Do you want to fall in love?

Kiwong

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I want to love the things in life I enjoy. I'm not sure I need to share those things with anyone. I realise that my freedom is a good thing.
 
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I want to love the things in life I enjoy. I'm not sure I need to share those things with anyone. I realise that my freedom is a good thing.

A very wise post. I learnt that many years ago after breaking up with my long time girlfriend. I rediscovered my freedom, and realised that I can become perfectly satisfied in life by being single. I believe that finding harmony within ourself is the stepping stone to a good relationship, should you choose to do so.
 

Snowdrop

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I agree with most of these answers :)
I want to fall in love but I want the other to fall in love back with me.
But I understand what you mean, in a relationship I'm not gonna lie I will always feel doubtful of that person's feelings and heck my own feelings.
I'll always feel paranoid.
So, in that respect, no I wouldn't want to fall in love but yes I would love to fall in love. Really, I'd want to fall in love if I was happy. At the moment, I've got to work on making myself happy...but then could falling in love be the cure? See, it's a vicious vicious cycle.
 

Tiercel

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I'd rather not fall in love. I imagine it would leave a scar, a stain, or a mark of some kind.
 

wiggles

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Yes of course, its a great feeling till you get your heart crushed.SA really holds me back so I guess I would have to get over this before I would feel strong enough to allow myself to trust someone again.
 

SingleAloneForever

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Yes, I'm sure that most people would probably want to fall in love, myself included. I mean, isn't it human nature?

But will it ever happen? No. Not for me, it won't. Hell I'm 28, and I've never been on a date.

A soul mate only exists for those who have a soul.
 

springk

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Yes, I'm sure that most people would probably want to fall in love, myself included. I mean, isn't it human nature?

But will it ever happen? No. Not for me, it won't. Hell I'm 28, and I've never been on a date.

A soul mate only exists for those who have a soul.


yes its human nature,can we live without love i think not.

will it happen? may be it will.
you are not alone, many don't find love. myself included. i m 23 ,havent been on date.
you will find someone, just look around. give it a chance:)
 

Honda

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yes its human nature,can we live without love i think not.

will it happen? may be it will.
you are not alone, many don't find love. myself included. i m 23 ,havent been on date.
you will find someone, just look around. give it a chance:)

Hey im in the same place where you are.. 23 and barely on a date... But what Id like to do is not let this shatter my self confidence in front of others..
 

JamesSmith

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yes its human nature,can we live without love i think not.

will it happen? may be it will.
you are not alone, many don't find love. myself included. i m 23 ,havent been on date.
you will find someone, just look around. give it a chance:)

Actually, there is a chance you won't find someone. I can't really give u odds because I don't know that much about you, but what I do know is that in the world roughly 1.5% of people die virgins, and 4% of people never get married in their lifetime. Somebody has to fit in this fat 1.5% and a lot of those people are obviously people like us, the one's with social anxiety disorder and are afraid to go out as much as more "normal" people, or some of us just never even go out at all. I'd say the rest are super religious people and such. But, I've read in these forums a lot, and I see people complaining all the time about not having a partner, and according to research some of you will live the rest of your life alone. The old quote says "There's someone for everyone." Well guess what? There's not, research proves it. This isn't the movies where underdogs make miraculous feats and wind up with their dream girl, this is real life where socially anxious people can really have struggles and many people die alone. I'm not trying to be negative, I'm trying to be realistic.
 

vj288

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Actually, there is a chance you won't find someone. I can't really give u odds because I don't know that much about you, but what I do know is that in the world roughly 1.5% of people die virgins, and 4% of people never get married in their lifetime. Somebody has to fit in this fat 1.5% and a lot of those people are obviously people like us, the one's with social anxiety disorder and are afraid to go out as much as more "normal" people, or some of us just never even go out at all. I'd say the rest are super religious people and such. But, I've read in these forums a lot, and I see people complaining all the time about not having a partner, and according to research some of you will live the rest of your life alone. The old quote says "There's someone for everyone." Well guess what? There's not, research proves it. This isn't the movies where underdogs make miraculous feats and wind up with their dream girl, this is real life where socially anxious people can really have struggles and many people die alone. I'm not trying to be negative, I'm trying to be realistic.

How many of those 1.5% are people who die before they are 20? 18? 16? Honestly when thinking about this I would rather not be "realistic," especially with something as unmeasurable, irrational, and unpredictable as love.
 

JamesSmith

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How many of those 1.5% are people who die before they are 20? 18? 16? Honestly when thinking about this I would rather not be "realistic," especially with something as unmeasurable, irrational, and unpredictable as love.

I'm sorry, I wasn't clear on that statistic. I meant people that live out close to a full life, people age 60 and above. If you added people that are 20 or 30 or something when they die, it's an even higher % .As opposed to being realistic, we should be unrealistic? I don't understand how being unrealistic would even make sense. I think you got the wrong idea from my post. I wasn't saying the one who posted the message that I responded to wasn't going to find love. I was saying there is a chance that they won't. I never said love can't be unpredictable, but I know for a fact there are millions of people that never find love. I was disagreeing with what some many people say: "Oh don't worry, you'll find someone, everyone finds someone." According to scientific research statistics, millions of people don't find someone. I am against that quote because it's dishonest. What is shocking to me is that you think every single person who lives their full life on the planet finds love. That would be impossible.
 
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awkwardamanda

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Actually, there is a chance you won't find someone. I can't really give u odds because I don't know that much about you, but what I do know is that in the world roughly 1.5% of people die virgins, and 4% of people never get married in their lifetime. Somebody has to fit in this fat 1.5% and a lot of those people are obviously people like us, the one's with social anxiety disorder and are afraid to go out as much as more "normal" people, or some of us just never even go out at all. I'd say the rest are super religious people and such. But, I've read in these forums a lot, and I see people complaining all the time about not having a partner, and according to research some of you will live the rest of your life alone. The old quote says "There's someone for everyone." Well guess what? There's not, research proves it. This isn't the movies where underdogs make miraculous feats and wind up with their dream girl, this is real life where socially anxious people can really have struggles and many people die alone. I'm not trying to be negative, I'm trying to be realistic.

A portion of that (how much, I don't know) must include people who are severely physically or mentally disabled.
 

awkwardamanda

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As far as I'm concerned, we fit into that category. We have a mental disability (Social Anxiety Disorder).

True, but that's not what I was referring to. I was thinking more along the lines of people who are severely autistic or that sort of thing. There are people who can't comprehend much of what goes on around them and need to be under supervision their whole lives. I'm deliberately being vague here, but I think it's clear why people like that won't ever be in any intimate relationship.
 

JamesSmith

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True, but that's not what I was referring to. I was thinking more along the lines of people who are severely autistic or that sort of thing. There are people who can't comprehend much of what goes on around them and need to be under supervision their whole lives. I'm deliberately being vague here, but I think it's clear why people like that won't ever be in any intimate relationship.

It sounds like you don't think that many people that have Social Anxiety Disorder die virgins. You are right that people who have autism, mental retardation, deaf, or other problems like that could fit into the 1.5%. But I believe part of that % is filled up by people with Social Anxiety Disorder. I hope you don't actually think that everyone with Social Anxiety Disorder gets in a relationship eventually, because that isn't true.
 
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