Post your random thoughts/feelings etc

[Megaten]

I understand that we all do... But what I meant was, how do they stop themselves from doing it in a public setting? I hate getting emotional in front of others, but its not in my control. Its just a reaction, and I can't stop it.

I'd kill to be able to hold all that for a more private setting.

To be honest I think the way we're brought up has something to do with it too. I dunno about the other guys here, but crying was a quick way to get made fun of by other boys. I think we're good at hiding those feelings because we've had decades of practice. Some dudes even think smiling too much is bad. I'll see Facebook pics of guys with their girlfriends and while the woman is smiling, the guy has this hard look on his face. I myself got ridiculed for smiling in my boot camp graduation pic. I smiled for my mother but apparently the other troops felt that a soldier should look "hard" in any pictures.

 

[Ithior]

Jeez, how do most men do it to not get emotional so easily?! I was watching a video at work during a meeting that focused on neglected children. There was one more woman besides me, and five men. The other woman and I were a mess at the end of the video. I had to exit the room before they turned on the lights. Because I was sitting behind everyone, I was able to observe everyone, and none of the men were crying. I understand that women tend to be more emotional, but damn. I hate that I can't just hold it in. I cry for anything sad. I just piss myself off.

Maybe they just don't feel so strongly about it. There have been situations where people start crying and I just don't feel it, it's not like I'm holding it in.

 

[Graeme1988]

I do wonder if its purely hormonal, or if the psychological factor has a greater part in it. Because, I definitely fear being ridiculed too... But I can understand how men have been conditioned to shut that off completely because of gender expectations.

Those 2 things could very well factor into it, nodejesque. And I totally understand yer fear of being ridiculed, but - and don't take umbrage with this - it's more acceptable for wimmin to be emotional. I mean, when it comes to crying openly. No-one, for the most part, points an laughs, or calls ye names when ye do. Except for a small few, like bullies, for example.

Whereas guys are more prone to being called "wussy" or "soft" or a "big Jessy" for showing any emotional vunerablity. So that stong, tough outward appearance need to be maintained. Aye, sure we could be absolute devastated on the inside, but we'll weep in another room on our own, rather than cry in front of others.

Really it comes down to the culture in which yer raised in, and how that shapes you. Especially if yer raised in a very macho culture.

 

[SoScared]

I just kind of lost control and let my emotions out. We were in a forced meeting and none of us wanted to be there. All of us were experiencing considerable distress which we all exhibited how we do habitually. The tough guy of the group conceded that he starts sweating as soon as he enters the room such is the oppressive atmosphere.

I was behaving in the same way that I used to before I set off on this self improvement journey which is not a good look. Interestingly I've been drinking some strong coffee for the last couple of days. I should not do this because it clearly makes me most unwell every time I drink a few cups. Not only does it make me unwell it also make me behave oddly.

 

[Megaten]

Those 2 things could very well factor into it, nodejesque. And I totally understand yer fear of being ridiculed, but - and don't take umbrage with this - it's more acceptable for wimmin to be emotional. I mean, when it comes to crying openly. No-one, for the most part, points an laughs, or calls ye names when ye do. Except for a small few, like bullies, for example.

Whereas guys are more prone to being called "wussy" or "soft" or a "big Jessy" for showing any emotional vunerablity. So that stong, tough outward appearance need to be maintained. Aye, sure we could be absolute devastated on the inside, but we'll weep in another room on our own, rather than cry in front of others.

Really it comes down to the culture in which yer raised in, and how that shapes you. Especially if yer raised in a very macho culture.

Or my all time favorite "man up". I'd probably cry more if I didn't think it made me look weak tbh. I often feel it coming if I see something emotional during a movie. Like San Andreas or Furious 7. But I will usually crack a joke to lighten the mood or think about something else.

 

[Graeme1988]

Or my all time favorite "man up". I'd probably cry more if I didn't think it made me look weak tbh.

Oh, that cliché... Pisses me off, personal. :thumbdown:

I often feel it coming if I see something emotional during a movie. Like San Andreas or Furious 7. But I will usually crack a joke to lighten the mood or think about something else.

Aye, ah do that with The Shawshank Redemption, myself.

 

[BlackPuma]

It has its perks, like not being hardwired to a cellphone 24/7, or being plugged into nonstop "news" channels that just fool you into thinking a single bad event has happened 100 times that day.

But still, when it comes to entertainment I need to be hip, maaaaaaaaaan. :bigsmile:

As I understand it, old people qualify for brand new ones. :ironicsmile:

 

[this_portrait]

I do wonder if its purely hormonal, or if the psychological factor has a greater part in it. Because, I definitely fear being ridiculed too... But I can understand how men have been conditioned to shut that off completely because of gender expectations.

Maybe I'm just abnormal, but I tend to harden myself when I'm around others and keep any emotional discomfort inside. I may get teary-eyed, but it takes a lot to make me completely lose it (though maybe I'm just desensitized to a lot). I also used to try and refrain from crying or getting emotional as a kid, because to me (just like with a lot of the boys), crying "made you look like a baby." Being teased probably contributed to my emotional hardening over time as well. Or maybe growing up in a family with a history of alcoholism has messed with my ability to properly express emotions.

 

[anomicdeer]

My bottom eye lid hads been twitching so much.

I bet it's stress. Which is a lot of what I'm going through now and I just can't control it...

 

[FountainandFairfax]

As I understand it, old people qualify for brand new ones. :ironicsmile:

I'll see you in Hell.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

My bottom eye lid hads been twitching so much.

I bet it's stress. Which is a lot of what I'm going through now and I just can't control it...

Mine does that when I'm stressed, it's very annoying.

 

[Razzlecherry]

My bottom eye lid hads been twitching so much.

I bet it's stress. Which is a lot of what I'm going through now and I just can't control it...

Dude, the same thing is happening to me. Thought I was having a stroke or something.

 

[Graeme1988]

Whit da f**k's gan oan here, then? Ah just got an email about 2 of threads I'm subscribed to on here. Needless tae say, thank you tae whoever took the time to fix the email problem. :thumbup erfect:

Not had a thread subscription update in... Oh, must be well over a year in ma case.

Again, cheers for gettin' the issue sorted. :applause:

 

[MollyBeGood]

I can't live in a house with wooden floors. My dog loves carpet. He scratches and paws at it and when he does lay down, finally, he hits the ground like a sack of potatoes. The padding underneath the carpet keeps him from hurting himself. I used to live in a place with dyed concrete floors and he would be dead by now if that was all he had to lay on. He really likes non-comfy surfaces-it's weird. He prefers a floor to a dog bed for example. I cannot imagine having a kid. A dog is about all I can handle, some days not even that.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Stinking YouTube Batman trolls.

 

[SCP-087-1]

It's amazing how quickly I can mess everything up. I was doing so well and then I mess everything up and now I'm back to square one.

Anyone have anything important they need messed up? I could do it for you in record time. It's my special skill

 

[Ithior]

Finally gave in and started an OkCupid profile. I always avoided that but I saw something yesterday night that made me really sad, and it somehow motivated me to work on this. Better to try online dating and fail than to not try anything at all.
Still have to write my profile and upload a photo, but it's a start.

 

[Ithior]

I noticed something pretty good about myself today. Yesterday I saw a facebook post that was pretty normal, but the implications of it made my imagination run wild. The things I imagined made me very sad and lonely, and I'll even admit I cried a bit, which is something I don't do often. But even though I was feeling pretty down, I instinctively picked my phone and started trying to do something about it. This morning I even convinced myself to create an OkCupid profile, which is something I've been avoiding for a long time.

What I noticed was that whenever I feel down or sad or frustrated, I start working on it almost immediately. I had never noticed how quickly I get myself back up after I fall.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

I had a dream last night that I met Axl Rose. He invited me and my family over to his place, but I had to find him because when we got there he was hiding in this huge labyrinth of rooms and hallways with many floors.

I finally located him when I heard him softly singing "Night Train" and was able to follow the trail of his voice. I can sing a little, so I walked into the dark room and picked up the verse just as it goes "Feeling like a space brain one more time tonight..." He jumped up laughing and we sang along, until we finished the song.

Then he served me and my family spaghetti.


Don't ask me.

 

[Phoenixx]

I wish this semester was over so I could focus on work....