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PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
I've been watching this animae show called 'Sword Art Online'. It doesn't seem too bad.. I haven't watched animae (I think that's what you class it as) for years.
Anyone else seen it?
 
dottie

dottie

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Ugh it is difficult being friends with females... It is probably just a reflection of my own inadequacies and weirdness. And not all females, but a lot. When I talk to them I always am so afraid I am going to upset them and they will silently hold a grudge.

Whereas with a guy, I can say whatever and even if it doesn't sit well, they roll their eyes, they see the big picture, and it is water under the bridge. No big thing. It makes them easier to talk to.

ETA: It is me. :( I read into things too much. How to turn this off.
 
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Kiwong

Kiwong

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Lavinialuna said:
I found this interesting, and I think I will try to defeat that inner voice I have (which is giving me a real hassle today!)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWc4pZhnpOw
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It is interesting.

My analogy is that I try to turn the volume down on the critical voice, and turn the volume up on the voice of my guide, which is my helpful inner voice that gets drowned out by the useless white noise in my mind.
 
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Lavinialuna

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Kiwong said:
It is interesting.

My analogy is that I try to turn the volume down on the critical voice, and turn the volume up on the voice of my guide, which is my helpful inner voice that gets drowned out by the useless white noise in my mind.
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I need to work to be able to do that, but I am hopeful :)
 
BlueDays

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dottie said:
What are you sewing???
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I bought some good clothing from a second hand shop but it doesn't fit properly, so I have to adjust it.
Of course this happens when you just want to get out of the crowded shop so quickly that you don't try it on first. :eek:h:

dottie said:
Ugh it is difficult being friends with females... It is probably just a reflection of my own inadequacies and weirdness. And not all females, but a lot. When I talk to them I always am so afraid I am going to upset them and they will silently hold a grudge.

Whereas with a guy, I can say whatever and even if it doesn't sit well, they roll their eyes, they see the big picture, and it is water under the bridge. No big thing. It makes them easier to talk to.

ETA: It is me. :( I read into things too much. How to turn this off.
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^You are not the only one to notice how you have to tread on egg shells more when talking with other girls as opposed to guys. I have a theory why this is so, but I am not going into it here.:giggle:

Kiwong said:
I think that is where a journal is helpful. Start to filter out the good thoughts, from the useless angry white noise, by writing it all down.
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^That is true, Kiwong. :thumbup:
 
PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
dottie said:
:( I read into things too much. How to turn this off.
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Care less. I mean literally.
Care a bit less if you offend someone, or they hold a grudge.
Its not easy but it can be done.

If they are offended by something you say, you can always say 'oh lol I didn't mean it like that. Geez that came out the wrong way..'
Even if they go away secretly offended by something you've said, they will get over it!
In a few weeks time they prob wont even remember what you said.

Obviously you don't go around saying stupid things lol. But yea, care less :)
 
anomicdeer

anomicdeer

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I can't stand how my mother and father (not together anymore) seem to be best friends now especially when it come to me. He want me to call him and crap yet he called my mother instead and directly asking me something. Then if I every day anything to either one of them I notice all of the sudden they are on the phone talking to each other talking about me for whatever reason as if every single thing I do and say have to be discussed. I'm ****ing sick of it. Why can't I just actually talk and not feel like it was a big deal. That just makes me not want to say anything at all. I already know my mother like to tell everyone every ****ing thing so I know to keep my mouth shut and I don't want her to know anything.

 
dottie

dottie

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PugofCrydee said:
Care less. I mean literally.
Care a bit less if you offend someone, or they hold a grudge.
Its not easy but it can be done.

If they are offended by something you say, you can always say 'oh lol I didn't mean it like that. Geez that came out the wrong way..'
Even if they go away secretly offended by something you've said, they will get over it!
In a few weeks time they prob wont even remember what you said.

Obviously you don't go around saying stupid things lol. But yea, care less :)
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Thanks for the advice. It is interesting when you say it just like that... I've applied this to cope in the workplace and at school to an extent but I should probably extend that circle of NGAF a little further. Hmmm...
 
Ithior

Ithior

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Well first time we get an unannounced guest when my mum is drunk. A neighbour came asking something my mum told her before, but when my mum gets drunk she forgets a lot of things. My mum is playing the "I'm a bit sleepy" card.
 
PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
Ithior said:
Well first time we get an unannounced guest when my mum is drunk. A neighbour came asking something my mum told her before, but when my mum gets drunk she forgets a lot of things. My mum is playing the "I'm a bit sleepy" card.
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I can understand how you feel mate. My Ex wife was an alcoholic and used to do stuff like that. She'd forget stuff I'd told her only 3 minutes before.

It drove me frikken crazy.
 
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