one comment which has affected your confidence
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omg. im appalled. no one deserves to be talked to like this. NO ONE. i swear, if someone said that to anyone i knew, i'd beat the sh*t out of them. that's disgusting that people would even think to say such things. some people are idiots..
AimeeSP
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"You don't love me" from my dad, til this day i worry about upsetting him, because back then he was paranoid, and it wasn't good, so i'm a nervous wreck around him.
And when i was trying to go back to school a few years ago after a year out because of social anxiety, two guys from 6th form came upto me and went "ewww, your eyes are small can you see out of them?" so yep, i hate my eyes. Funny that though, i have my eyes in my avator lol and tbh i don't know why, maybe it's good therapy?! ah well, may hate them but can't change them.
And when i was trying to go back to school a few years ago after a year out because of social anxiety, two guys from 6th form came upto me and went "ewww, your eyes are small can you see out of them?" so yep, i hate my eyes. Funny that though, i have my eyes in my avator lol and tbh i don't know why, maybe it's good therapy?! ah well, may hate them but can't change them.
"i shouldve aborted you when i had the chance." ~my mom
"you're just like your father: lazy and good for nothing, you're wasting your life away."~again, my mom
"you make me so depressed & miserable." ~my ex
"now i remember why i wanted to be done with you. you're lifeless." ~again, my ex.
...this is a sad thread...but still very effective.
"you're just like your father: lazy and good for nothing, you're wasting your life away."~again, my mom
"you make me so depressed & miserable." ~my ex
"now i remember why i wanted to be done with you. you're lifeless." ~again, my ex.
...this is a sad thread...but still very effective.
h4sk1
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"You are a monster" mom and dad
"You are hideous" dad
"apparently she doesn't like us because she never anwersed back." girl from school.
and I had said hi back, My voice was just not loud enough and none of them heard me.
I've never really been called names outside my house, no one bothers to call me anything. But my parents have taken care of the name calling side.
"You are hideous" dad
"apparently she doesn't like us because she never anwersed back." girl from school.
and I had said hi back, My voice was just not loud enough and none of them heard me.
I've never really been called names outside my house, no one bothers to call me anything. But my parents have taken care of the name calling side.
lunarla
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When I was about 13 my dad suggested that he should drive me out somewhere and drop me off because he didn't want me around. I don't know exactly what he said, but it hurt a bit at the time. It was at the height of my depression though and he was basically calling me a flat out liar because I told my mom he was cheating (after holding it in for a while) and then all of that happened. My mom didn't even believe me at first.
Someone told me that there was nothing good about my face.
My brother told me that I wasn't going to go anywhere in life and that I wasn't going to leave home. He's really so ignorant about that though because he's not even around or knows what's going on with me. I just sort of turn that around to prove him wrong because I will.
Someone told me that there was nothing good about my face.
My brother told me that I wasn't going to go anywhere in life and that I wasn't going to leave home. He's really so ignorant about that though because he's not even around or knows what's going on with me. I just sort of turn that around to prove him wrong because I will.
Harleyq
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Not a specific comment per se, but in my daycare class, I remember walking into the library and all the other kids were huddled in a group listening/talking to a leader (the oldest girl) who was talking about me and mocking how quiet I was.
Ever since, I've imagined that situation happening with every group of people I meet - maybe not in the library of a daycare but ya know...just the image of people I know hushed together in a group and trashing me and my introversion when they think I'm not around.
Ever since, I've imagined that situation happening with every group of people I meet - maybe not in the library of a daycare but ya know...just the image of people I know hushed together in a group and trashing me and my introversion when they think I'm not around.
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Lonelykitsune
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"Its your choice not to have friends",i know mum was in a mood but still,i cant forget that.
wow these are all horrible. Let me think of one...
"Are you on Drugs? I don't want to ever see you again!" - My dad when I was 14.
"Are you on Drugs? I don't want to ever see you again!" - My dad when I was 14.
Meggerz88
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Hmm, there is one on my mind since Halloween has just passed. The last time I went trick-or-treating I was 10 years old. I was always kind of self-conscious about going anyway. I was a big kid and I got a lot of people hinting that they thought I was too old. Anyway, I knocked on this one door and said trick-or-treat... and the elderly lady who answered just stared at me for a couple seconds, didn't say anything, and closed the door. I stood there for a minute until I figured out that she wasn't coming back. The thing is, she lived next door to my best friend, and is apparently friendly enough to her. I couldn't trick-or-treat after that. It was a total blow to my confidence in approaching strangers and doing things that draw attention to myself. Ten years ago and I still remember how embarrassed and devastated I felt.
oui
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Several just happened to me this week.
I have one class with a wonderful boy. He writes poetry in class, and offers the only insightful comments in our english class. I wish I could talk to him. He's very confident, gregarious even. He asks me to work with him sometime, but I hardly look him in the eye. When I did meet his gray gaze, I stare and cannot say one intelligent thing. Its terrible. But anyway, he said within my earshot. "You can do whatever you want to Molly, she doesn't have any feelings." He sits right next to me. Why would he say something like, so close to me? Because he wanted me to, no doubt. But why would he want me to hear that, unless to intentionally hurt?
It hurt so badly. I couldn't even look up. If only he knew how much I like him. It hurt so much, it makes me even worse with people. I felt like I could relate to him; He said what I was thinking, he read Lolita. But now I feel so humiliated around him.
Another girl I overheard just yesterday said, "Molly gives me dirty looks all the time." I couldn't believe what she'd said. I even asked, "What?" and she quickly replied, "nothing." Was she kidding? Is that some sick joke?
A few years ago a 10 year old kid I didn't even know stared at me while I was walking down the street. He said, "You're so...ugly." he had this horrible look on his face. Like I was ET.
I have one class with a wonderful boy. He writes poetry in class, and offers the only insightful comments in our english class. I wish I could talk to him. He's very confident, gregarious even. He asks me to work with him sometime, but I hardly look him in the eye. When I did meet his gray gaze, I stare and cannot say one intelligent thing. Its terrible. But anyway, he said within my earshot. "You can do whatever you want to Molly, she doesn't have any feelings." He sits right next to me. Why would he say something like, so close to me? Because he wanted me to, no doubt. But why would he want me to hear that, unless to intentionally hurt?
It hurt so badly. I couldn't even look up. If only he knew how much I like him. It hurt so much, it makes me even worse with people. I felt like I could relate to him; He said what I was thinking, he read Lolita. But now I feel so humiliated around him.
Another girl I overheard just yesterday said, "Molly gives me dirty looks all the time." I couldn't believe what she'd said. I even asked, "What?" and she quickly replied, "nothing." Was she kidding? Is that some sick joke?
A few years ago a 10 year old kid I didn't even know stared at me while I was walking down the street. He said, "You're so...ugly." he had this horrible look on his face. Like I was ET.
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scissorhands
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In a gym class in grade 9 someone talking at me in front of the entire class as if I was a potato or something asking
"Why don't you talk? Are you deaf?"
Knowing damn well I wasn't deaf and only trying to embarass me in front of everyone knowing I was too shy to speak up or stand up for myself. (I've incorporated this phrase into my comic which deals with social phobia - page 14 at http://www.lilyofthevalleycomic.com)
On top of that, a dumb pet name a bully chose for me and used to wage a campaign or abuse which spanned my high school career and onward until I moved away. The use of the degrading name only spread to more and more people as time went on. It was very humiliating and since it was a small town I really had no escape. I would be yelled this name from cars and they would come into the gas station where I worked as a student and tell my coworkers who for a surprising length of time never knew of this stupid insult people called me, and they'd tell the coworkers to call me it. This went on for many many many years and I still hear it in my head every day of my life, it never goes away.
I have a hard time making friends now because I question whether everyone I meet would have jumped on the bandwagon back then to insult me given the opportunity. Unless they're an outsider of some sort I usually determine they'd be capable of it.
"Why don't you talk? Are you deaf?"
Knowing damn well I wasn't deaf and only trying to embarass me in front of everyone knowing I was too shy to speak up or stand up for myself. (I've incorporated this phrase into my comic which deals with social phobia - page 14 at http://www.lilyofthevalleycomic.com)
On top of that, a dumb pet name a bully chose for me and used to wage a campaign or abuse which spanned my high school career and onward until I moved away. The use of the degrading name only spread to more and more people as time went on. It was very humiliating and since it was a small town I really had no escape. I would be yelled this name from cars and they would come into the gas station where I worked as a student and tell my coworkers who for a surprising length of time never knew of this stupid insult people called me, and they'd tell the coworkers to call me it. This went on for many many many years and I still hear it in my head every day of my life, it never goes away.
I have a hard time making friends now because I question whether everyone I meet would have jumped on the bandwagon back then to insult me given the opportunity. Unless they're an outsider of some sort I usually determine they'd be capable of it.
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right on.....!
Riptor
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"Dude, just go away." Simple enough but it hurt coming from a person I had developed some trust of. It was day one at a new school across town and I knew him through a friend from my last school. He was the kind who was great when it was just the two of us but when his other friends were around he made it clear that I wasn't wanted, and didn't mind that he had to tell me off in front of a dozen people to get the message across.
whos_that_girl
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When my mom was still alive when I was 13,14, she said my voice sounded like I had a bunch of shit in it.