I have so dang much to say, lots of experience and the wisdom that comes with my years, and yet I am afraid to speak out. I don't want to be afraid of conflict, that something I will say will offend someone, or that something that I say might anger someone- or they might just plain disagree. I am sick of being afraid, on edge, worried. I don't want to give a fig what anyone thinks. I JUST WANT TO SPEAK.
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#28222
Graeme1988 said: ↑I suck at life... Also I'm clueless when it comes tae usin' Adobe Photoshop
You are nice person Graeme:)
I am clueless about Photoshop too.
#28223
"When I was younger, I definitely let it get to me. As an adolescent, I was bitter and angry, and I definitely put up these walls. But the older you get, you realize you just have to have a sense of humor. You just know that it's not your problem. It's theirs." - Peter Dinklage
He's talking about having dwarfism, and while most people don't have to deal with that extreme of an issue, what he said can still apply in a lot of ways to many people.
For me, personally, I struggle with the way I look because of how young I look, but what Peter said is the truth - it's other people's problem and not my own. I'm the one with the young face, but people's reactions to it are based off of their own interpretation of things and their own outlook. I can't change my face, so what do they expect? Most people are tactful, but quite a few people are not. I have to remember that it's not my problem because there's nothing I can do about it. It's their problem.
I think the same thing goes for people with anxiety disorders, or anything else that isn't their fault and either can't be changed or is a work in progress/not easily changed. As bad as people's reactions can make you feel sometimes, remember that it's based off of what's going on inside of THEM and not what YOU are doing if it's simply a problem you have or something that makes you "different". Coyote says something like that a lot, and he's right 🙂
He's talking about having dwarfism, and while most people don't have to deal with that extreme of an issue, what he said can still apply in a lot of ways to many people.
For me, personally, I struggle with the way I look because of how young I look, but what Peter said is the truth - it's other people's problem and not my own. I'm the one with the young face, but people's reactions to it are based off of their own interpretation of things and their own outlook. I can't change my face, so what do they expect? Most people are tactful, but quite a few people are not. I have to remember that it's not my problem because there's nothing I can do about it. It's their problem.
I think the same thing goes for people with anxiety disorders, or anything else that isn't their fault and either can't be changed or is a work in progress/not easily changed. As bad as people's reactions can make you feel sometimes, remember that it's based off of what's going on inside of THEM and not what YOU are doing if it's simply a problem you have or something that makes you "different". Coyote says something like that a lot, and he's right 🙂
#28224
Pressure to do everything.
Pressure to be perfect.
Exhausted.
Pressure to be perfect.
Exhausted.
#28225
I feel like I am going to crack. I can't think.
#28226
^Who puts the pressure on you?
I'm glad I have a normal relationship with my sister now. Earlier, before she moved out, me and her barely ever talked and I was shy and anxious around her (don't know how this came to be so), but when she moved out and I became a lone 'child', I somehow gained confidence (perhaps it has something to with the increased attention?). Now I'm only very little shy/anxious around her when she comes to visit, and I feel no trouble talking to her.
#28228
"Victims of bullies suffer the psychological consequences all the way until middle age, with higher levels of depression, anxiety and suicide, new research shows."
Victims of bullying live with the consequences for decades, study says - latimes.com
Victims of bullying live with the consequences for decades, study says - latimes.com
#28229
^That is good! It's about time they published results of studies into it so we have evidence for the people who say "just get over it". :thumbup:kihira said: ↑"Victims of bullies suffer the psychological consequences all the way until middle age, with higher levels of depression, anxiety and suicide, new research shows."
Victims of bullying live with the consequences for decades, study says - latimes.com
I did not even have SA until I was systematically bullied. I have never been able to get the "old me" back. Thanks for posting this, kihira.
Anyone else ever feel like a talentless hack? I sure do.
#28231
Rawz said: ↑Anyone else ever feel like a talentless hack? I sure do.
Every time I do something that requires a meagre talent and/or skillset. There's always that.. wall. That one point which seams impossible to get passed.
It's one of those things that almost makes you afraid of trying.
#28232
kihira said: ↑"Victims of bullies suffer the psychological consequences all the way until middle age, with higher levels of depression, anxiety and suicide, new research shows."
Victims of bullying live with the consequences for decades, study says - latimes.com
Very accurate article. The bit about social isolation is very true for me. Education not as much, I did manage to get a higher education. High school was were my illness started. I really didn't acknowledge I had anxiety and depression until I developed panic disorder in my early forties, although I had depression probably from 30 without realising what it was.
A counsellor said to me, we are survivors, people who have survived bullying. It takes some strength to go on with that sort of pain. It is a kind of badge I wear with some pride.
kihira said: ↑"Victims of bullies suffer the psychological consequences all the way until middle age, with higher levels of depression, anxiety and suicide, new research shows."
Victims of bullying live with the consequences for decades, study says - latimes.com
Yep, I can say first hand that it follows you, like it or not, into middle age. I hope I someday am able to feel good about myself.
#28234
kihira said: ↑"Victims of bullies suffer the psychological consequences all the way until middle age, with higher levels of depression, anxiety and suicide, new research shows."
Victims of bullying live with the consequences for decades, study says - latimes.com
I wonder if there's a difference between those who stood up to their bullies and those who didn't...
Odo said: ↑I wonder if there's a difference between those who stood up to their bullies and those who didn't...
That would be interesting to find out! I personally didn't. I was taught to ignore it by my mother. I still harbor ill feelings about it. She was mother! She was supposed to come to my aid, and instead she just neglected to deal with it.
#28236
oh mah gawd!
Behold, the six-layer pizza cake - dinner and dessert in one | News.com.au
*drools* :bigsmile:
Behold, the six-layer pizza cake - dinner and dessert in one | News.com.au
*drools* :bigsmile:
#28237
BlueDays said: ↑oh mah gawd!
Behold, the six-layer pizza cake - dinner and dessert in one | News.com.au
*drools* :bigsmile:
..That's the last straw, I'm moving to Canada. Brb, immigrating.
#28238
^ Hahhaha, I thought you would! :bigsmile::thumbup:BlackPuma said: ↑..That's the last straw, I'm moving to Canada. Brb, immigrating.
#28239
Lavinialuna said: ↑That would be interesting to find out! I personally didn't. I was taught to ignore it by my mother. I still harbor ill feelings about it. She was mother! She was supposed to come to my aid, and instead she just neglected to deal with it.
I didn't either.
That bothers me more than the actual bullying.
I'm finding that ice cream is pretty soothing when I'm feeling down. I'm eating coffee ice cream, my favorite.