how to conversate with a women ?

[Clown]

I have never had a conversatin with a women my whole life , ok maybe 10min about the basic things work/school.... its kinda sad.
I don't even know what to talk about with a women after 10min's I just going ask stupid questions and make a fool of my self, because I feel I need the conversation going on.

 

[Felgen]

Try to overcome your shyness around women and start improving your overall social skills; there's really no magic formula or shortcut to it.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I have never had a conversatin with a women my whole life , ok maybe 10min about the basic things work/school.... its kinda sad.
I don't even know what to talk about with a women after 10min's I just going ask stupid questions and make a fool of my self, because I feel I need the conversation going on.

Do not just talk to beautiful women. If you only talk to beautiful women, you will probably feel too pressured and nervous. Your view of her will be distorted by her looks, as will your actions.

Talk to all of them. Make a point of talking to women you aren't remotely attracted to. Talk to them about anything, and talk to them often. Talk to them about whatever you talk to guys about. The more you talk, the more you will learn.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Women are people too.
Try to focus on the fact that they are just like you in so many ways - just like every other person.

If you can get past the fact that they are 'pretty' or have breasts; then you should be able to speak with them the same way you would speak with a relative or a fellow man.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

Women are people too.

Couldn't have said it better myself. =)

Clown, since you haven't spoken to many women at all, I can imagine why you'd think we're from a completely different planet (the whole "women are from Venus" thing? Yeah that's actually not true). We're human too so the same principles of conversation that apply when you are speaking to male friends are pretty much the same when speaking to women. There may be a slight difference in the topics of conversation but I can't imagine much else. Here's a tip: Try not to focus so much on the fact that you are talking to a woman. Just relax. We don't bite. Much.

 

[MrJones]

I always had a problem talking to women. Then I started talking to them online and I took it just as talking to people, as everyone else, not just as "women" (<-- ooo scary). Now I can have a conversation with a woman more or less the same as if it was with a man. Time and practice.

 

[Remus]

I edited your post Clown, Dont post personal stuff about other members without the other parties permission.

Back on topic

 

[thor01]

Talking online (and thats still limited) hasn't really made a difference for me in person. I'm still just as shy. But thats OK. Its just how I am.

 

[Section_31]

That wierdy knows what shes talking about

 

[MikeyC]

Women are people too.
Try to focus on the fact that they are just like you in so many ways - just like every other person.

If you can get past the fact that they are 'pretty' or have breasts; then you should be able to speak with them the same way you would speak with a relative or a fellow man.

100% this. Just talk to women how you would normally talk to guys and you should be okay.

 

[Kinetik]

Well, I do find conversations I have with women quite different to those I have with men. The situation is usually more charged, especially if it's with someone within my age group or if there's an (unspoken) attraction on either side. Sometimes it's just uncomfortable because there's an expectation level - you might feel she's going to shoot you down, or she thinks you're going to come on to her. It's just part of the complexity of man/woman interaction.

In any case, I find it's not so much what you say, it's how you say it. Stay friendly, stand up straight, be as open and comfortable as you can, and take nothing personally. Also, I don't know how old you are, Clown, but it does get easier with age for some reason.

 

[emre43]

I don't feel overawed when speaking to women or intimidated, I can have pefectly good conversations with them. However, if there is a girl that I am interested in and I need to impress them with a witty remark, I just freeze up, I can't think of anything to say.

 

[OceanMist]

My therapist thought it was funny when I said I had a harder time talking to women but not in a bad way. He said it was perfectly normal for any guy to have trouble talking to women.

It's just the way men are programmed. Talking to women is just different.

I've had friends that were extremely socially confident around everyone, but there were still times when they didn't know how to talk to certain women.

I avoid talking to a lot of people, so yeah, I avoid women more than men I guess. Then there are times where I'd rather speak with women because I'll find many women less intimidating than men. So, it really varies with me.

 

[MikeyC]

Well, I do find conversations I have with women quite different to those I have with men.

Absolutely. I've had conversations with my male friends that I wouldn't have with females.

 

[ScaredToBreathe]

how do you conversate with ANYONE? im terrible at conversations but i find it easier to talk with girls since i am one and they are usually more talkative to keep the conversation going. guys on the other hand dont seem to talk as much although im more boyish so i have more things in common to talk about with boys...

oh and all women seem to wanna talk about is their work or their friends they blab on for ages about that crap so bring up their work ask them how it's going or ask them how their friends are doing or what they do for fun when they are with their friends. oh and anything they can complain about (their husband, boyfriend, singlehood, children, work, friends, pets, the weather, the vacuum, and so on).

 

[MikeyC]

i find it easier to talk with girls since i am one and they are usually more talkative to keep the conversation going. guys on the other hand dont seem to talk as much

I have found this to be the opposite, actually.

 

[ScaredToBreathe]

I have found this to be the opposite, actually.

oh really? that's odd because when i talk to girls they either keep talking about themselves or ask me a bunch of questions to get me talking and try to be really nice or friendly.
and when i talk to boys they usually just make monotone one word comments. "yeah" "okay" "sup?" and seem kinda out of it and blank.
guess it's different for everyone though.

 

[MikeyC]

oh really? that's odd because when i talk to girls they either keep talking about themselves or ask me a bunch of questions to get me talking and try to be really nice or friendly.
and when i talk to boys they usually just make monotone one word comments. "yeah" "okay" "sup?" and seem kinda out of it and blank.
guess it's different for everyone though.

Hmm, interesting. Maybe it's because I'm a guy but I can get more conversation out of a guy than girls. I remember going to lunch with one girl who would NOT talk and it was so awkward for me. That's the last time I go to lunch with her ever again.

However, you're right: it's different with everyone and I could be part of the problem of getting nothing out of girls.

 

[OceanMist]

im terrible at conversations but i find it easier to talk with girls since i am one and they are usually more talkative to keep the conversation going. g

Dr. Gilmartin did a study on this. He says that women have an easier time connecting with other women because women are able to connect better emotionally than men connect emotionally with men. That explains why you have an easier time speaking with women.

It also partially explains why more men are love shy. More men don't have friends than women don't have friends because it's harder for us to connect on an emotional level with men, hence, it's harder to make friends for us men.

I do agree that in a general sense, men will talk less than women, although obviously there are many outgoing men that will talk a fair amount. I'd say men tend to be more doers than talkers compared to women who would rather talk than do. Of course, it's not all black and white (different folks will have different preferences).

If a guy can't help his buddy get laid, he is ruled out and is determined as not useful to his buddies. Women are more accepting of other women, and don't care as much if their friend can help them get laid.

Us guys have our problems biologically. The way we are made doesn't allow much help to other shy guys.

 

[doubleM]

unless youre talking a big game, theyre not interested.