The first week is the one where you have to get used to your surroundings and what your life is going to be like. Now that all that's passed you can concentrate on just being who you are and hopefully you'll be accepted by a bunch of nice people at your school.
As you know, school is a difficult environment for making friends and keeping them. Not everyone is loyal to each other and it can be a real headache. At least it was for me, anyway, and I would hope you have no such troubles.
You're more than welcome. If you ever want to chat about anything, you know how to reach me.
Yes, yes you are right the first week is definitely the most difficult and the biggest breakthrough. I hope so, too. I am not worried I will find someone to talk to, I know that will come in time. What I'm worried about is my conscience telling me I didn't do well enough, I'm more socially awkward than others, and anyone else would have adjusted so much better. I guess,what I'm saying is that I'm scared of that awful feeling: unfulfillment, letting myself down, loneliness. But not the outside loneliness... the inside loneliness. I'm scared of my own critique and how bad it will hurt. Hahaha I hope that makes sense
Thank you for replying!
And I saw your post about saying "no" and I think that it's great progress! Assertiveness is a skill NEEDED in life, and in my opinion, it will make you happier, make you feel more confident, more in control. And those feelings are needed, they will help you to build up your self-esteem! You need to start worrying about yourself more!
But I do understand where you are coming from: I'm EXACTLY the same. I was talked into TOO many things, including hosting a huge party at my house. Bad idea.
^ I know how you feel. Moving to a new school is always tough. I moved to NY when I was 10, and even though I didn't have SA then, it was still hard for me to fit in. I never fully fit in here either. Coming from the city to an extremely small rural town, people around here don't always accept you. While elementary school was fine for me, by high school everyone changed and I was teased quite a bit. I did have friends though in high school, even if some of those friends weren't exactly the best. I don't mean to dampen your spirits with my negative experiences, as it's different for everyone. I will say this though, the one place where I felt I truly belonged was in Yearbook club. When I joined, it was just something to do, I didn't think I'd stick with it. I was in it for 5 years, made co-editor in chief last year, was (and still am) friends with my advisor, and it was tons of fun. (Even though a couple of the people I worked with weren't the friendliest) My advice to you is to join a club or two, while also following Mikey's advice with being friendly. That's how you meet new people and make friends. Good luck!
Thank you for the advice! And I'm sorry to hear that High School wasn't/ isn't paradise for you, but as I've been told multiple times, who you are and what you do in High school never reflects what will happen in the future! I'm also glad you found something that you really enjoyed! However, are you still in high school?
I am on the swim team but I have been skipping out on practice lately because I had a lot of school work to do. However, I will start two-hour training everyday, starting from next week! Hoping to meet some nice people there
And yes, starting in a new environment is always hard, I do understand that, it's just that I feel I have no excuse for being that unsociable. I'm here for almost four weeks! I should be fitting in just right by now and that's what gets me down: I did worst than I expected.
Ughhh, I hate limiting my smiley faces hahahah
