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grapevine

grapevine

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I wish I could say I feel great- but I feel like nothing today. And I cant help but see that it quite possibly is because of social phobia : ( . I mean for a person to actively ignore you - but be friendly with everyone else- (thats got to be mirroring right?) Because I find it soooo hard to talk to this person - esp when its a guy you like. But its like - I know that I am doing that- and have for ages - ignore and seem rude- even in conversation. But anyway - this person knows I have sp- So I just feel unimportant and lonely thats all.
 
PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
I remember reading about how 'Elves' live.. in huge trees, walkways between them, not harming them but living in perfect harmony.Massive canopies providing cover.. Peaceful, inclusive societies where one can be themselves and be accepted.

Reality sucks phat ones too.
 
PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
why is it that when a science article is in the local paper here, every religious nut feels the need to come out and say its all (their version of their) gods doing?

A story about mass extinction events coinciding with unusually low volcanic, tectonic and earthquake activity was printed today and with all the 'gods work' comments it was like someone had left the gates open to the funny farm and all the nutters got out..
 
Steiner

Steiner

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Always fun to go to the doctor and get told your loon and to take your meds. Oh wait no it's not. Though I probably don't disagree with the diagnosis of being a crazy person.
 
Ithior

Ithior

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Some people keep complaining that I don't talk. They just don't understand that I don't do small talk.
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
Razzlecherry said:
I thought my dark days were waayy behind me, but I think I'm starting to feel depressed. I forgot how much it sucks.
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Sorry to hear that yer feelin' that way, Razzle. Hope ya get through it and put yer dark days behind ya once again. Or to put another way... Feel better soon. :thumbup:

BlackPuma said:
Sometimes I wonder whether it's better to have no friends at all than needy ones.
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I'd rather have none. Needy people/friends or even family aren't exactly great to be around in my experience. Always want validation and attention, it can be quite draining, especially if you don't have much time for 'em.

Ithior said:
Some people keep complaining that I don't talk. They just don't understand that I don't do small talk.
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Yep ! I can relate, my family are the worst for this. No matter how many times I explain exactly what you said, Ithior. Even apologising for it, they still give me grief every chance they get.
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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I've been attending a CBT group on campus for the past two weeks. I'm already thinking about quitting. I really don't like the guy who's hosting it. I mean, he's probably a nice dude and all, but I am just not feeling any sort of connection. Instead, after every meeting I end up feeling worse than when I went in.

The guy who's hosting it really isn't that good. He doesn't seem all that.... sympathetic I suppose? Like, when we're asked a question, say, how we're feeling and what thoughts go with those feelings, he makes everyone say something. He literally forces you to say something, puts you on the spot, and that I do not like. I understand there's suppose to be a slight bit of challenge to this group, to share your feelings and thoughts with others, but it shouldn't feel like it's forced upon you. A common statement he says is, "I don't want to hear myself talk. Someone say something or I'm going to start picking at random."

How is that going to get anyone better? How is that going to help someone be comfortable enough to come out of their shell and share their experiences? It doesn't make any sense. I'm already 2 meetings in and it already feels like emotional boot camp. No me gusta. :thumbdown:
 
vj288

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
Opaline said:
Talking about introversion, extraversion, and social anxiety in my psychology class today, my professor said he believes many - maybe most - people with social anxiety are extraverts because they have a deep desire to socialize and are unable to, whereas an introvert might not be as upset as much of the time about lack of connection. Not to say socially anxious introverts would never feel distress due to loneliness, etc, but theoretically they would be better able to cope with being alone a lot than an extravert because they are more inclined to want to be alone more often anyway.

Given it's a sliding spectrum, I wonder if one can fall at different points on the scale at different times of life as opposed to it being a fundamental aspect of one's personality. I say this because I fit the definition of introvert much more as a child to my late teens, but as an adult I find myself falling more toward the extraverted side (with social anxiety). It's probably more complicated than that though, and I have thought for a while now I might be smack in the middle anyway.
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That's an interesting idea brought up by your professor, it's something that has crossed my mind too. Not about all people with Social Anxiety, but myself. His thinking seems to make sense, that people who want to be more social would have a harder time than those who don't as much, but I do see a couple possible flaws. The first being that if people are more unhappy about the anxiety, that seems to be an cause of depression, and not as much a issue for anxiety. Enjoying being alone more may make isolation better, but it doesn't mean when you go out it brings less anxiety. And if someone is an introvert who spends more time by themselves, there may be a better chance they have less confidence in social situations, as they are in them less often, also possibly making things harder.

I think the conclusion I usually come to, at least about myself, is that when I felt like I wanted to go out and talk to people, be social and whatnot, it was because it was because I was lacking it from my life, not because I wanted to do it all the time. I feel more confident in that train of thinking in hindsight now that I have gotten out of my shell a bit, and I cherish my alone time now. Now that I feel, to some degree, I can be in social situations, it's not something keeping me down. I'm still the same person, and often dead silent around new people, but having those few outlets makes all the difference to me.
 
Something-Vague

Something-Vague

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Annoyed when people say "X is so bad, so Y isn't important at ALL." For instance, people who talk about women having acid thrown in their face and enduring extreme abuse versus the western world, particularly the US, where the inequalities are not exactly the same. BOTH need to be addressed. "X is so bad, and Y isn't good either." is the way I look at it. Why not deal with both? There are so many important issues out there with various intricacies of how to deal with the inner mechanisms. One shouldn't totally dismiss one symptom of a negative issue because there are other, more distressing problems. So, too, just because someone focuses on what some people see as a "lesser part of the problem" in one instance, it does not mean that is ALL that they focus on.
 
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grammarsweet

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I am so excited for our trip next week. We'll be going to Palawan (Philippines) next week for 5 days. This is a 3-day business trip but will extend for another 2 to roam around and swim at the beach :)
 
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Razzlecherry

Banned
Something-Vague said:
Annoyed when people say "X is so bad, so Y isn't important at ALL." For instance, people who talk about women having acid thrown in their face and enduring extreme abuse versus the western world, particularly the US, where the inequalities are not exactly the same. BOTH need to be addressed. "X is so bad, and Y isn't good either." is the way I look at it. Why not deal with both? There are so many important issues out there with various intricacies of how to deal with the inner mechanisms. One shouldn't totally dismiss one symptom of a negative issue because there are other, more distressing problems. So, too, just because someone focuses on what some people see as a "lesser part of the problem" in one instance, it does not mean that is ALL that they focus on.
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It really depends. I know someone who is constantly complaining about tap water. He will run around dropping "knowledge bombs" about how the government can throw chemicals in our water and how it's helping them control the population. Conspiracy theories aside, I can easily shut down his argument by saying that at least we have basically free water while people in Africa are dying from dehydration.
 
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