how do you deal with loneliness?

[superfluouslyme]

Internet
TV/Netflix
Books
Video Games

I, too, have more of an online life than a real one. But I think many people nowadays connect with others more through internet/phone than they do through personal contact. The more technologically savvy everyone gets, the less connected we truly are, IMO.

 

[Kiwong]

I'm not lonely.

Running, photography and botany are things I enjoy.

Going in a run run with 70,000 people with a postive attitude.

Training to be the best I can at running.

 

[GhoulsNightOut]

Food (my favorite distraction)
Music
Youtube videos
Make to-do lists

Sometimes I don't get to deal with it when I have too many things to do for school, and then it makes me crazier and want to attack someone. :T

 

[Dr. Doom]

fantasize

browse **** I want to buy online

listen to music

chat box

curse out loud

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Fantasize - yes.
Write - not as much as I should
sit and stare
Video Games/PC
MUSIC
TV/Movies
Internet (which includes... well... lets just leave it in the internet category =)
Random dance offs with myself.
Bitch and moan about my life
Read (not as much lately)
Think up excuses to avoid living and interacting.
Stewing.
Utopia internet text based game
going to gym
just simply doing nothing at all.
Make faux to-do lists and never actually do them. Oh sure I do the little things...

 

[sevenroses]

I generally don't feel lonely maybe because of my lifestyle etc. When I'm not at work I spend lots of time resting, exercising, watching movies, going out, meditating/praying and what not. When I do those things and keep myself occupied I tend not to think of being lonely. Doing those things take a lot of time out of my day too (At least 1 hour and 30 minutes for each things: movies or exercise, etc) So my day is pretty much very occupied. Also I've grown up to be an only child so I'm used to my own space and really value my privacy. I'm highly introvert too. The only time I feel lonely is if life isn't going to well. I'm kind of weird. I'm not really into commitment and I'm okay with things right now and don't mind having friends.

 

[StarShine]

Surfing the web.
Fantasizing about the couples I make up in my head.
Listen to music.
Watch my favorite movies.

And as a last resort, if I truly feel lonely, I just hurt myself. I concentrate on the pain than loneliness so it works out fine.

 

[sara226]

When I feel lonely I watch loads of movies, listen to music, go on chatrooms and come on here

 

[LonelyWonders]

I deal with loneliness with music, or online activities like online video games or computer games. Something where I interact with people, without the fear of.. being.. me.. lol..

 

[Tiercel]

Thinking about it now, I guess I really don't "deal" with loneliness. It feels like being lonely has become the norm for me.

And I can feel myself becoming more withdrawn as time goes on. I don't know if it's depression, AvPD, just being apathetic and lazy, or something else. I just know it's been kicking my butt for years, and I'm really getting tired of it.

But in the history of great and worthwhile struggles, nothing ever started out being easy. So I still have a bit of hope for myself.

 

[Kinetik]

For me, self-soothing (in all its forms) plays the biggest role in dealing with loneliness. It can be under the guise of escapism (the usual media-related hobbies everyone else has discussed) but I also do whatever I can to take my mind off of everything. I drink a lot of herbal teas to relax, I also smoke, I drink quite frequently as well, and I won't say no to the occasional unwholesome stimulant. Not great of me, but whatever gets me through the day, I suppose.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Are social phobes more succeptible to feeling lonely than people who don't have SA? I don't mean simply because we may avoid people, social interaction and intimate relationships. There are times when I'm surrounded by friends and family whom I love and who love me, but I still feel lonely.

 

[Tiercel]

Are social phobes more succeptible to feeling lonely than people who don't have SA? I don't mean simply because we may avoid people, social interaction and intimate relationships. There are times when I'm surrounded by friends and family whom I love and who love me, but I still feel lonely.

For as long as I can remember, I've always felt lonely around other people. Like I'm the only one who doesn't belong, who isn't enjoying himself, etc.

So the magic d4 says "3."

Apologies to those who have never rolled four-sided dice.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

For as long as I can remember, I've always felt lonely around other people. Like I'm the only one who doesn't belong, who isn't enjoying himself, etc.

So the magic d4 says "3."

Apologies to those who have never rolled four-sided dice.

Every now and then, depending on who I am around, I sometimes feel as though I don't belong. This doesn't happen to often. My lonliness stems from something else I can't figure out.

 

[Rose_Red]

I've always been lonely.. I don't really deal with it, but more like find things to comfort me.
I read books or watch documentries, listening to music, sometimes spend my time on the computer with games or something.
Sometimes even on chatsites I feel lonely - but I do like this site.
I tried sites like IMVU, and meez and it worked for awhile, but then it got really hard and people just didn't want to talk to me.
So I got the sims3, I spend my life on that.
I just try to keep myself occupied so I don't think of it too much. Except at night - that's when I get really depressed about it.

 

[arkane]

I've always been lonely.. I don't really deal with it, but more like find things to comfort me.
I read books or watch documentries, listening to music, sometimes spend my time on the computer with games or something.
Sometimes even on chatsites I feel lonely - but I do like this site.
I tried sites like IMVU, and meez and it worked for awhile, but then it got really hard and people just didn't want to talk to me.
So I got the sims3, I spend my life on that.
I just try to keep myself occupied so I don't think of it too much. Except at night - that's when I get really depressed about it.

I used IMVU too I made quite a few friends on there, however I started to find most people were younger than me and I felt creepy :/

 

[Rose_Red]

^
Yaaay n__n someone else has tried it
haha I know what you mean. Sometimes it did get weird, especially in the public rooms.
Before I left they had this option were you got to choose which age group you wanted to talk to.
But everyone became too judgemental on your avatar apperance :/

 

[fitftw]

I deal by going to the gym, smoking, videogames, internet, candy, keyboard. Those keep me busy forever alone.

 

[Noop]

i make up fantasies about stuff/people/places that don't exist, that's my way round that little problem.

reality is for fools, mind is a better place to live.

 

[Lonelykitsune]

^I do that too.I have lots of recurring charcters I made up who sometimes live in different timelines,right now my half english half swedish fellow is coping with life during the london blitz.OK that sounds mad.