Does anyone have social anxiety due to the fact that they think they are ugly

Richey

Richey

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weberriver said:
Yes, that's a big part of it. Not so much when I was younger, but definitely now. Funny thing is, I never thought of myself as all that unattractive until a friend told me about this guy in school who thought I was "sooo ugly." My friend had told me this just so she could brag that she had stuck up for me, but I would have been so much better off not knowing. ::(:
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You'd be fine, same as me, people are just nasty/sarcastic, i had a similar experience, i played a sport with some friends and the new girl liked me, my friends told me in the car about it, she had a crush, anyway they then went on about how i am "generic and malnourished", i was skinny and lacked muscle tone and "why would she have a crush on me", "seeing as i was not an obvious choice for a crush", they went on about that for ages.

Anyway that conversation (which i found odd to begin with) destroyed my belief that it could be possible because it came from supposed friends. they may have been envious but that was nasty hearing them go on like that, i just found it bizarre and not exaclty supportive.

The way i see it is if you are fine, normal, cool, worthy then friends would never bring that up, it wouldn't have even been a talking point or an issue.

anyway 6 years on and that conversation has ruined my confidence in finding a relationship, i am booked in to see a therapist, finally after 6-7 years of blacking out any thought of dating, relationships etc. what a waste.

I think it showed that i was probably around the wrong circle of friends, in the wrong environment.

You know what really annoys me? That there are probably 1 million potential environments that we can grow up in, right? so this all depends on the schools we end up at, the suburbs we live in, the people in our class, a certain percentage will go against us and a certain percentage will be the right environment to develop. I just feel that i was in the wrong one, which really saddens me.

Now its up to me to find the right one and to unwind all of that.
 
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WeirdyMcGee

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Oh yes. Absolutely.
I dislike everything about myself-- ugly inside and out. Outside is just more blatantly obvious.
 
JuiceB

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It does seem funny that so many on SPW claim they're ugly despite all the beautiful personalities that I've notice in the short time I've been here.
 
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Foxface

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Jessica7 said:
yeah what Weirdy said
it's embarrassing to leave the house with my face D:
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I bet your face isn't as bad as you think. :)

I wonder what I look like with a long neck, like Katniss. It would probably make me look weirder.

Jeniffer Lawrence and her long neck...

JuiceB said:
It does seem funny that so many on SPW claim they're ugly despite all the beautiful personalities that I've notice in the short time I've been here.
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Ya, well usally you can't have both, it's either one or the other. I've talked to a girl early this morning, she is very beauitful, understands me and easy to have a conversation well. Talks really well.

On the other hand. We have someone like Jennifer Lawrence, with a long neck (4.5 inches) and thick long arms, does seems like it's from another body. Dispite this, I still find it a bit attractive.
https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.ne...0x720/557070_425346957508976_2082958549_n.jpg

She don't complain, to my knowledge.
 
Invisibleman

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Its not the main source but it is definetely a massive part of my anxiety. I just feel like an absolute freak, with my uneven face and stuff.

The amazing thing that I hate is that I actually love how I look in the mirror. Im dead serious, I look in the mirror and im like "wow, I look alright today" But thats the thing, in the mirror obviously your face is flipped from how people actually see you. If your hair parts to the right in the mirror its actually to the left kinda thing. And when I see how my face is ACTUALLY flipped to the correct side im in absolute shock, I dont even look even remotely close to how I do flipped the other way and I look so disgusting. And on top of it you can see my disgustingly uneven jawline so much more and I feel so self conscious.

I hate it because I then know that even if I look good in the mirror I look absolutely grotesque in reality:(
 
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Psychedelicious

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Yes, definitely. I don't think that being ugly is the cause of my anxiety, but it most certainly fuels it. My biggest obsession centers around my appearance, and this is what causes the majority of my extreme insecurities. I never feel comfortable in any situation, especially because of how I look. Nothing hinders me more in life than this. I feel like I could live with just being anxious, I'm used to that. I just can't accept being this ugly however, and I would give anything to fix it.
 
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SHYoreoCOOKIE4U

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The main source of my self esteem is my face. I can't even look people in the eye because i'm feel like they will get a better look of my ''uglyness''. Weird I know.
 
razzle dazzle rose

razzle dazzle rose

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Yeah, my appearance is a contributor to my SA. I hate hate hate seeing myself in any mirrors while out in public. They are so hard to resist though. If I don't look "right" it is impossible for me to enjoy myself. I get so uncomfortable and don't want to be seen. I had made some improvements with this but recently all these feelings have been coming back full force.
 
Kat

Kat

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Most people I have seen are very good looking. It wouldn't be the main reason I get anxiety but it doesn't help.
 
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Agent_Violet

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nope. my social anxiety is simply based on my borderline issues and my intense fear of manipulating and hurting people.I'm also learning I'm a perfectionist and this influences my tendency to be social awkward and anxious.
 
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AGR

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Yes,because I am not symmetrical,I had people saying that I am ugly,that I am beautiful,but that isnt that important,all I wanted was being symetrical.
It was one of the reasons that I didnt get out of the house,didnt have a girlfriend or friends.
 
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dyingtolive

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Social anxiety is one thing but also alot of anger, jealousy, sorrow, "why does it have to be this way" thoughts, Its not just 'social anxiety', more like 'the reason i cannot be with others'. The reason being an ingrained excuse not to, not just an obstacle thats 'in the way'.
 
1BlackSheep

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dyingtolive said:
Social anxiety is one thing but also alot of anger, jealousy, sorrow, "why does it have to be this way" thoughts, Its not just 'social anxiety', more like 'the reason i cannot be with others'. The reason being an ingrained excuse not to, not just an obstacle thats 'in the way'.
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Oooh, I hear ya' on all of that! It's tough. ::(:
 
paperie

paperie

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Yep. Whenever I catch someone looking at me in public, I always assume they're thinking "yikes, she's weird looking".
 
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