MikeyC
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It sounds right going in, but not so right coming out.
So she said yes? Well done!
Post your random thoughts/feelings etc
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outofthisworld
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yep, taking her to watch a movie.. i'm not a bar/club person so a movie i think is the best option because not much talking and not knowing what to talk about. so let see how that will go:thinking:
MikeyC
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Hey, movie is good! You may be able to hold her hand during it.
Good luck! What are you going to see?
Hoppy
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I ate a whole cheesecake
Is that a brag or a complaint?
Sometimes pushing through and finishing the job is so much better.
Is that a brag or a complaint?
Sometimes pushing through and finishing the job is so much better.
Definitely a brag. Cheesecake is so delicious.
singing-love
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I feel sore, stupid chest infection is so inconvenient haha. I don't think my ribs, lungs and throat have ever been so sore, but at least i have a legitimate excuse not to talk now.
Hellhound
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It's hard to explain, but I will try.
I've felt odd, kind of craving some semi-normal interaction for once. Most of the human beings around me have no knowledge of basic human behavior and it's driving me insane.
When you are able to mantain a fluent, adult conversation with your 7 year old niece... but not with a bunch of folks in their 20/30's, something is not working right.
I think I'm afraid of going crazy. I fear that this behavior around me is not okay and it's starting to affect me. I'm not sure. Something is seriously wrong here, but can't tell what it is.
MikeyC
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Yes. Yes, it is.
I know a ten year old girl who is super smart and converses like an adult, too. Kids these days.
BlueDays
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^Hmm, that is a dilemma. :sad:
That is very sad if the adults around you are not able to have an adult conversation with you.
Are they very judgemental and critical people? Sometimes adults can be so much more judgmental than children. Could that be why you can easily maintain a conversation with your 7 year old niece and not the adults around you?
PugofCrydee
You want to know how I got these scars?
[/QUOTE]I've felt odd, kind of craving some semi-normal interaction for once. Most of the human beings around me have no knowledge of basic human behavior and it's driving me insane.
When you are able to mantain a fluent, adult conversation with your 7 year old niece... but not with a bunch of folks in their 20/30's, something is not working right.
I think I'm afraid of going crazy. I fear that this behavior around me is not okay and it's starting to affect me. I'm not sure. Something is seriously wrong here, but can't tell what it is.[/QUOTE]
Hellhound, it sounds like it could be related to 'perceived potential threats'.
A classic hallmark of SA.
We don't perceive kids as any kind of social threat, so our mind can subconsciously relax, allowing it to work normally.
But we can tend to see adults (consciously or subconsciously) as having/thinking ulterior motives against us. Our mind feels insecure and it sort of...has an information traffic jam. This has happened to me numerous times.
You are not crazy (or heading there) Though when we don't understand why things are happening it can seem that way.
When you are able to mantain a fluent, adult conversation with your 7 year old niece... but not with a bunch of folks in their 20/30's, something is not working right.
I think I'm afraid of going crazy. I fear that this behavior around me is not okay and it's starting to affect me. I'm not sure. Something is seriously wrong here, but can't tell what it is.[/QUOTE]
Hellhound, it sounds like it could be related to 'perceived potential threats'.
A classic hallmark of SA.
We don't perceive kids as any kind of social threat, so our mind can subconsciously relax, allowing it to work normally.
But we can tend to see adults (consciously or subconsciously) as having/thinking ulterior motives against us. Our mind feels insecure and it sort of...has an information traffic jam. This has happened to me numerous times.
You are not crazy (or heading there)
Though when we don't understand why things are happening it can seem that way.
dottie
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I need a haircut but I don't want to deal with the anxiety of a stranger in such close proximity... trapped for a half hour of shifty eye contact (dontlookatherboobs dontlookatherboobs dontlookarherboobs) and small talk... Maybe once my hair reaches my calves I'll schedule an appointment.
Look at em! Lol.
ImNotMyIllness
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You have anxiety about it because you think it's wrong. Girls check out other girls ALL the time. So, look at her, look at her boobs. You can think to yourself, "she has nice boobs"..or, eh, I think mine are better. Whatever you do, don't tell yourself NOT to look.
Lavinialuna
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Boobs are pretty (and I'm straight, no harm in looking, lol!) Probably remind us of our positive female role models?
Did you know that I'm a hairdresser? If I lived closer I would cut your hair for you (wearing a turtle neck of course) and maybe you would feel more comfortable.
I cut my own hair. It's a talent I thank God for as it must be supernatural. Every time I pull it off I can't believe it. Figure it must be all the praying I do while I'm doing it!
raying:
While I read this, I somehow expected the bolded line to actually be "and you could look at mine and it'd be okay!"
>,>
Kiwong
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I find this really hard too. I just close my eyes until it is done. One part of it I dislike is having a big reflection of my anxious self staring back at me. Then there is a fear of shaking when they are trimming my hair with a razor near my temple.
PugofCrydee
You want to know how I got these scars?
I always found it weird - nice but weird that women would rub their boobs against the back of my head during a haircut :bigsmile: