anyone have **** said to them jus coz ur quiet?

EscapeArtist

EscapeArtist

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Other than family, the only one I can recall is "I don't like her/you shouldn't hang out with her, she never talks! Like oooo I'm so sad so i'm going to go DRAW something..."
It wasn't to me, though, but was said about me to my friend.
 
Phoenixx

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"Why don't you talk?"
"What's with that look?" (Because apparently I look sad? I don't know? Sometimes I even have a hard time expressing myself, like facial feature wise.)
"Are you really that snobby?"
"Stop being a prude."
"What?" (I get this so much because I'm such a quiet talker. It bothers me when I hear it like, 100 times a day from various people. I know it's not their fault that they can't hear me, but sometimes people get rude about how they say it)
"Oh my god, stop talking so much." or "Yeah, you never shut up." (Sarcasm. It's always followed by lots of laughter and basically teasing. It sucks.)
"Why are you so serious?"
"You're so boring." (Heard this one numerous times. It breaks my heart to hear it ::(:)
"You're weird."
 
AsTimeBurns

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Not so much, but I do get the "what?" a lot and have to repeat myself because people can never hear what I say. Sometimes people comment on me being quiet, but generally they don't seem to care.
 
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Chriiss

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I have the "what?" or "speak up!"
It's a bit demoralising when your half way through a sentence and they say something like that. I sought of lose composure and get all uncomfortable with the situation.
 
Mystic-Biscuit

Mystic-Biscuit

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Quiet people are severely unappreciated. :/

I get asked to repeat myself quite often, and people are always telling me to 'SMILE,' even when I'm just reading a book or something, which would be a bit creepy - who smiles continuously while reading a book? Sounds really sinister!
 
BlueOysterCultFan96

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Definitely. I've had people fool around with me and make jokes at me as a way to bring me out of my shell . . I don't understand why they do that because if that's what it takes to make someone less shy, then I would have stopped being shy a long time ago. lol. Anyway, I usually react with a blank face and no reply because I don't want people to think that I just laugh things off and continue tolerating it.
 
Sinar_Matahari

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I can relate to being told to smile. The other day at six in the morning, one man told me that I should smile and not take things so seriously. I wanted to reach over and slap him. It's six in the damn morning, I know I look exhausted and this guy who doesn't know me thinks I take "things" too seriously just because I don't have a smile plastered on my face? Why wasn't he smiling at me then? Does he take "things" too seriously too? Furthermore, what are these "things" I take so seriously?
There is one guy who works in another department who makes a point of walking past my work area a few times a day to flirt. (the kiss blowing started getting old the very first time it happened). The other day, I was logging something into the report book and he passes by and says, "Smile ____". I wanted to throw the book at him. I'm supposed to smile for no reason while I write in the report book? Word at work is that I don't smile a lot. Smiling constantly is considered a sign of stupidity in some cultures. Too bad it's not in this one. Plenty of people don't smile at me and I don't get hurt over it.
 
Falkor

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powerfulthoughts said:
Some of the comments I've had:

"Smile" x 100

"Are you emo?" (just because of the sad look on my face, apparently)

"You're pretty quiet"

"You don't talk very much"

"You make for good conversation" (Sarcasm, obviously)

"Why aren't you talking?"

"Everything okay? You sure?"

That and a million other looks and condescending remarks.

I also agree that some people will definitely take advantage of the quiet, insecure person. Watch out for these a-holes, they will sink you lower than you've ever felt. But also, they have been one of the biggest motivating factors for me to change. So... in that sense, I am sort of thankful.
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people told me that x 1000 times, i don't like those people who smash those words right in ya face, they don't care about you, just because your quiet.
 
fitftw

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I always look like someone just shot my dog, mixed with a stern, serious look. Screw those people man. Be yourself. If you don't feel like smiling, don't smile.

Just because other people need to fake everything in life in order to feel a sense of purpose doesn't mean you have to.
 
Sinar_Matahari

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fitftw said:
I always look like someone just shot my dog, mixed with a stern, serious look. Screw those people man. Be yourself. If you don't feel like smiling, don't smile.

Just because other people need to fake everything in life in order to feel a sense of purpose doesn't mean you have to.
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Hmm...one thing that my friend and I agree with is that sometimes you have to be phony. I'm going to have to pull it out of somewhere even when I don't feel like it if I want to get ahead. That's alright with me, just as long as people don't get upset when they can tell I'm being phony. If they ask for a smile for no good godamn reason then I'll give them one. If they don't like it then they'll know to shut the hell up in the future.
 
LonelyWonders

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All the time. People call me crazy, terrorist, murderer. I don't know what the hell goes through people's mine when somebodys quiet but it gets really annoying! Quiets should ban together and kick some loud, talkative ass. :eek::
 
coyote

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I remember one time when I was like 19 or 20. I was home on leave from the Marines, and I went out to a bar with some old friends from school. This was in the early 1980's, so really short hair was not fashionable. I had a Marine Corps "high and tight" haircut, and I was wearing a black turtleneck. I was doing my usual thing of sitting in the corner, being quiet. After we'd been there for awhile, this cute girl came over to me and asked, "So, hi, um, I was wondering.... are you a priest?"
 
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coyote said:
I remember one time when I was like 19 or 20. I was home on leave from the Marines, and I went out to a bar with some old friends from school. This was in the early 1980's, so really short hair was not fashionable. I had a Marine Corps "high and tight" haircut, and I was wearing a black turtleneck. I was doing my usual thing of sitting in the corner, being quiet. After we'd been there for awhile, this cute girl came over to me and asked, "So, hi, um, I was wondering.... are you a priest?"
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dude the obvious response there was "that depends if you've got any sins to confess"


reading through the replies in this topic a lot of you guys seem to get offended when people tell you to smile/ask if you're ok ect then i see the exact same people in other topics claiming nobody cares about you. now i understand it might be annoying sometimes but maybe you guys need to lighten up a lil.
 
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I can't really remember ever getting a hard time for not speaking up, at least not as an adult, but I do find that I have to force myself to make a little bit of an effort with people otherwise the tense/awkward feeling can become overwhelmingly oppressive. So it's more often a self-inflicted sense of "say something... anything" rather than people giving me grief over it.
 
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