You shouldn't blame yourself for him cutting you out of his life.
I don’t – I just wish our relationship was better during the time he was alive. Instead of this fake father/son relationship, which felt awkward. Not helped of course by my mum forcing it to happen and giving me no say in the matter. Or my dad’s attitude of feeling like he was owed something from me. When, in reality, it was the other way around, really.
Did you tell them you are just defending yourself?
I did, once, when I gave that
“Aye, very funny” sarcastic response and they asked me if I was upset. My mum just said:
“Oh, it’s wus just a joke”. But when I asked:
“So, it was a joke when I got similar things said to me by folk who bullied me at school?” She went silent for a few seconds and said:
“You were bullied at school. At least, I don’t remember you ever telling me”. Yet my mum’s advice to me about getting bullied was to
“…just ignore it” h:
But why would they think getting dual citizenship would specifically spite him? I'm just trying to understand.
Because I didn’t know my dad, like at all. Not in the way my half-siblings on his side of the family did. We were like strangers to each other, my dad and I. So, getting the dual citizenship would feel a bit weird not having as strong a connection with my Kenyan heritage, if that makes sense? :question:
All I remember of my dad is that he wasn't someone who like talking about the past or himself much. He was always wanting to know what's been happening, lately.
What happens if you do it anyway?
Probably nothing, but my immediate family tend to response harshly and critically to almost everything I do for myself, telling me it was either wrong or a waste of time, etc. In their opinion, of course. Plus, they tend to gossip a lot, so I don’t really like revealing much about myself. Since they tend to use it against me, like when I opened up about my anxiety and depression struggles, which were just laughed off and made out to be me attention seeking. :kickingmyself:
Guess, you could say, the gossiping, questions and assumptions is what I don’t want to deal with. Since I always have to justify my reasons for doing something for myself. And I don’t want news of me getting dual citizenship – if I were to get it - to get back to my dad’s side of the family, somehow. What with most of my immediate family, unlike me, being addicted to Facebook and Twitter.
So they are half Scottish and Chinese since they are biracial?
Yup!