Post your random thoughts/feelings etc

[twiggle]

An older customer in a tuxedo told me he wanted a small black coffee and a donut. I asked him what kind of donut and he told me "I don't know yet. Just make my coffee and I'll let you know," in a less-than-polite tone. I don't think I need to say how it made me feel, but I was tempted to throw the coffee in his face. Thinking about it now is making my blood boil.

Some people, some PEOPLE, man... Between that kid trying to score and this guy (and my annoying shift leader), I need to have a nice long session with a punching bag. I guess I just have a low tolerance for pushy, rude, demanding people.

The whole mantra of "the customer's always right" does have an unfortunate tendency to empower the most rude and arrogant of people. Don't let people like that get to you - being abrupt with you was just his way of trying to think he's important
Your post has really made me want a doughnut now.

 

[BlackPuma]

An older customer in a tuxedo told me he wanted a small black coffee and a donut. I asked him what kind of donut and he told me "I don't know yet. Just make my coffee and I'll let you know," in a less-than-polite tone. I don't think I need to say how it made me feel, but I was tempted to throw the coffee in his face. Thinking about it now is making my blood boil.

Some people, some PEOPLE, man... Between that kid trying to score and this guy (and my annoying shift leader), I need to have a nice long session with a punching bag. I guess I just have a low tolerance for pushy, rude, demanding people.

So.. did he enjoy his spit-glazed-and-''accidentallly''-dropped-on-the-floor doughnut?

 

[coyote]

Yeah he was being quite a... phallus (that sounds super nerdy). I was tempted to but I just started working there and I don't want to get fired. I don't even know if I'd have had the nerve, anyway. Being assertive IRL is one of my biggest problems.

you could get a button imprinted with the Latin motto: "Non Permagnum Phallus" for your customers to read

 

[Srijita52]

I'm feeling the need of someone, who won't judge me for who I am. Someone who won't think I'm boring or stupid. Who would hug me and tell me, "Hey Sri, its gonna be all okay". They might be a friend, an SO or family, I don't care.
Yeah, I do know no such person exists in real life. Time to suck it up and move on *hugs herself*

 

[Graeme1988]

Facebook is so f**kin' depressing...

 

[Starry]

So, after the video I posted yesterday, I decided to find a full length version... I watched it this afternoon and I think it's wonderful. Nick is clearly a wonderful, amazing man and he is so inspiring. This video is well worth a watch for anyone not feeling good enough...

No Arms, No Legs, No Worries [Uncut, full version] - YouTube

 

[Opaline]

What is there to do on a Thursday night? I'd love to spend time with one of my friends but they all live at least 30 min away from me. This is the crappy thing about making friends after high school. If you're not in a residence hall at college, a lot of the friends you make will tend to live outside your immediate area, and if you don't have a car... :l

I guess I should just find something to do on my own. Like... reading! Yeah! ...nah. Crochet! ...no. Clean my room! ...........blurgh

 

[Opaline]

I'm feeling the need of someone, who won't judge me for who I am. Someone who won't think I'm boring or stupid. Who would hug me and tell me, "Hey Sri, its gonna be all okay". They might be a friend, an SO or family, I don't care.
Yeah, I do know no such person exists in real life. Time to suck it up and move on *hugs herself*

I think you're wrong about no such person existing, it's just a matter of finding them but I know that could take a lot of waiting, luck, etc.

Hope you feel better very soon.

 

[Ithior]

Facebook is so f**kin' depressing...

I see people saying things like that all of the time but I never understood it. Maybe I just use it differently or have different friends.


(yeah mister that's all you get, I wrote a huge wall of text about how I use facebook but no one would read it that way... :: )

 

[Beatmetrics]

There is nothing you could really do. If he's getting married to another women his heart is with her. Just be an adult, take the knife in the stomach feeling and just move on. You can't make him see you if he never saw you as a potential mate anyways. They go for who they want and will go out of there way to make sure it's known that they like you. Going after them just makes you look desperate. If it was a hit and miss than it was just that. Move forward with strength. Get in touch with your inner warrior!

 

[Ithior]

Right now I'm trying to figure why I have friends. I don't share much about myself and I only talk about university or football (soccer). I don't put much effort into these relationships, I often "ignore" sms (I read them, I just don't answer them many times), like I said before I don't open up, I can't make small talk, and the list goes on. Still, I have two groups of friends who hang out with me. And for example, if I need to go somewhere in the short interval between classes and a friend needs to go somewhere else, there's usually someone who'll go with me, even though there's no reason for them to do it.

I'm wondering why this happens to me. Was it my twin sister, that helped me fit in when I was too young to remember? (she probably remembers, her long term memory has always been better than mine... same can't be said about short term memory)
Was it just luck that got my sister and I to meet a particular person in elementary school, with whom we changed schools with, and they both helped me get integrated in the new class? And in that class, I met a friend who has always been by my side through the last 8 years, even though I don't reveal a lot about myself to him? And did that person help me become part of my highschool and university groups? Did these people stick around me for any special reason (like my good marks or something)?
Would I have had the same problems many people here go through (not having friends) if I didn't have a twin sister or if I hadn't meet one of those persons I mentioned?

I just realised how lucky I probably am in this regard. I always complained to myself how unlucky I was because I was short, skinny, couldn't flirt or get a girlfriend (I did have a few in the past but I was just around 14 years old so it doesn't really count for me), but I never appreciated the fact that I was lucky in other aspects, such as brains and this whole friends thing. I still face loneliness like many people here because I don't share anything about myself (apart from school related stuff), but I'm lucky enough to have people around me willing to listen to me.
And now that I finally realised that, I think it's time to start putting more effort into those relationships.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

For the second time at the same store, the checkout person (different person) found it strange that I could possibly care so much about cats that I would buy them the expensive brand of food. Never mind that I was buying the exact same brand for a dog.

WTF, people? :veryangry:

 

[KiaKaha]

I see people saying things like that all of the time but I never understood it. Maybe I just use it differently or have different friends.

I think people get depressed with facebook because it shows people being sociable and popular - and by comparison it makes you feel bad because you feel left out and.... not so popular. I can kind of relate because I feel a bit that way too - but I take facebook with a pinch of salt.

In other news I got my final results back from one of my papers - ethnic and minority discrimination and the effects of societal exclusion - 92%
I have one more before the next set on adult psychopathology.

Then a whole lot more - sigh.
It's taking forever.

 

[Opaline]

For the second time at the same store, the checkout person (different person) found it strange that I could possibly care so much about cats that I would buy them the expensive brand of food. Never mind that I was buying the exact same brand for a dog.

WTF, people? :veryangry:

That is very weird. Why does he care what you're buying and why, anyway?

 

[KiaKaha]

The whole mantra of "the customer's always right" does have an unfortunate tendency to empower the most rude and arrogant of people. Don't let people like that get to you - being abrupt with you was just his way of trying to think he's important
Your post has really made me want a doughnut now.

I was always under the impression that we weren't allowed to get upset or insulted by people anymore - or to expect courtesy. This place gets a bit confusing sometimes... :kickingmyself:

Anyway - I agree with twiggle, I have always felt 'the customer is always right' is quite ridiculous. I have worked in retail before and many MANY times I have seen the customer be very wrong. Like - just silliness type wrong...

I'm feeling the need of someone, who won't judge me for who I am. Someone who won't think I'm boring or stupid. Who would hug me and tell me, "Hey Sri, its gonna be all okay". They might be a friend, an SO or family, I don't care.
Yeah, I do know no such person exists in real life. Time to suck it up and move on *hugs herself*

I like you. I find it hard to believe that such a sweet heart can feel so lonely :-(

 

[Flanscho]

I'm not sure where to go in my life.

In general, I think I did alright. I fought the SA and it became much better over the years. I got a pretty nice circle of friends now, that took me a decade to put together. I also live in a very nice city, and got a nice flat too, just for myself. I got six years of work experience as programmer too. All in all, I guess that's not bad.

At the same time... I have no partner, and I have very little money. There are many things in my life I'd like to do, and I could do, but I'd like to do them with someone else. So I could share the experiences. Like, a bicycle tour in northern Japan. Sure I could do it alone, but it would be much more fun with someone else. Or Hiking in Scandinavia. But should I really wait for the rest of my life until I find a partner to do that together with?

Some day I'd like to own a patch of land, mostly far away from civilization. Somewhere in the midst of Canada or Scandinavia. Just a place where I can say "this is my land. There is nothing on it, but it's mine". And then camp there, or maybe build a small hut.

Sometimes I think about studying again. Universities are nearly for free in Germany. But I have to earn money to pay the flat. And getting a part time job, that generates enough money to pay the bills AND leaves me enough time for the courses AND enough time to study AND some free time too... I doubt I can do that.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

That is very weird. Why does he care what you're buying and why, anyway?

I don't get it! Maybe they're all dog people and are shocked that I might have regard for a cat? It is a tractor supply co.

 

[Nathália]

I'm feeling the need of someone, who won't judge me for who I am. Someone who won't think I'm boring or stupid. Who would hug me and tell me, "Hey Sri, its gonna be all okay". They might be a friend, an SO or family, I don't care.
Yeah, I do know no such person exists in real life. Time to suck it up and move on *hugs herself*

Do you exist? Yay for self love, but there will be people in life you may have to continue to weed out to get to the ones that will respect you.

Facebook is so f**kin' depressing...

Depends on your friends and how it's depressing you. I have some relatives that lose all common sense with a computer at hand, that's depressing.

What is there to do on a Thursday night? I'd love to spend time with one of my friends but they all live at least 30 min away from me. This is the crappy thing about making friends after high school. If you're not in a residence hall at college, a lot of the friends you make will tend to live outside your immediate area, and if you don't have a car... :l

I guess I should just find something to do on my own. Like... reading! Yeah! ...nah. Crochet! ...no. Clean my room! ...........blurgh

I know right -_- Sorry, I have same issue with the car, but hope you are doing better Opaline. Been following your post.

I think people get depressed with facebook because it shows people being sociable and popular - and by comparison it makes you feel bad because you feel left out and.... not so popular. I can kind of relate because I feel a bit that way too - but I take facebook with a pinch of salt.

In other news I got my final results back from one of my papers - ethnic and minority discrimination and the effects of societal exclusion - 92%
I have one more before the next set on adult psychopathology.

Then a whole lot more - sigh.
It's taking forever.

Keep up the good work Kia.

 

[Opaline]

I'm not sure where to go in my life.

In general, I think I did alright. I fought the SA and it became much better over the years. I got a pretty nice circle of friends now, that took me a decade to put together. I also live in a very nice city, and got a nice flat too, just for myself. I got six years of work experience as programmer too. All in all, I guess that's not bad.

At the same time... I have no partner, and I have very little money. There are many things in my life I'd like to do, and I could do, but I'd like to do them with someone else. So I could share the experiences. Like, a bicycle tour in northern Japan. Sure I could do it alone, but it would be much more fun with someone else. Or Hiking in Scandinavia. But should I really wait for the rest of my life until I find a partner to do that together with?

Some day I'd like to own a patch of land, mostly far away from civilization. Somewhere in the midst of Canada or Scandinavia. Just a place where I can say "this is my land. There is nothing on it, but it's mine". And then camp there, or maybe build a small hut.

Sometimes I think about studying again. Universities are nearly for free in Germany. But I have to earn money to pay the flat. And getting a part time job, that generates enough money to pay the bills AND leaves me enough time for the courses AND enough time to study AND some free time too... I doubt I can do that.

This sounds very successful indeed, good for you Especially considering the economic climate. I don't know about in Germany, but here in the States many older 20-somethings are living with their parents because they can't find a job, or one that pays well enough to afford their own place.

Not that my opinion means anything, but I would think that if you did some of those activities you're interested in while you're still single, it would 1) make you more interesting to a future potential partner, and 2) you might meet someone during one of your travels that could become a long-term partner.

 

[KiaKaha]

Do you exist? Yay for self love, but there will be people in life you may have to continue to weed out to get to the ones that will respect you.
Keep up the good work Kia.

I am an expert on self love.

Thanks for the encouragement