Lorraine Manca
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What's wrong with you? You need to go take your meds and That's not normal!
many many times+ plus an array of more colorful compliments.
many many times+ plus an array of more colorful compliments.
one comment which has affected your confidence
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Sinar_Matahari
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I was basically told that I wasn't pretty because my features are not Caucasian. I was being compared to someone else in my family who's features are more Caucasian than my own. Also, being told that I was stupid by my parents, my brother and my peers. Being called a "slut" and a "whore" didn't help either.
When I asked someone about going to a group of his, he said "Your social skills are inadquate." No malice. He explained this is a group of older people who are upscale and very close knit. His concern is that I'd offend them without realizing it. They all know each other and well... He even offered to help me improve the skills but no social correction ever gets taken well. I declined.
Darker Than Black
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a girl I liked, I asked her "why don't you like me"..I'm such a noob, can't believe I asked her that.
she said "your not good enough"
she said "your not good enough"
Anxiety_ridden_Firefox
Member
"Are you a retard?"
...D:
That actually wasn't too long ago...
...D:
That actually wasn't too long ago...
Flowers-Of-Bloom
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"Do you enjoy being a freak?"
There's been others that I can't really remember word for word. All I remember is the feeling.
I'd rather not think about these people. Makes me want them dead.
There's been others that I can't really remember word for word. All I remember is the feeling.
I'd rather not think about these people. Makes me want them dead.
Littleghost
Member
"i should have had an abortion"
from my mother, obviously.
there are lots of other things said to me, but this hurt the most, i think.
from my mother, obviously.
there are lots of other things said to me, but this hurt the most, i think.
Carina33
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I remember being with a few girls I sat with in fifth grade. I'd been afraid to go to that class when it started, knowing that none of the close friends I had become used to were in it. But I got along with these girls pretty well and worked on assignments with them. One day, working with only them in the classroom, I decided I needed to get something for the group. As I walked across the room, I became painfully self-conscious, realizing how observable I was in the room alone with these girls whose opinions definitely mattered to me. Of course they didn't just stop the conversation they'd been having to watch my every step across the room, but that's what I imagined. I thought about my arms hanging, limp, useless at my sides. I attacked myself for never having paid any attention to how people moved their arms when they walked. Did they bend their elbows or keep their arms straight? My mind was racing trying to find an image of anyone I knew, just walking. Did they swing their arms just right, and how far from their bodies were their arms? I began walking with my arms sticking out from body at a slight angle, my elbows locked, and my fists clenched for control. That's when what I had dreaded became reality. I had done everything to prevent my sudden fear, and because of that it suddenly happened. One of the girls I had been sitting with said, "Look at Carina! Look at the way she has her arms."
It wasn't mean. It was funny for them, and they probably thought I was laughing with them. I bet I at least smiled, and they still included me. Afterward, I began obsessively observing the way people held their arms as they walked. It was important that I picked up on this knowledge, skill, that everyone seemed to have been given but me.
And of course this is only one event in an on-going series, but I know it was moments like these that I began to fear most and would do anything to avoid.
It wasn't mean. It was funny for them, and they probably thought I was laughing with them. I bet I at least smiled, and they still included me. Afterward, I began obsessively observing the way people held their arms as they walked. It was important that I picked up on this knowledge, skill, that everyone seemed to have been given but me.
And of course this is only one event in an on-going series, but I know it was moments like these that I began to fear most and would do anything to avoid.
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FountainandFairfax
in a VAN down by the RIVER
An instance that sticks out in my mind was one from high school: The girl I was dating then was very good looking, and at the time, I was the obligatory "fat funny guy."
Well anyway, this day my girlfriend left something in her locker and had to go back for it, but I went on ahead to class. So the bell rings, and the whole class is already seated and waiting for things to start, basically giving her a captive audience for when she walked in.
So she comes striding through the door, looking as radiant as ever, and every guy in the room is watching her make her way to her desk. Well the dude sitting next to me, whose name was Jason, and who was in all fairness a friend, kinda leans over to me and mumbles "Never in your lifetime." (Which was actually funny because we had already started sleeping together) but it was just the fact that that was the way he saw things.
I was just the fat guy and she was the hot chick and she and I "just dating" was as far as it was ever going to go. That one still kind of stings when I think about it, and it's a decent snapshot of where I've been stuck mentally for a long time.
Well anyway, this day my girlfriend left something in her locker and had to go back for it, but I went on ahead to class. So the bell rings, and the whole class is already seated and waiting for things to start, basically giving her a captive audience for when she walked in.
So she comes striding through the door, looking as radiant as ever, and every guy in the room is watching her make her way to her desk. Well the dude sitting next to me, whose name was Jason, and who was in all fairness a friend, kinda leans over to me and mumbles "Never in your lifetime." (Which was actually funny because we had already started sleeping together) but it was just the fact that that was the way he saw things.
I was just the fat guy and she was the hot chick and she and I "just dating" was as far as it was ever going to go. That one still kind of stings when I think about it, and it's a decent snapshot of where I've been stuck mentally for a long time.
PennyLane
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Oh there are so many tiny little ones that feel huge:
In a school report my teacher wrote that i lifeless but luckily slightly more animated in the camping trip-what a horrible thing to say about a child
A girl i hate hit me too close to the truth when she said "why can't you just be happy"
"Your so quiet" this one is really frequent and ongoing - its like they think i wont realise im quiet unless they point it out.
"good job your cute" - from a man on the bus when I hadn't heard of some former prime minister - i'm very conscious of seeming dumb so this hurt.
"I dont love, I dont miss you and I dont want to be back with you" - my ex who I stilled loved at the time.
"your a slut" - my gran when she found out I had stayed with a guy that night
"why dont you like to have fun?" - a guy I fancied
"she's an idiot" -again from that girl I hate
I overheard one of my flatmates say "I think it was her birthday yesterday" (it was)...and the other one replied "how the hell would we know she never opens her mouth"
and there are hundreds more that I remember along the lines of being miserable, quiet or basically being used (my ex always told me I let people treat me like a doormat). And they pretty much keep going around my head!
In a school report my teacher wrote that i lifeless but luckily slightly more animated in the camping trip-what a horrible thing to say about a child
A girl i hate hit me too close to the truth when she said "why can't you just be happy"
"Your so quiet" this one is really frequent and ongoing - its like they think i wont realise im quiet unless they point it out.
"good job your cute" - from a man on the bus when I hadn't heard of some former prime minister - i'm very conscious of seeming dumb so this hurt.
"I dont love, I dont miss you and I dont want to be back with you" - my ex who I stilled loved at the time.
"your a slut" - my gran when she found out I had stayed with a guy that night
"why dont you like to have fun?" - a guy I fancied
"she's an idiot" -again from that girl I hate
I overheard one of my flatmates say "I think it was her birthday yesterday" (it was)...and the other one replied "how the hell would we know she never opens her mouth"
and there are hundreds more that I remember along the lines of being miserable, quiet or basically being used (my ex always told me I let people treat me like a doormat). And they pretty much keep going around my head!
Blue Teardrops
Banned
"You have no friends, Nobody loves you or talks to you. You'll never have a boyfriend because nobody wants you. "
"I hope you get cancer and all your hair falls out."
"I hope you get killed in a car accident."
All these quotes above were by my wonderful sister in some of her fits of rage.
By my roommate: "There's a thing called F - U - N. It's something you need to try."
"Why don't you ever talk" or "you're too quiet" - a few people have said this one
I've been called a "slut" even though I've never kissed a guy.
"You're a dumb blonde" by one of my jackass professors
I said to my roommate, because I was really anxious talking to her and was messing up my words, "I'm not very good with words." And then she replied with, "No... you're not" with this bitchy smirk on her face.
"I have nobody cooler to hang out with." - a so-called friend said this to me
"I hope you get cancer and all your hair falls out."
"I hope you get killed in a car accident."
All these quotes above were by my wonderful sister in some of her fits of rage.
By my roommate: "There's a thing called F - U - N. It's something you need to try."
"Why don't you ever talk" or "you're too quiet" - a few people have said this one
I've been called a "slut" even though I've never kissed a guy.
"You're a dumb blonde" by one of my jackass professors
I said to my roommate, because I was really anxious talking to her and was messing up my words, "I'm not very good with words." And then she replied with, "No... you're not" with this bitchy smirk on her face.
"I have nobody cooler to hang out with." - a so-called friend said this to me
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FountainandFairfax
in a VAN down by the RIVER
Those are pretty hardcore.
Penny's are rough too, I don't understand what it is that transforms even decent normal people into opportunist-pricks around the shy.
Queen_Of_Pain
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"No wonder your father didn't want you" - Something said by a family member out of spite when I was a child. It really upset me at the time but I got over it.
"What do you know about depresion." - By some moron who only likes his own opinion. I was standing up for someone who had past suicide attempts due to their depression. I'll never let that subject go, especially if someone nasty calls a depressive person "weak".
"I hate you" - By some random girl I never really knew. Not really something that offended me but it left me wondering if somehow I had offended her in some way.
"Why would you want to move out? Just so you can hide in a room somewhere else?" - Said to me once but never again. Things happen, I changed from that but this comment still frustrates me since it came from a man who knew jack $hit about me then and still doesn't now.
"What do you know about depresion." - By some moron who only likes his own opinion. I was standing up for someone who had past suicide attempts due to their depression. I'll never let that subject go, especially if someone nasty calls a depressive person "weak".
"I hate you" - By some random girl I never really knew. Not really something that offended me but it left me wondering if somehow I had offended her in some way.
"Why would you want to move out? Just so you can hide in a room somewhere else?" - Said to me once but never again. Things happen, I changed from that but this comment still frustrates me since it came from a man who knew jack $hit about me then and still doesn't now.