one comment which has affected your confidence

[ohheybbyitscorixx]

This one jumped in my mind today. Some little kid said to me a few years ago, "Ew, what's wrong with your skin?"

I have keratosis pilaris (basically constant dry skin, with redness and bumps), had it as long as I can remember. It's not as bad now since taking wheat out of my diet, but it's still there and I doubt it'll ever go away. It's something so simple, yet makes me feel disgusting. I've gained some confidence since then, and I'm not too frightened by showing my arms. I have my days though where I just want to cover up completely and hide.

That's so stupid! Especially considering that's actually common. I think 1 in every 2 people have it... This may sound silly, but I have little veins on my face. I never thought anything of them until they were pointed out by my ex. I'm so pale, and they just stick out.

 

[Phoenixx]

Last night a friend and I got to talking and she randomly told me, "You have such nice eyebrows. I love their shape." She was always one to make random compliments, but I appreciate it. She also told me that my face looks nice, that I actually have structure to it. Glad you noticed because I've been waiting my whole teenage life to get cheekbones. I hate having a baby face. I still do a bit.

 

[Gaucho]

It was saturday and i arrived at the football field with my bike,match. I come with the bike and one teammate says:" ****, you are ugly, do you get that told often?" it was like 4 years ago, there are others situations aswell, but now i remember this one.

 

[Camazotz]

Most recent:

"I lost my favorite daughter (my mother at my sister's funeral)" <- When I was 22

This thread made me realize that I've heard so many derogatory remarks that it was hard to find specific times which it stood out. In a way, I'm glad most have faded from memory.

 

[Camazotz]

This one jumped in my mind today. Some little kid said to me a few years ago, "Ew, what's wrong with your skin?"

I have keratosis pilaris (basically constant dry skin, with redness and bumps), had it as long as I can remember. It's not as bad now since taking wheat out of my diet, but it's still there and I doubt it'll ever go away. It's something so simple, yet makes me feel disgusting. I've gained some confidence since then, and I'm not too frightened by showing my arms. I have my days though where I just want to cover up completely and hide.

KP is a total pain. Have you tried treating it? It's surprisingly simple.

 

[christa]

not just one comment, but thousands
that i am self obsessed, boring, quiet, weak, and more recently '****ing mental' which caused me to have a panic attack

 

[Srijita52]

Wow... Some of the stuff here...

I really shouldn't be shocked by human nature at this point in my life, but I can't help it. I can't wrap my head around how people can be so completely cruel.

I was fortunately never bullied chronically in school, but I have had my share of negative things said about me at various times.

In high school there was a girl who once said of me, "She doesn't talk to us ["us" meaning the girls I lived with, I went to boarding school], she only talks to so and so [one of my closest friends at the time]." It wasn't an overly cruel thing to say, but it hurt nonetheless because she was basically mocking me for it.

I also had another girl who hated me for no apparent reason I could figure out, other than the fact that the teacher seemed to like me and maybe she was jealous? She went out of her way to mock my singing when I performed at several school-wide church services (they were mandatory). I felt so hurt, I still remember the sick feeling I got when I heard her making fun of me. Then one day I was walking with her brother in the hall - I played the same instrument as he did in band, and we got along pretty well - and she said, "You're friends with HER?? She's such a bitter bitch!" I had had enough - I whirled around, got in her face and said "F*** you!" in the most threatening way I could. That was a lot for me to do, and I was shaking afterward. She just laughed really hard.

I've had someone I thought I was close to online say incredibly vicious things about me, and a friend of this person's as well. I wasn't completely innocent in the situation but I didn't really do anything horrible, and I was just totally trashed and mocked, like I was some pathetic and shallow loser who couldn't think for herself. But they never knew me in person, it's easy to assume all sorts of things online. And people love insulting others online, too. I don't get that particular pleasure. I guess the safety of it?

Yep, most people suck. But the few good ones I find I try to hold on to as long as I can. I have known some amazing people in my time, who have never stooped so low and I would hope never will.

Those who degrade others like that aren't worth anyone's time - what can they possibly add to your life if all they have to say are venomous things about others? That's a sad way to live, much more sad than just being a good person who is alone.

Wow she seems like an awful person. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

 

[ShelbyModerateSP]

My first love "you are annoying, that's why all this happened"
the "all this" was multiple things:
-him ignoring me all the time
-him cheating on me
-all the fights we got in, etc.

 

[Roman Legion]

Someone made a comment based on how I dress..

"You look like you are a heroin addict"

They connected heroin, the way I dress to Kurt Cobain and said

"He's going home to his shotgun"

I have been dressing the same way (In the same clothes for the most part) since the 1990's, hence why they look grungy.. But to make fun of someone I really look up to really made me picture myself in the same place as Kurt.. Made me feel like I was a joke dead or alive simply because of the clothes I wear.

 

[Vampayah88]

Someone made a comment based on how I dress..

"You look like you are a heroin addict"

They connected heroin, the way I dress to Kurt Cobain and said

"He's going home to his shotgun"

I have been dressing the same way (In the same clothes for the most part) since the 1990's, hence why they look grungy.. But to make fun of someone I really look up to really made me picture myself in the same place as Kurt.. Made me feel like I was a joke dead or alive simply because of the clothes I wear.

Grungy clothes are cool as fvck. Thats how I dress too mostly

 

[Roman Legion]

Grungy clothes are cool as fvck. Thats how I dress too mostly

And cheap.. Especially since they were bought back in the 90's..lol Some of them were my father's old clothes like his Olive Drab combat pants from 1980.. Pickpocket proof..haha

 

[Graeme1988]

Had some twat drive past me the other day and shout "wanker" whilst sticking his head out the window.

That really pissed me off. Why do people do things like this?

Because people who do that are, themselves, "wankers"? I don't know... some people are f***ing idiots.

 

[Phoenixx]

KP is a total pain. Have you tried treating it? It's surprisingly simple.

^ Changing my diet has helped a lot, but I still struggle with it a bit. What do you recommend?

 

[Roman Legion]

Ahhh, I forgot to add that in college one time, my RA said to me, "Why don't you stop being so antisocial?" because I liked to sit in the hallway on my own and study or talk on my phone. I responded with, "I do socialize, what are you talking about?" (which was true by the way, I had friends that I talked to and spent time with). He said, "You're only social when you're drinking."

For a while I had been feeling pretty good, I thought I had been more social than ever before and got to know a lot of people, and then he said that. It just knocked down all my confidence. I suppose I shouldn't have let it affect me so much, but... I did. Why did he see me as antisocial? I don't know where he was getting this just because I liked to sit in the hallway; I guess because I wasn't friend with every single person in our hall? I didn't go out of my way to knock on everyone's door and say hello constantly. And when I did I felt awkward, like I was intruding. So I just didn't do it.

I guess that made me antisocial.

Pfft. My generation is obsessed with not being alone. With being outgoing and confident and blah blah blah. Learn to get to know yourself, too. It's not all about socializing all the time. Some quiet time alone won't kill you

My roommate tricked me out of the room and into a social environment and was kinda a jerk when I froze and then fled back to the room.. That is what happens when you go against your instincts telling you to not trust someone..

 

[bcsr]

I had a football coach in high school who also taught a history class. Some person in the class before me had made a huge mess of ripped up paper around my desk, and this coach told me to pick it up. I refused, and he made the comment of "Well, I guess I shouldn't expect someone who looks like you to do much physical activity" (I weighed 270ish in high school, and I'm 5"10).

Turned into a big mess. I cursed him out, he got in my face yelling, and I shoved him down a few steps (was a theater-style room). Walked out of the class, and went home for the day. I was so pissed off and embarrassed.

 

[THeCARS1979]

heres mine, from tonight!

"you suck at life"

from a friend. after i told him a lot of my problems. i know he will never quite understand but still, it hurts.

Then he s not your friend, hes a dick

 

[Srijita52]

Ahhh, I forgot to add that in college one time, my RA said to me, "Why don't you stop being so antisocial?" because I liked to sit in the hallway on my own and study or talk on my phone. I responded with, "I do socialize, what are you talking about?" (which was true by the way, I had friends that I talked to and spent time with). He said, "You're only social when you're drinking."

For a while I had been feeling pretty good, I thought I had been more social than ever before and got to know a lot of people, and then he said that. It just knocked down all my confidence. I suppose I shouldn't have let it affect me so much, but... I did. Why did he see me as antisocial? I don't know where he was getting this just because I liked to sit in the hallway; I guess because I wasn't friend with every single person in our hall? I didn't go out of my way to knock on everyone's door and say hello constantly. And when I did I felt awkward, like I was intruding. So I just didn't do it.

I guess that made me antisocial.

Pfft. My generation is obsessed with not being alone. With being outgoing and confident and blah blah blah. Learn to get to know yourself, too. It's not all about socializing all the time. Some quiet time alone won't kill you

I guess some people are just like that. They see everyone who wants some time alone as antisocial. It has happened to me a lot too. I guess its just hard for them to understand that people can be different.

When I was in 6th grade and had a music class in my schedule, one of our projects was to plan music video to a song, build a story around this song, and do dance moves to it and we would perform it in front of the class.
I was stuck with two girls who didn't get along but we did the best we could to scrape together everything to one of the girl's favorite songs, and we performed it fine.
A few years later, when I was in 9th grade in my science class, for whatever reason the song was playing that we did that music video to, and one of the girls from that class in the audience who we performed it for made eye contact with me. She essentially told me she remembered that I did a music video for that song and that the song was originally her favorite and I had ruined the song for her.

Another occurred while having a hostess job at a local restaurant just after graduating high school. I had mispronounced a customer's last name to lead their group to a table, and the woman in the group corrected me with a smile, and I said "I'm sorry, must be losing my mind." The manager was standing right there and responded with "a mind? you don't have one" and laughed, and the new hostess I was training, obviously feeling slightly uncomfortable, weakly laughed along with him. I felt embarrassed in front of the customers and it made me feel like I lacked the knowledge to be training that hostess. Even though he acted like he was joking I knew how he really felt. It turned my performance in restaurant jobs for the worse.

A couple months back I went out to eat with my old roommate from freshman/sophomore year and a bunch of her friends, and of course I wasn’t particularly close with any of them. One of the girls I remembered living the floor above me in my residence hall during my freshman year, and I occasionally talked to her during this dinner out. While she can be nice to people at first she has, as I noticed in the past, the occasional snarky comment. I remember I complimented her on her on her industrial ear piercing and said that I would’ve liked them but my ears weren’t the right size for it, and I pulled back my hair to show her she pretty much made a huge deal of how small my ears were. I felt really embarrassed because my ears were my worst feature and she was just drawing everyone’s attention to them.

It sucks when such things happen. I'm sorry.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

"Do you file your teeth to be sharp like that? That's retarded... you look like a crackhead!"

"Woah-- whenever you smile, a puppy dies. Seriously-- stop smiling! IT's creepy as hell!"

"You can tell how healthy a person is by looking at their wrist-- but when I look at yours, all I see is my own reflection because you're so ****ing pale!"

 

[Shy_Gurl2007]

"You can't figure anything out!""-My Mom
My parents sure know how to make me feel incredibly stupid over minor things.
I never feel good enough for them.

 

[SilentBird]

A nickname.