being in pain is part of who we are.
 
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Aron

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ImNotMyIllness said:
I don't think anyone is meant to be alone....I mean unless they really want to be. Everyone has something to offer-kindness, love, affection, feelings...the stuff that makes us human! If you're human, you have something to offer. Being in pain is part of who we are.
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Sometimes I think I'm not human.

I like this quote from Dexter:
"They make it look so easy, connecting with another human being. It’s like no one told them it’s the hardest thing in the world."

I think something's missing in me, or it's broken, that prevents me from connecting with humans. Something essential. I've never connected with anyone. Some people are just so damaged in this department, that they are practically meant to be alone for their life.
 
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laure15

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Aron said:
I like this quote from Dexter:
"They make it look so easy, connecting with another human being. It’s like no one told them it’s the hardest thing in the world."

I think something's missing in me, or it's broken, that prevents me from connecting with humans. Something essential. I've never connected with anyone. Some people are just so damaged in this department, that they are practically meant to be alone for their life.
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Me too. Connecting with people is so much easier when I was a child because I was living in blissful, innocent ignorance. But as an adult, it's so much harder to trust people or make friends. I'm damaged this way too.
 
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