Do you have no idea if you're good looking or not?

[TheNewZero]

Hi all, I was wondering if any one else has absolutely no clue if they are attractive or not. I have never ever been able to determine if I was good-looking, and used to spend hours in front of the mirror trying to figure it out. I don't really look like other people who are considered attractive, but I don't think I look ugly either. I've also never had anyone come up and hit on me, and guys don't really ever talk to me. I don't really care about it that much, but I've always been curious.

So how do you determine if you are attractive? Can you see it based on how you think your looks are, or is it solely based on how others react to your appearance?

 

[cola junky]

open a card in a matching site...
if men send you Messages than it means you look o.k

 

[Snowdrop]

I'm exactly the same as you, I do find myself wondering whether I'm "attractive", it gets obsessive but then really what defines attractive? It's the media setting the example of the 'ideal image' symmetrical small face, large eyes, and slim build but it's opinion that should matter. I'm not gonna get into why that's a load of rubbish because it totally is, what matters is you're comfortable with yourself. And I've never had guys come up and talk to me either but I'm pretty sure that's just because my personality is really quiet and antisocial -_- I have an okay face I think, I can't really tell

 

[EasySkanking]

Post a picture, I'll tell you . I have a great eye for female beauty ::

I suppose it has a lot to do with how others react to you. Personally, I feel ugly, but females seem to stare at me a lot. I don't know if it's because I may be good looking or because I'm weird. I've never been told by the opposite sex that I'm good looking, but that may be due to the fact that I never speak to them ::.

For females, I think beauty has a lot to do with how you carry yourself. Make-up, hairdo's, and good fashion can do wonders for females .

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Cola has a point. Most of the messages a girl will get on dating sites are purely a function of how pretty her picture is.

 

[coyote]

I really have no idea

Just when I think I might look ok, I catch a glimpse of my reflection and am horrified by what I see

 

[Feathers]

lol coyote!

Zero, I take it you haven't started to go to college parties and such yet?

a photo can be an indicator, does not necessarily mean anything, says how photogenic you are, you can be attractive even if you're pics aren't that special..

You can also decide you are attractive and you like yourself and often others will take it from you.. (has to do with attitude and body language and the way you dress etc too, yup...)
You don't have to be 'classically beautiful' to be attractive...

(In fact, when I was working with mail catalogues, an elderly co-worker always wrote 'attractive' whenever there was a particularly hideous piece of fashion that she didn't know what to write about!! lol!!)
So if those jeans were attractive, SO ARE YOU!!!!!! (And much more so, I daresay!!!)

Attractive = ATTITUDE!!!! Being full of energy, enthusiastic, brimming with life....!!

I bet there are more interesting things to do than look at yourself in the mirror and wonder if you're attractive!!
And after a brisk walk or interesting activity you will feel much more energized and happy and will attract more looks too!!

 

[Confuseddd]

you dont look like other people right?
Thats a good thing , you are unique.
The way you look is ok im sure of it.
Try taking another look in the mirror and smiling and being content and happy
it helps

 

[pebblesdundee]

im always thinking this! i think im just vain though lol. i find myself attractive (that sounds slightly weird) but im always wondering if girls think the same way. i like my face, not sure if thats all you mean. the thing is, i think my face is quite attractive because it is defined (i think thats how i would describe it) in my opinion, but that might be because the only other faces i see are of old people (i dont get out much) so im not sure.

 

[Kato]

It is said beauty is in the eye of the beholder
No one, whose opinion means something to me , complains about me.
So I guess I shouldn't worry what others think.

Still, I am seemingly incapable of stopping this thinking behavior.
Thus, I am negatively consistently critiquing myself and then overly worrying about it.


Quite Exhausting

 

[UnOccupied]

hmmm, cant say ive ever heard this question before. Well, i would say if you dont think you are bad looking, then you most likely are better looking than average, or even good looking. Just because guys don't hit on you does not mean you aren't good looking at all. It could be because you are just shy, so maybe guys are a little hesitant to approach you. Just a typical side effect of SA.

In my opinion, the girls who are more talkative are ALWAYS more approachable, whether or not they are good looking. BUT, when a girl is in fact good looking, or "hot" as we call it, they are MUCH harder to approach.

So, maybe guys aren't approaching you because you are good looking(makes it scarier for us), and you are a little shy(makes us a little more hesitant).

Hope this helps

 

[lunarla]

Completely. I don't really have a clue. It has been a big problem for me in the (not so far away) past. It's like, I muuuuuuust be unattractive to people if they don't tell me otherwise. And it's not as though I'm told I'm unattractive either. But I just have no gauge on my own attractiveness, really. I, too, don't see myself as looking like what most people would see as attractive.... conventionally, at least. I don't know, but I'm trying to not let it bother me anymore.

 

[Luke1993]

I really don't know. I don't think I'm good looking, but nobody's ever said anything particularly negative about my looks in real life (except bullies but they're biased of course ). I did post pictures of me here once and some said i was good looking but I can't help feeling they were just saying that to be nice.

 

[coyote]

lol coyote!

no, really, I was serious

 

[lurknomore]

I have no idea. I think I look "average," but I don't really get any attention from the opposite sex- I rarely get hit on, and the 2 or 3 times in my life that I have, it was men old enough to be my father.

 

[mismeek]

The way I see it, if no one is throwing rocks at you, or crossing themselves when they see you.... then you look okay

 

[Blake The Great Ect...]

This girl above me is kinda cute! LoL

 

[Blaze]

Yeah she is Blake! ^_^

I've had more than enough people tell me that I am good looking, but I still don't believe them.

 

[emerald_star733]

I have always been told that i am beautiful...however, when i am told that i get all blushed and embarassed and do not handle it well, so i really don't think about it and am shy about it. I do not hold that opinion of myself as i would feel weird saying that but according to others i guess i am..::I feel weird even writing this lol

 

[Psychedelicious]

Just a Thought

You look great trust me. I have seen your picture in the Pictures Forum before. I do agree that most of your appearance is based on how others react to you. There might be several reasons why people don't approach you, even if you do look good. It might just be that you don't seem approachable. It doesn't mean that you're ugly. And yes, what meek said.

For me, I already know what I look like, definitely have an idea. That's all. I've been told that I'm really ugly before, but I've also been told the opposite. I do know which is true.