Recent content by recluse

Being depressed is a major reason why I dont think about dating, also my shyness stops me, but even shy guys have girlfriends. I have no motivation to be in a relationship and I am plagued by self hatred and thoughts like "who would want a loser like me?" Who in the right mind would want to be...

in my new job in a supermarket so far my colleagues seem like really nice people. In particular i'm looking at making friends with women to gain experience of talking to them. They seem to like me and i talk to them a lot, but all the ''friends'' ive ever had are work colleagues who i only see...

so im working in a supermarket and sometimes i have to wear a headset in order to communicate with colleagues. When you speak into the headset you hear your own voice, and im super self conscious when i hear mine. It actually makes me reluctant to use the headset to contact colleagues. How can i...

so ive gotten over most of my sa and depression, im now a much more confident and positive person. When i was depressed and anxious the last thing on my mind was the need to be in a relatioship now i have a strong yearning for one. All i want is to love someone and them love me back. Im not...

how the hell do some people not care what people think, and like drawing attention to themselves? Today at the supermarket i work with a girl who works there (who is a nice person) started spontaneously dancing to the music in front of all the customers near the checkouts. I was on one of the...

ok i started a new job as a checkout op in tesco last week. On saturday evening a girl i worked with in another store came in with her sister, i had not seen her for a year (I had worked with her in the other store for a year and half) we noticed each other and smiled and she came up to my...

i find i am more anxious around attractive, good looking people. I used to think i was only anxious around attractive women but it occurs with both sexes. Its not that i am attracted to the woman but i have this notion in my head that attractive people are superior and judge average lookers like...

ok i've finally accepted my looks and i realise that i'm a likeable person. Ive been told i have a good sense of humour, and ive accepted that i am ok looking. The main reason for me fearing asking women out is my homebody life style. I spend most pof my time at home unless i am out cycling or...

Here are reasons i avoid making friends/avoid socializing - 1) I am embarassed of people getting to know i have no job, no friends, never had a girlfriend, don't go out, no life etc. 2) I am afraid of commitment i.e having to devote time to friends, having friends phoning me, visiting me...

ive just come home from a funeral of a family member (dad's sister in law) for days i dreaded an attack of socail anxiety and when i got there....anxiety free. I was calm throughout but i was still quiet. I have sometimes noticed that i have no social anxiety but i am introverted....im actually...

i've been a member of this forum and sas forum for a few years now and i've been thinking; what reason do i have other than to complain about my life? What i'm trying to say is i am not making any effort to rid myself of my problem by going out and meet people, and i'm thinking that i can't...

i find that anything can influence my depressive thoughts, like my depression lies dormant then some outer influence makes it explode into life. For example; my sister mentioned a guy she knew who got rejected by a girl and he continued to persue her even though she only liked him as a friend...

i find that anything can influence my depressive thoughts, like my depression lies dormant then some outer influence makes it explode into life. For example; my sister mentioned a guy she knew who got rejected by a girl and he continued to persue her even though she only liked him as a friend...

Would you consider this scenario sexual abuse? - A boy of about 7 years old went along with his older sister (3 years older) to her friend's house who was the same age as her. The boy decides to leave on his bicycle when his sister shouts ''come back a minute!'' The boy goes back then is...

My self esteem is so low i cannot even attempt to befriend people on this site unless they make the first move::(: I'm always thinking that i have nothing to offer anyone, nothing interesting to say etc. You'd think that being on a site with like minded people would make it easy but no.