How are you feeling?

Nathália

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Yeah. I wish they were more flexible, but I guess technically, I'm not very flexible with my schedule. I'm trying...and the guy that I don't like isn't helping. He's very arrogant and condescending, which is what I don't like. I'm actually thinking that if I post something, he'll shoot it down, and I won't be able to defend myself.


I've never done a group thing, but I understand, some schools can make it harder on their students. I've taken online classes a two different schools, some are just..... It don't think it should be that way to prevent situations like this. I don't have an issue like that in my new online classes. That's crazy that you have to stress like that.
 

MikeyC

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As for me, I'm doing pretty well. Stopped going to psychologist several months ago. Psychiatrist was like 4 months ago and said I was doing very good, saw him again yesterday and said I was "perfect" so if in my next appointment in 4 months I keep being the same I won't have to worry about it anymore, no more medication (now I'm still on antidepressants) and no more therapy. Apparently what I have now it's just part of my personality (not wanting to go out much but being able to do so without anxiety, not wanting to form very wide circle of friends but being able to form relationships and in general not wanting to do 'X' but being able to do so XP), depression and anxiety are not there anymore. I still get a bit more nervous than the average person, but no attacks whatsoever and nothing really to worry about. I am still an emotional person but not depressive anymore. I can't ask for anything else :D
Such wonderful news, my awesome friend.

They're nice, I simply feel awkward most of the time when people visit - probably feel judged by them more than others even if its not the case other than in my head. Thanks for responding :)
I understand. Hopefully you can get through that. I'm sure they like you, anyway. :)
 

MikeyC

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I feel good! Went to see a band I like and they really put on a great show. It's 3:15am now and I haven't slept and I have to work soon. I'm going to be a wreck when I get back home!

The night didn't totally go to plan, though. My friend disappeared early and he never returned, and I almost ran over someone coming out of Sydney. Plus I was put in front of a camera to ask questions about the band, something which I was very uncomfortable with. But overall: a great night!
 

Starry

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I feel odd... My already low blood pressure seems (I haven't measured it to find out) to have dropped lower than usual and I feel very light-headed. :/
 

Lisy

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I feel tired and nervous my hands won't stop shaking, it has been three days since I moved to Germany and I keep getting lost.
I went to the supermarket, I walked for an hour without being able to go back home even if I had a map... I started to panic. I hate myself for having such bad sense of direction.
 

Starry

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Look after yourself, Starry!

I try, Mikey! But thank you. :)

My Blood pressure is returning to it's normal state now, so I'm feeling better. I just measured it and my systolic measurement is still lower than normal, but my diastolic is in the usual range. (For me anyway - it's my diastolic measurement which is usually "low"... My systolic is on the low side of "normal" usually.)
 
That was weird... Maybe I should lay off the... yeah. Freak bad mood (well, maybe not so freak... I know what caused it, heh). I feel like I was part of a nightmare and it's over now. I woke up with a headache but thankfully it's gone now.
 

TheTemp

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I was in a good mood but then my mom came and criticized the **** out of me. Said I needed to cut my hair and lose some weight. Ugh, I'm finally happy with myself and this has to happen. I won't let it faze me. She had no idea I suffered from BDD for so long, I even became anorexic weighing at 85 pounds 2 years ago and she STILL has to bring up my weight. I'm on meds and they made me gain like 10 pounds. It added to my overall curvyness and I think it looks nice on my breasts, etc. Ugh, whatever, that's what I get for living at home.
 

Nathália

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I was in a good mood but then my mom came and criticized the **** out of me. Said I needed to cut my hair and lose some weight. Ugh, I'm finally happy with myself and this has to happen. I won't let it phase me. She had no idea I suffered from BDD for so long, I even became anorexic weighing at 85 pounds 2 years ago and she STILL has to bring up my weight. I'm on meds and they made me gain like 10 pounds. It added to my overall curvyness and I think it looks nice on my breasts, etc. Ugh, whatever, that's what I get for living at home.

:-(... I thought your long black hair brought out your face, it was pretty. It can suck when others tell you what to do with your body. Try your hardest, I know with BDD it's hard to convince yourself of things.
 
I was in a good mood but then my mom came and criticized the **** out of me. Said I needed to cut my hair and lose some weight. Ugh, I'm finally happy with myself and this has to happen. I won't let it faze me. She had no idea I suffered from BDD for so long, I even became anorexic weighing at 85 pounds 2 years ago and she STILL has to bring up my weight. I'm on meds and they made me gain like 10 pounds. It added to my overall curvyness and I think it looks nice on my breasts, etc. Ugh, whatever, that's what I get for living at home.

If you need a haircut... then I need a hair CHOP. Haha. I don't know exactly how long your hair is, but mine is almost down to my butt and I'm still growing it ::p: If you like it the way it is, keep it! It looked great to me!

I never understand mothers who criticize their daughters so harshly. Don't they understand how hurtful that is? I wonder if a mother can be jealous of her daughter, maybe that's why some of them say nasty things.
 

Phoenixx

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I was in a good mood but then my mom came and criticized the **** out of me. Said I needed to cut my hair and lose some weight. Ugh, I'm finally happy with myself and this has to happen. I won't let it faze me. She had no idea I suffered from BDD for so long, I even became anorexic weighing at 85 pounds 2 years ago and she STILL has to bring up my weight. I'm on meds and they made me gain like 10 pounds. It added to my overall curvyness and I think it looks nice on my breasts, etc. Ugh, whatever, that's what I get for living at home.
^ Yes, please don't let it faze you. It's very wrong of her to bring up weight and to criticize you like that, especially if you dealt with an eating disorder before along with BDD. You're happy with the way you are and I hope you continue to stay that way. Don't let anyone's negative criticism get to you. (I need to make note of that myself)

I, too, always wondered why some mothers criticize their daughters so harshly. I've gone through it too, mostly in my early teens but I still get some criticism now and then. It's awful, but I've been learning to tone her out.
 

JuiceB

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Drinking every single day is a hard habit to break. As much as it sucks, it's expected that you will have moments of regression because it's something you've been doing for so long. I know that it happens to me with chocolate.

Think of the progress you've made so far and use that as motivation to keep pushing on to free yourself of the drink. Have a chat to someone you trust about it, if possible. Having someone else to bounce feelings and hardships off regarding alcohol is a very good way to curb it.

Yeah well, at least I'm not like how I use to be. It's just this emptiness is getting the better of me. I don't enjoy any of my hobbies anymore and feel just lost. The way I am now, I don't have any future to look forward to.

I don't have anyone to reach out to in my life. Both my sister and my mom have been avoiding me and my younger brother is ignorant beyond reason. Believe me when I say I'm still doing my best to keep my head up and keep looking forward.
 

TheTemp

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:-(... I thought your long black hair brought out your face, it was pretty. It can suck when others tell you what to do with your body. Try your hardest, I know with BDD it's hard to convince yourself of things.

Thank you so much. :) Those words of encouragement mean more to me than you'll ever know. :)
 

TheTemp

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If you need a haircut... then I need a hair CHOP. Haha. I don't know exactly how long your hair is, but mine is almost down to my butt and I'm still growing it ::p: If you like it the way it is, keep it! It looked great to me!

I never understand mothers who criticize their daughters so harshly. Don't they understand how hurtful that is? I wonder if a mother can be jealous of her daughter, maybe that's why some of them say nasty things.

Thank you so much, that was so reassuring and sweet :), I really like my hair, it took forever to grow out. I love styling it and doing all sorts of things to it now that I could not do with shorter hair. I keep telling her it makes me happy, but she just doesn't understand, doesn't think it looks "neat" enough.

I don't know what it is about my mother, she doesn't get how criticism can really affect someone as sensitive as me. Tough love will only drive me away...
 
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TheTemp

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^ Yes, please don't let it faze you. It's very wrong of her to bring up weight and to criticize you like that, especially if you dealt with an eating disorder before along with BDD. You're happy with the way you are and I hope you continue to stay that way. Don't let anyone's negative criticism get to you. (I need to make note of that myself)

I, too, always wondered why some mothers criticize their daughters so harshly. I've gone through it too, mostly in my early teens but I still get some criticism now and then. It's awful, but I've been learning to tone her out.

Toning her out, that's what I need to do. You should've heard the way she said those things to me. First of all, she said it as she was leaving the house. She didn't sit me down and tell me her concerns. Secondly, she said it in such a bitter and menacing "you better" tone. It was overwhelming and hurt my self esteem.

I've always enjoyed food. Most importantly, I'm happy with myself. I've learnt that the two can coexist together. I've also learnt to see the bright side of all my bodily features. Looking up to women like Marilyn Monroe instead of Kate Moss. And it's taken forever to do. Obsessing about calories and numbers will not be good for me. I've been down that road already, it's not a bright one. I guess I can stand to go to the gym and lead a more active lifestyle. But I'm not gonna stop eating the foods that make me happy. More importantly, I'm not chasing after a particular body image, I'm only doing this because I feel I can benefit from the endorphins of working out. Thank you so much for your feedback. :)
 

MikeyC

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I was in a good mood but then my mom came and criticized the **** out of me. Said I needed to cut my hair and lose some weight. Ugh, I'm finally happy with myself and this has to happen. I won't let it faze me. She had no idea I suffered from BDD for so long, I even became anorexic weighing at 85 pounds 2 years ago and she STILL has to bring up my weight. I'm on meds and they made me gain like 10 pounds. It added to my overall curvyness and I think it looks nice on my breasts, etc. Ugh, whatever, that's what I get for living at home.
Curves are sexy. Just saying.

But yeah, I'm gonna just echo others: don't listen to your mother. I've seen your photo and you look great so just stay happy with your figure. :)

I, too, always wondered why some mothers criticize their daughters so harshly. I've gone through it too, mostly in my early teens but I still get some criticism now and then. It's awful, but I've been learning to tone her out.
Since I'm a male, I haven't seen this happen, but is this a regular occurrence between mothers and daughters? Is it a social thing - like, on TV mothers see girls who are thin and beautiful so they try to push that image onto their daughters, not realising the pain? Or am I way off?

Yeah well, at least I'm not like how I use to be. It's just this emptiness is getting the better of me. I don't enjoy any of my hobbies anymore and feel just lost. The way I am now, I don't have any future to look forward to.

I don't have anyone to reach out to in my life. Both my sister and my mom have been avoiding me and my younger brother is ignorant beyond reason. Believe me when I say I'm still doing my best to keep my head up and keep looking forward.
Sounds like depression to me, man. Just keep pushing on. I'm sorry you're going through some tough patches, though.
 

Phoenixx

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Toning her out, that's what I need to do. You should've heard the way she said those things to me. First of all, she said it as she was leaving the house. She didn't sit me down and tell me her concerns. Secondly, she said it in such a bitter and menacing "you better" tone. It was overwhelming and hurt my self esteem.

I've always enjoyed food. Most importantly, I'm happy with myself. I've learnt that the two can coexist together. I've also learnt to see the bright side of all my bodily features. Looking up to women like Marilyn Monroe instead of Kate Moss. And it's taken forever to do. Obsessing about calories and numbers will not be good for me. I've been down that road already, it's not a bright one. I guess I can stand to go to the gym and lead a more active lifestyle. But I'm not gonna stop eating the foods that make me happy. More importantly, I'm not chasing after a particular body image, I'm only doing this because I feel I can benefit from the endorphins of working out. Thank you so much for your feedback. :)
^ I'm sorry about how your mother treated you, I am. I totally get it, I went through that too -- the quick comments or remarks, rather than a sit-down concerned talk. It hurts, I know it does, but keep focusing on the positive things about yourself and those remarks will seem like nothing. It might take a while, it did with me and I still have my days where I think about those remarks, but eventually you'll get to where those words won't matter to you anymore.

Hey, I enjoy food too. ::p: Food is good. And while I'm all for encouraging people to eat the things they love, they should make sure they're healthy too. Obsessing over calories and numbers and the scale is never healthy, but neither is constantly eating prepackaged stuff. That stuff can be good, but fruits and veggies are even better. :) I think finding a nice balance of healthy food and then occasionally treating yourself to some sugary/salty/or fatty goodness is the key. Exercise is great too, and I'm glad you're doing it because you enjoy it.

I follow this blog on tumblr: Welcome to SHYB Lots of photos and submissions from other people and their stories, as well as some inspirational graphics. I think you'll like this, so check it out. :)
 
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