Skipping Graduation
- Thread starter jaim38
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I've ducked out of 4 major graduation ceremonies so far. :thumbup:
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Wait, 5. I forgot one. :bigsmile:
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Wait, 5. I forgot one. :bigsmile:
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LeDiskoLove99
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First of all congratulations! You graduated college, that's EXCELLENT! And I totally understand why you aren't going, don't let anyone bug you over it. If you don't feel comfortable going, don't go. Hey who cares? You still graduated! That's still something to be majorly proud of, screw the ceremony, have one in your head! Haha.
That's a lot! Let's see, there's elementary, intermediate, high school, college, and grad school graduation. The only graduations I went to are the ones in elementary and middle schools. In both graduations, everybody was dead quiet when I got up to get my awards. Nobody clapped/applauded, not even my so-called "friends". Yes, I was very unpopular.
Thanks! Exactly, the ceremony is just that. True graduation is when I pass all my courses and get the diploma. One could attend the ceremony, fail the courses, and still not graduate.
Heh. Wasn't counting grade school stuff. I definitely would have opted out of any such ceremonies if I'd had a choice, and had there actually been any.
I absolutely cannot stand any sort of official, ceremonial occasion. I can't even deal with other peoples' weddings. I was morally obligated to attend that of a close friend once, and it was a freakin' nightmare for me.
I absolutely cannot stand any sort of official, ceremonial occasion. I can't even deal with other peoples' weddings. I was morally obligated to attend that of a close friend once, and it was a freakin' nightmare for me.
hardy
Well-known member
Dear Jaim,
I am 32 and have seen all these problems earlier...but i have never had to deal with so much. My friends were nicer, parents quite cool. I wish you lots of strength. You are a sweet-heart from what i see in your messages. I can relate to you in some ways i think..! What with the Buddhism and all..!?
But please don't forget to appreciate the good one's for all the bullies and mean people out there. We forget to be grateful to all the things we have and that causes depression. For all the bullies in my life, i found an angel later on in my life. Karma? i think so...i would never have appreciated the geeks and the badly bullied people if i hadn't got a glimpse of how it feels.
I am 32 and have seen all these problems earlier...but i have never had to deal with so much. My friends were nicer, parents quite cool. I wish you lots of strength. You are a sweet-heart from what i see in your messages. I can relate to you in some ways i think..! What with the Buddhism and all..!?
But please don't forget to appreciate the good one's for all the bullies and mean people out there. We forget to be grateful to all the things we have and that causes depression. For all the bullies in my life, i found an angel later on in my life. Karma? i think so...i would never have appreciated the geeks and the badly bullied people if i hadn't got a glimpse of how it feels.
Alosha_Ali
Member
hunny you shouldn't be negative like that
I know how you feel I suffer too from this shit but you should keep trying till your last breath
maybe you will say what is going to help if I went to my graduation ceremony
its not going to help me to get over my phobia
well you don't know ?? anything could help you and make you close to your target which is getting over your phobiaerfect:
I know how you feel I suffer too from this shit but you should keep trying till your last breath
maybe you will say what is going to help if I went to my graduation ceremony
its not going to help me to get over my phobia
well you don't know ?? anything could help you and make you close to your target which is getting over your phobia
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Odo
Banned
I attended mine... I didn't want to go because I wasn't really proud of my degree, but ultimately I went and it was alright. They give you a robe ahead of time and all you have to do is walk up on stage and shake the man's hand when he hands you your degree... you don't stand out at all because to the majority it's just this long line of people in the same outfit. Nobody will care about you or notice you except for your parents.
It was pretty boring to sit there through the rest of it, but you only have to do it once and it's not the end of the world. Really, it's not for you at all-- it's for the people who care about you and who want to see you graduate.
Really, I think you should go... you can watch movies any time and movies aren't really important. It sounds like you're calling a lot more attention to yourself by not going...
It was pretty boring to sit there through the rest of it, but you only have to do it once and it's not the end of the world. Really, it's not for you at all-- it's for the people who care about you and who want to see you graduate.
Really, I think you should go... you can watch movies any time and movies aren't really important. It sounds like you're calling a lot more attention to yourself by not going...
Thanks everyone for your replies!
When I first made this thread, I was very conflicted. People say things like high school/college graduation is a major milestone in life, it's a one time thing, you must go and take pictures for commemoration, etc etc. People make it sound like a big deal. When I decided not to go, I got berated. So being the sensitive person that I am, a part of me felt ashamed for not wanting to go. But then again, I feel like a people pleaser if I change my decision just because other people said to.
On graduation day, I just want to feel good, pamper myself a little, for all the hard work I did over the school years. I don't want to be stuck in traffic, stuck in some stadium for 5-6 hours, feeling uncomfortable around large crowds of people, most likely standing/sitting by myself while people around me talk, and being anxious the entire time. This is NOT graduation, it's more like forcing myself to wear some robe and perform some societal ritual.
When I first made this thread, I was very conflicted. People say things like high school/college graduation is a major milestone in life, it's a one time thing, you must go and take pictures for commemoration, etc etc. People make it sound like a big deal. When I decided not to go, I got berated. So being the sensitive person that I am, a part of me felt ashamed for not wanting to go. But then again, I feel like a people pleaser if I change my decision just because other people said to.
On graduation day, I just want to feel good, pamper myself a little, for all the hard work I did over the school years. I don't want to be stuck in traffic, stuck in some stadium for 5-6 hours, feeling uncomfortable around large crowds of people, most likely standing/sitting by myself while people around me talk, and being anxious the entire time. This is NOT graduation, it's more like forcing myself to wear some robe and perform some societal ritual.
Odo
Banned
You didn't deserve to be berated, but ceremonies like this have existed for a very very long time and some people are going to get upset whenever someone else chooses not to participate in them (without a valid reason). A lot of these things aren't about you, they're about tradition, society, culture, etc... and backing out can be taken as an insult, or at the very least are going to make you seem odd. But if you're comfortable with your decision then that's all that really matters... you're the one who has to live with yourself!
LazyHermitCrab
Well-known member
Lol the ceremony is a waste of time. Don't go because that's what you want, not that you want to go and are afraid. You should still celebrate like go out to dinner or something. Congratulations and I hope you find the job you want and/or make your own business...