Feeling pretty bad. My boss just scolded me and I think playing mind games with me? Trying to pit me against another volunteer? I'm thinking to myself, "I won't fall for it." I don't like playing favorites. I'm a bit angry at him because he has this big ego and thinks he's always right. Sometimes he doesn't make any sense at all! Or maybe I'm not empathizing enough?
Ok, in the past few day, I admit I was trying to appear stronger and more of an independent thinker. I must have come off as haughty, arrogant, etc. I think the problem is, I lack grace and charm. I wasn't taught these skills as part of my upbringing. When you see someone with grace and charm, you think this person is from the upper class.
There's also the issue with sexism. When a guy appears strong and dominant, he is praised for this. In contrast, a woman who tries to assert herself is branded as bossy and rude. As a woman, I find myself having to be diplomatic and more humble than usual to earn satisfaction from others.
It is also partly my fault to try to take on everything at once. People have offered to stop forwarding correspondence to me, but I declined. I should have accepted the offer.
Or, I could just read the corespondence but let the others participate in the discussion.