would a guy like a girl who has no ..friends?
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It sounds simplistic but I think it comes down to how attractive you are to the person you're dealing with. It doesn't matter how much of a loser you are; if you have the approval of that individual you can do no wrong. I went out with (and later married) a successful woman who was popular, outgoing, affable - the antithesis of what I'm all about. But it worked because she liked me, and I was into the convenience of it. There were times when I felt like (and others implied) that I was dead wood, yet I was the one to walk out on her once we separated. I did gain confidence from those years with her, though.
Aside from that relationship, I've noticed that it doesn't seem to matter how well-connected you are when it comes to finding a partner. Girls have always seemed to understand my situation well enough and be at least semi-understanding about it. All it really takes is the ability to come out of your shell to some degree, enough to be able to bond with that one person you're interested in.
I should add that now I'm dating a younger girl, and it doesn't bother her in the least that I don't know a soul. So I do think the no-friends thing is a non-issue in the right circumstances.
Aside from that relationship, I've noticed that it doesn't seem to matter how well-connected you are when it comes to finding a partner. Girls have always seemed to understand my situation well enough and be at least semi-understanding about it. All it really takes is the ability to come out of your shell to some degree, enough to be able to bond with that one person you're interested in.
I should add that now I'm dating a younger girl, and it doesn't bother her in the least that I don't know a soul. So I do think the no-friends thing is a non-issue in the right circumstances.
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The amount of friends someone has makes no difference to me liking them. In fact it's quite comforting for me if they don't have a huge list of social contacts, because then they're more likely to appreciate my friendship.
I often think "this person has loads of friends, they don't need me at all," and I end up distancing myself from them because of it - kind of like feeling rejection without ever actually being formally rejected!
I often think "this person has loads of friends, they don't need me at all," and I end up distancing myself from them because of it - kind of like feeling rejection without ever actually being formally rejected!
this_portrait
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Sometimes I think that guys would judge me for not having too many friends (and contact with those friends as well), but for the most part, I don't give a shit about what a guy thinks of my social life (or lack thereof).
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mrb
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its the girl that matters isnt it ? not how many freinds she has , or how great her social life is ? wouldnt matter to me , in fact this may seem a little selfish but a small part of me would like that 
cos we could go and do stuff together all the time instead of her being with her mates ect .... just her and me ... having said that id try to get her to know a few of my freinds , but if she didnt want to well... thats fine as well .....
cos we could go and do stuff together all the time instead of her being with her mates ect .... just her and me ... having said that id try to get her to know a few of my freinds , but if she didnt want to well... thats fine as well ..... Of course a guy could like you even though you dont have any friends, but still I believe friends are very important for girls so they have someone to talk to. It is not every thing they can or will talk to their boyfriend/partner/family about. There are some personal things where a friend is very helpful
Mythos & Logos
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They might find it odd after the fact, that's a possibility, but it's also possible they seen you're a bit of a loner & that was part of the attraction, it could go both ways
zav943
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I wouldn't care. In fact, it's better if you have no friends than if you have too many friends because, in the latter case, you just become intimidating and difficult to approach.
Down the line, however, if you're in a relationship, having a friend really helps, because otherwise you will get clingy, and if you're going through a rough patch, it will be that much harder to deal with it when you have no one but your boyfriend to talk to during the process.
And here's a pointer for you (in case you haven't already guessed): Guys who have dated a lot of girls in the past, more often than not, will try to avoid girls that have no friends because they'll realize that such girls are 'high maintenance' and need to be committed to.
Down the line, however, if you're in a relationship, having a friend really helps, because otherwise you will get clingy, and if you're going through a rough patch, it will be that much harder to deal with it when you have no one but your boyfriend to talk to during the process.
And here's a pointer for you (in case you haven't already guessed): Guys who have dated a lot of girls in the past, more often than not, will try to avoid girls that have no friends because they'll realize that such girls are 'high maintenance' and need to be committed to.
You are what, 18? I forget.
Your standards may change if you ever end up dating a really hot girl with a terrible personality.
Then, maybe not.
Pookah
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That is sad. Especially for the girl, she deserves better than you.
Beauty doesn't last forever. Compatibility will count for something when you are old. When you need a companion to talk to.
Hellhound
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With that mentality, you're going to get hurt... a lot...
Edit: You might hurt your partner as well, considering you'd "love" her for the way she looks and not for what she is.
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Enialis227
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For what its worth, I wouldn't give a ****.
Felgen
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So if a hot girl had nothing to offer besides her looks, you'd still want to spend the rest of your life with her?