Do you want to fall in love?

[Illusions]

I'd want to fall in love, definitely, provided the other party reciprocates it. Unrequited love sucks real bad.

 

[WriterChick3]

Yeah ... but I am pretty skeptical of love due to knowing some certain people in real life who I've watched their relationship become worse and crumble ... and it's had an affect on me because of how bad it is and how badly he has treated me/my family -- not something a kid should deal with.
But yeah, I'd like to fall in love; I am just not excited about the heartbreak part. Heartbreak hurts like ... well, something painful.

 

[Daz]

Have done before. Never again.

At least not until i have overcame my problems.

I'm happy being with me at the moment. I need to learn to love myself, before i can love someone else again. But you never know what the future holds.

 

[Falkor]

Yes. But first I want to become more secure of myself.
But love is beautiful..
But I got hurt really much ,, 2 girls have broke contact with me
because I told them about my sa ::

It was the most painful thing ever

 

[fife_girl]

iv been in love once and was heart broken after 3 yrs on and off. was engaged to her and was going to live together, it crushed me, im completely over her now and if falling in love again ment risking the heartache id jump at the chance!! life is too short! I definately want to meet a nice girl i can fall in love with and treat well ...wishful thinking but maybe 1 day! lol

''people who build walls to keep out heart ache keep out joy aswell''

 

[arsenalwa]

As I said somewhere else, if someone fell in love with me I'd really feel bad for them.

 

[fife_girl]

As I said somewhere else, if someone fell in love with me I'd really feel bad for them.

lol awww why????

 

[bsebring]

The way I look at relationships is if it happens then it's great, but if it doesn't that's ok to. I've learned that you can't force someone to like you, it has to happen naturally. So, to answer your question...yes I'd love to date. However, I'd want it to be with someone who wants it just as much as I do and is willing to make an effort to have a real consummate relationship, not just a friends with benefits or on again off again fling.

 

[3lefts]

I'm just terrified of loving some one altogether. I've ended up hurting the people I love because I was trying to push them away. I still struggle with myself not to do so.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I want to fall in love, but at the same time I'm afraid to. As soon as I confide in someone and let them into my heart, they simply rip it apart like it's a worthless sheet of paper.

 

[Feathers]

I'm afraid of hurting others too..

I've been hurt in the past too, but not so much.. It was a learning experience anyway...

Malice, maybe you trust too soon? People need to earn your trust slowly.. you need to really get to know them well.. (at least that's the theory )

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

Malice, maybe you trust too soon? People need to earn your trust slowly.. you need to really get to know them well.. (at least that's the theory )

I'm aware of that, but that wasn't the case in my experiences. My first boyfriend was a friend of the family and I knew him very well. I used to consider him to be like a brother to me, but I eventually fell for him. When it turned out that the feeling was mutual, we started a relationship and were together for a while until he decided to cheat on me with someone I considered to be a "good friend", but apparently I was wrong on that aspect. My second boyfriend... well, it's a long and painful story, but he was someone I learned to trust after three years of friendship.

For the most part, I blame myself for choosing to go after people I considered to be close. Getting into a relationship with someone that close to you, especially a friend, isn't the greatest of ideas because the second that relationship ends, things will be awkward between you guys and things will never be the same afterwards. It's best to stay friends and not take that friendship for granted.

 

[gazelle]

Yes!
I already have. Unfortunately it's the unrequited kind. She's with her soul-mate, sadly (for me: otherwise I'm totally happy for the both of them)

That sounds like true love being happy for the person you love even if he/she doesn't belong to you and is happy with someone else.

 

[AGR]

Only if the right girl comes along and IF she likes me.

 

[N1LOY]

Love is overpowered/overrated and just like a feeling. [/science]

 

[JamesSmith]

I never go out anymore so I don't know anyone, so of course I'm alone and will be alone for a while. My view of "love" has changed the more time I've had to think about it. I don't believe love is what most people think it is. What i really think love is is fear. Yes, love is fear that you will go the rest of your life without a partner to be with and have sex with. That's not what love is supposed to be, but it is. Love never made sense to me. I've never been in love or have been loved, and never seen people in love either. I have been a little sheltered so my opinion isn't a great opinion, I know that, and also realize I may be bitter. I also believe marriage is something people do because it's socially acceptable. It's the same with having kids. You want people to look at you and say "those people are great people. They must be happy because they have kids and are married." I question love, it all sounds too easy and fairy tale-like.

 

[Dronee]

I question love, it all sounds too easy and fairy tale-like.

I recently met up with a friend who had two kids. He was genuinely happy. Of course, there's no fairy tale... But he was happy. I've had several colleagues in the past. Their lives are stressful and filled with difficulties. Yet, I've every confidence that with their personalities and resilience, they'll be happy with their respective spouses.

Love isn't easy. But I think that actual love is resilient and mature with time. Haha.. I'm ranting. Anyway, I've yet to find anyone that attracts me seriously.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

yes just so i know it's still possible ;( wah wah lol

 

[JamesSmith]

Their lives are stressful and filled with difficulties.

That's what I don't understand. Why would you want more stress and difficulties just so you can have someone to have sex with on a regular basis? To me, that's all love is: Guaranteed sex for the rest of your life (unless divorce of course). The only thing besides sex in a marriage is having someone to talk to, but I don't get why you need that person to be the opposite sex. That's what friends are for, to talk to. You don't need to be married to have someone to converse with regularly. I just don't get the whole partners for life thing, I don't see why you need just one partner when you can have more than one friend there for you.

 

[vj288]

That's what I don't understand. Why would you want more stress and difficulties just so you can have someone to have sex with on a regular basis? To me, that's all love is: Guaranteed sex for the rest of your life (unless divorce of course). The only thing besides sex in a marriage is having someone to talk to, but I don't get why you need that person to be the opposite sex. That's what friends are for, to talk to. You don't need to be married to have someone to converse with regularly. I just don't get the whole partners for life thing, I don't see why you need just one partner when you can have more than one friend there for you.

Wow, that made me sad. Maybe I'm too much of an idealist, but I think you're missing some stuff.