How are you feeling?

[Phoenixx]

Curves are sexy. Just saying.

^ Agreed. It took me a long time to appreciate my curves, and I'm glad to finally have more body confidence now than I did for most of my life. (Yes, even as a kid I didn't like how I looked and I thought I was "fat.") I still have my days where I don't like what I see, but at least it's not constant anymore. Now if only I could appreciate how my face looks....

Since I'm a male, I haven't seen this happen, but is this a regular occurrence between mothers and daughters? Is it a social thing - like, on TV mothers see girls who are thin and beautiful so they try to push that image onto their daughters, not realising the pain? Or am I way off?

^ I probably wouldn't say it's a regular occurrence, since my friends' mothers don't treat them like that and they have positive relationships, but sadly it does happen though. Some women do try and push their daughters into looking similar to what's in the magazines and tv and I think that is a horrible example to set, especially since girls are more self-conscious to begin with. My mother wasn't extremely harsh, she never pushed me to look like some model, but she used to comment on my weight and size quite a bit some years ago and it did hurt, since I dealt with the same exact thing at school. Since losing weight (food allergies, not "dieting") and maturing, she's gone from criticizing me about my weight into telling me what I should wear. She'll sometimes find something, usually very girly, if we're out and she'll tell me that I should wear it. "It'll look so cute!" She says. "Put that thing back where it came from or so help me." Then she'll proceed to tell me how I need to be more of a girl, blah blah blah. Sometimes she'll throw in the "No wonder you don't have a boyfriend." line. Yeah. Can't win no matter what.

 

[MikeyC]

^ Agreed. It took me a long time to appreciate my curves, and I'm glad to finally have more body confidence now than I did for most of my life. (Yes, even as a kid I didn't like how I looked and I thought I was "fat.") I still have my days where I don't like what I see, but at least it's not constant anymore. Now if only I could appreciate how my face looks....

I'm glad you've become more comfortable with your body. It's a huge step towards self-appreciation.

^ I probably wouldn't say it's a regular occurrence, since my friends' mothers don't treat them like that and they have positive relationships, but sadly it does happen though. Some women do try and push their daughters into looking similar to what's in the magazines and tv and I think that is a horrible example to set, especially since girls are more self-conscious to begin with. My mother wasn't extremely harsh, she never pushed me to look like some model, but she used to comment on my weight and size quite a bit some years ago and it did hurt, since I dealt with the same exact thing at school. Since losing weight (food allergies, not "dieting") and maturing, she's gone from criticizing me about my weight into telling me what I should wear. She'll sometimes find something, usually very girly, if we're out and she'll tell me that I should wear it. "It'll look so cute!" She says. "Put that thing back where it came from or so help me." Then she'll proceed to tell me how I need to be more of a girl, blah blah blah. Sometimes she'll throw in the "No wonder you don't have a boyfriend." line. Yeah. Can't win no matter what.

While it seems like none of those comments have any malice behind them, I can see how they can be hurtful. Yeah, girls are generally more self-conscious than boys, so that doesn't help.

I get my mum telling me to find a girlfriend, too, so I understand. ::

 

[dottie]

disgusted. i just caught a rat in a trap in the storage area. i hate hurting animals. please take it's pain away. forgive me please. i just don't want rat pee and number-twos everywhere. i don't want the plague.

yesterday, it set the trap off but it escaped unscathed. i reset it and, well... RIP.

now, i wait for the landlord to come home and remove it because i am not touching that. just setting the trap gave me heebeejeebees.

 

[Phoenixx]

disgusted. i just caught a rat in a trap in the storage area. i hate hurting animals. please take it's pain away. forgive me please. i just don't want rat pee and number-twos everywhere. i don't want the plague.

yesterday, it set the trap off but it escaped unscathed. i reset it and, well... RIP.

now, i wait for the landlord to come home and remove it because i am not touching that. just setting the trap gave me heebeejeebees.

^ I recently caught a mouse in my room a couple weeks back. The first night I heard it, it woke me right up in the middle of the night, I heard it rummaging through my makeup bag on my dresser. I turned on the light and there it was. It just looked at me, and I managed to walk towards it and it still sat there looking at me before it just turned around and scurried off in no hurry. So odd it wasn't terrified of me. It was cute though, with little round ears and little black eyes. It needed to go though because it wasn't long before it was getting into my food and I had to throw it out. My mom ended up setting a trap in my room and it wasn't long before it snapped. Poor little mouse. Should've stayed outside where it belonged.

Don't worry, I can't set traps or touch them either. The parents always take care of it.

 

[dottie]

@phoenixx RIP

<:8__)~~

 

[GraybeardGhost]

disgusted. i just caught a rat in a trap in the storage area. i hate hurting animals. please take it's pain away. forgive me please. i just don't want rat pee and number-twos everywhere. i don't want the plague.

yesterday, it set the trap off but it escaped unscathed. i reset it and, well... RIP.

now, i wait for the landlord to come home and remove it because i am not touching that. just setting the trap gave me heebeejeebees.

I had mice in my room in college—the tiny, super cute kind with the big ears. I could hear them rustling around at night, getting into things. I borrowed a small live trap from the biology department and baited it with Cheetos. Mice LOVE Cheetos. I caught thirteen mice that semester and let them go in the woods.

 

[dottie]

@graybeard do you know where those can be bought?

eta: googling

 

[GraybeardGhost]

@graybeard do you know where those can be bought?

I'd try some place like Tractor Supply Co. or a scientific place like Carolina Biological Supply. You could check hardware stores, too.

 

[Nathália]

^ Agreed. It took me a long time to appreciate my curves, and I'm glad to finally have more body confidence now than I did for most of my life. (Yes, even as a kid I didn't like how I looked and I thought I was "fat.") I still have my days where I don't like what I see, but at least it's not constant anymore. Now if only I could appreciate how my face looks....


^ I probably wouldn't say it's a regular occurrence, since my friends' mothers don't treat them like that and they have positive relationships, but sadly it does happen though. Some women do try and push their daughters into looking similar to what's in the magazines and tv and I think that is a horrible example to set, especially since girls are more self-conscious to begin with. My mother wasn't extremely harsh, she never pushed me to look like some model, but she used to comment on my weight and size quite a bit some years ago and it did hurt, since I dealt with the same exact thing at school. Since losing weight (food allergies, not "dieting") and maturing, she's gone from criticizing me about my weight into telling me what I should wear. She'll sometimes find something, usually very girly, if we're out and she'll tell me that I should wear it. "It'll look so cute!" She says. "Put that thing back where it came from or so help me." Then she'll proceed to tell me how I need to be more of a girl, blah blah blah. Sometimes she'll throw in the "No wonder you don't have a boyfriend." line. Yeah. Can't win no matter what.

I used to be told that or the "that's why nobody wants to be your friend, that's why you don't have any line until I snapped back. My mema always complain about how I need to become thicker or how I need to flat iron my hair, etc. No one can please everyone, when will people see that the ideas that they're pushing on others to be "beautiful" is just their own personal opinion? Short hair, long hair, chubby, skinny, curvy, etc everyone has their own preferences. All of these seems like insecurities projected. If I went to get a piercing in a place other than my ears I would get hades about how I would be useless to a man, which is not true. It's stereotyping also, that every girl has to be this or that to be more appealing to men. Really? Why not just let females be themselves, why do you think that women have to "fake-up" to get straight guy? If straight guys were really like that, I wouldn't want anything to do with them. I'm going to fix my self up how I want and if any male/female has an issue, it's not mine. It's 2012 where people of all types can find each other. To think that a sex of over a billion people have to fit one image is absolutely preposterous. That goes for all sexes.

 

[MikeyC]

I used to be told that or the "that's why nobody wants to be your friend, that's why you don't have any line until I snapped back. My mema always complain about how I need to become thicker or how I need to flat iron my hair, etc. No one can please everyone, when will people see that the ideas that they're pushing on others to be "beautiful" is just their own personal opinion? Short hair, long hair, chubby, skinny, curvy, etc everyone has their own preferences. All of these seems like insecurities projected. If I went to get a piercing in a place other than my ears I would get hades about how I would be useless to a man, which is not true. It's stereotyping also, that every girl has to be this or that to be more appealing to men. Really? Why not just let females be themselves, why do you think that women have to "fake-up" to get straight guy? If straight guys were really like that, I wouldn't want anything to do with them. I'm going to fix my self up how I want and if any male/female has an issue, it's not mine. It's 2012 where people of all types can find each other. To think that a sex of over a billion people have to fit one image is absolutely preposterous. That goes for all sexes.

Great post, Beleza.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

Disappointed and upset, but I shouldn't be because is none of my business.

 

[coyote]

disgusted. i just caught a rat in a trap in the storage area. i hate hurting animals. please take it's pain away. forgive me please. i just don't want rat pee and number-twos everywhere. i don't want the plague.

yesterday, it set the trap off but it escaped unscathed. i reset it and, well... RIP.

now, i wait for the landlord to come home and remove it because i am not touching that. just setting the trap gave me heebeejeebees.

will the landlord let you have a cat?

 

[Phoenixx]

I used to be told that or the "that's why nobody wants to be your friend, that's why you don't have any line until I snapped back. My mema always complain about how I need to become thicker or how I need to flat iron my hair, etc. No one can please everyone, when will people see that the ideas that they're pushing on others to be "beautiful" is just their own personal opinion? Short hair, long hair, chubby, skinny, curvy, etc everyone has their own preferences. All of these seems like insecurities projected. If I went to get a piercing in a place other than my ears I would get hades about how I would be useless to a man, which is not true. It's stereotyping also, that every girl has to be this or that to be more appealing to men. Really? Why not just let females be themselves, why do you think that women have to "fake-up" to get straight guy? If straight guys were really like that, I wouldn't want anything to do with them. I'm going to fix my self up how I want and if any male/female has an issue, it's not mine. It's 2012 where people of all types can find each other. To think that a sex of over a billion people have to fit one image is absolutely preposterous. That goes for all sexes.

^ Agreed, very wonderful post. Love that last line too, it's so true.

I also still receive criticism about how I can't do this or I can't do that. Like, I would love an eyebrow piercing. I've wanted one for a while now, but my mother has told me over and over how she doesn't and will never approve and if I live in her house she doesn't want to see it. (I don't think my dad would approve either but I don't think he'd hassle me though, he hasn't in the past.) Which is why I haven't gotten one and most likely won't until I move out. I'm surprised she'll let me get a second piercing in my ears, which I still haven't done yet because I've been slightly too chicken to due to my last not-so-good experience. :: I would love 3 or 4 lobe piercings though, as well as one on the top of my right ear. I think piercings are awesome, although I don't plan on piercing my face much.

 

[MikeyC]

I also still receive criticism about how I can't do this or I can't do that. Like, I would love an eyebrow piercing. I've wanted one for a while now, but my mother has told me over and over how she doesn't and will never approve and if I live in her house she doesn't want to see it.

There's a good reason to move out right there. There's only so much you can and can't do when you're at home, as I figured out, so moving out will give you the freedom to have a thousand piercings if you want.

 

[dottie]

will the landlord let you have a cat?

yeah, when i initially moved in he said i could get a cat... hmm!

 

[AGR]

Really lonely,sometimes it hurts like my heart is in a box that is getting smaller,I dont get it why is that I only have oportunities with people who are not that good?
I dont mean that they have to be perfect,but at least generally kind,that would be good.

 

[Falkor]

Pretty Chill! I'm positive in the classroom, and I just join talking without hesitating..... don't know, but i'm doin good !! dafuq its a miracle ::

and people start talk to me too, maybe thats why XD but i have a much better attitude then last week.. I was a wreck, in the class, like a little scared mouse.

And today,,,, im a whole different sort of girl with less socially anxious feelings, how come?? but great.

 

[hoddesdon]

will the landlord let you have a cat?

would the cat accept the landlord?

 

[Falkor]

I feel very blissful. Had a good day at my internship. While I expected I would be so anxious, I wasn't because the atmosphere was wonderfull. All just guys who were very nice to me and asked me how I liked the internship. I never expected this, cuz I had a failure once in my life that I was left out and could not work at all, because I felt anxious and not welcome. But now I feel better than ever at internship. It still isn't the heaven on earth, but for me it feels like it, i'm satisfied with just people who welcome me and not distant me.

 

[lilmutegirl]

I feel pretty full. I may not even be able to finish my breakfast. I'm really busy, too. I have most of the day off work (I work this evening at one job, but have the day off while my son's at school). I have a lot to do, but wanted to go shopping and relax. Trying to get caught up on housework and need to study for two midterms, so that probably won't happen.
I'm also oddly conflicted. I'm friends on facebook with someone who passed away earlier this year. Today would be her birthday. I looked at her wall, and clearly some people didn't get the news (one wrote: "Happy Birthday! Hope it's a great day!") Others expressed how much they miss her, especially today. I don't know what the proper etiquette is...