Being hit on

[Hoppy]

I dont mind being hit on, although it happens a lot in the last 6 years i've been married and most of the time its 18-20 year old girls hitting on me. To put this in perspective, I have a receeding hairline at 26 years old and I never take off my weddding ring. I always reply by saying "I'm married'', one even said it didnt bother her. Wierd! Like there aint no younger guys around here they can pester! And it aint like I'm the outgoing type either, I never approach people. Let me put it this way: I'm the guy in line at the wal mart getting my lunch for work and a couple cans of skoal, wearing a factory workers uniform with enough nerve damage and physical scars for an army platoon with thinning hair and still these girls seek me out. O...M...G! It don't bother me but it makes me wonder ''why me''.

Lucky bugger.

 

[SM1010]

It's definitely a bit awkward but it feels good when it happens (not that it happens often).

 

[FallenFeathers]

I have a tendency to be hit on by other dudes In clubs lol. I'm starting to wonder if I need to take a long hard look at the way I dress or something, that isn't a dig at the way other people dress I'm just starting to wonder if I'm giving out some hidden cues I dont realize about.

I'm flattered and all but quite comfortable with my current sexuality and don;t plan on switching sides

Any other guys get this?

 

[coyote]

Any other guys get this?

some guys can be a little flirty - and i might even flirt back for fun

but i've been told by several gay friends that i give out a very definite hetero vibe

so they know it's pointless to try anything too serious

 

[Zak]

I think guys don't want to admit it but flirting is actually really complicated. Nice guys (like myself) are naturally reserved and don't flirt with someone unless they are openly sending receptive signals. I am by no means an expert, but whenever I used to flirt with girls it was around those who initiated said flirting.

Even the girls who I hung out with the most (who I considered very attractive) and were a lot more like "one of the guys" I just simply couldn't flirt with them unless I felt they were ok with it out of respect. Nowadays though not much flirting going on at all due to my OCD lol... so who knows I could be completely incorrect.

Zak

 

[bcsr]

Any other guys get this?

I've been hit on by guys before, yea. Doesn't bother me at all, it's a compliment.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I find that girls will openly hit on me far more than guys will.
They're not as intimidated, I guess.

 

[Shenmue]

some guys can be a little flirty - and i might even flirt back for fun

but i've been told by several gay friends that i give out a very definite hetero vibe

so they know it's pointless to try anything too serious

I also like to put out that vibe. Although I didn't have much luck one year when I grew a mustache and wore a tight pair of black leather pants.

 

[awkwardamanda]

A lot of it is body language. I asked a guy friend a long time ago what it is about me that makes me unapproachable and he said, in different words, that most guys interpret quiet awkwardness as bitchy rejection. So my shyness is intimidating. :/

That is so depressing. I've always assumed that people see me as rude and stuck up at times. I don't mean to be a bitch, but I probably come off that way. Sometimes it really is just shyness. Other times I avoid making eye contact so that people hopefully won't talk to me that much. Maybe that is kinda rude, but I often just want to be left alone. This goes for any situation where I'd be expected to associate with people, not just when it comes to guys. Most social activities don't interest me much anyway. I'm rarely in a situation where guys might try to hit on me. If I am, I probably do give off that unapproachable vibe. If a guy were to attempt to flirt with me, I'd likely be very uncomfortable and not know how to handle it. I might even be oblivious to it. I can't even make conversation, never mind flirt.

 

[chibiXphantom]

i get hit on sometimes, mostly by guys (and some girls) online. my problem is i flirt back, people get the wrong impression, then i just feel awkward >_<

 

[MrJones]

Maybe one day I'll get hit on... by a blind, deaf, mute, and basically dead young girl.

But serisously, if she can choose I don't see why anyone would choose me over anyone else. I guess that's something that makes my life easier and harder at the same time.

 

[Ashiene]

Maybe one day I'll get hit on... by a blind, deaf, mute, and basically dead young girl.

But serisously, if she can choose I don't see why anyone would choose me over anyone else. I guess that's something that makes my life easier and harder at the same time.

Zombies might hit on me because I'm just as dead and soul-less as they are. We also look alike...

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Maybe one day I'll get hit on... by a blind, deaf, mute, and basically dead young girl.

Well if you want a girl who'll appreciate you for your brains, then a zombie is probably the way to go.

But serisously, if she can choose I don't see why anyone would choose me over anyone else.

I'm going to let you into a secret, Jonesy. Everyone thinks that about themselves. We all think that anyone would choose someone else over us. It's not just you who thinks that way, and you're as wrong about it as the rest of us are.

 

[Kiwong]

This stuff scares me to death, the thought of anyone hitting on me, giving anyone the false impression that I am hitting on them. The word "hitting" makes me want to be sick. Here is the backbone of my anxiety, being seen as shallow, getting rejected by people you're not even interested in. Embarassing at first, then it started to affect my health.

Sometimes I can talk to people now wearing sunglasses.