I just want to die. Why can't I just wear gloves 24/7? Maybe I can. I have the most hideously ugly tiny little stubby hands ever. Who would want to be with someone with hands like mine?
Seriously, try and tell me these things aren't hideous. You can't
They don't look "hideous" to me. But the BDD can only see things from it's own perspective, nobody else's. So someone can say "your hands look okay" but you won't believe them, as the BDD is not allowing any other possibilities!.
There's a surprising
minimal amount of actual difference (dimensions-wise) in all the different types of hands out there. Which in terms of BDD, these minimal differences create HUGE
subjective differences.
God intended for your hands to be
exactly as they are, no bigger, no smaller, no longer, no darker, no wider, no narrower. So by not accepting them exactly as they are, you are actually doing God a disservice, disrespecting him, & his intentions. It's all for a reason, good and bad.
Okay, so you may find them to be hideous/etc, which is a for sure a bad feeling to have, similar to shame or humiliation .. both of which are very low in life-energy (ie rather close to not wanting to exist). But you CAN get rid of these FEELINGS, which is the important thing (don't ask me how, but i do know its possible).
And another thing which adds to the distress, but is not directly related, is that you're associating how your hands are, to the idea that no sane guy will want to be your life-partner. Obviously this is an important issue for you (being a young woman). You need to understand that, if i can say this politely, the world does not revolve around your hands. Maybe your world does. Maybe many males out there are obsessed with perfect-looking girls, with zero flaws or idiosyncracies or character, who are sex-on-sticks. But they are not "the world". So you need to try and
separate your issues, and not bundle them all-together into your "hands issue". Just like all other problems you may have, they are separate but have connections to each other.
