OceanMist
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Exactly. Talking is the most important thing to get ladies to want to get with you. If you don't talk like I don't talk, you'll wind up in my position: Alone with no women that talk to me on a personal level.
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Exactly. Talking is the most important thing to get ladies to want to get with you. If you don't talk like I don't talk, you'll wind up in my position: Alone with no women that talk to me on a personal level.
OceanMist
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You must be talking to some guys who are really shy or under 18 then, because most guys do not give one word comments.
Most guys over the age of 18 will have a lot to say. My entire circle of friends never shut up. They talk to anybody and everybody.
I've worked about 15 different jobs, and every one of those jobs, I don't remember one guy who didn't have a lot to say. Once guys become adults their social confidence raises significantly unless they have SAD.
I do agree that percentage-wise, women talk more, but men definitely aren't mutes. Most men are talkers.
MercySparx
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Theres really no secret to it. Talk to a woman like you would any other human being. Because thats all they are, people.
Shiny shadow
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I've been trying to figure out how to talk to woman as well lol ... It seem like I have general problem of not being able to talk in companies if I don't have knowledge in related topics. It's almost impossible to pick up a conversation, and even if I do; I don't know what to say next lol. "wow I really like your dress"
- " thanks"
- silence , thoughts of what to say next " damn, what do I say now?!"
actions turn around walk a way till I further embarrass my self...
having conversation planned is a really stupid idea, but if you don't have what it takes to keep conversation, then things going south
- " thanks"
- silence , thoughts of what to say next " damn, what do I say now?!"
actions turn around walk a way till I further embarrass my self...
having conversation planned is a really stupid idea, but if you don't have what it takes to keep conversation, then things going south
JCVA
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LOL I wish.
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A Many Splendored Thing
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I have heard that women talk about two times as much as men on average.
How do you talk to a woman? Let her do quite a bit of the talking, but you need to pay attention to the details of the conversation and let the conversation flow from one idea to the next instead of jumping ideas often. It's pretty much the same as talking to a guy except women will notice body signals and tone of voice more often than men.
It's easier said than done. I find myself forgetting things sometimes, because I'm afraid I might run out of something to say or blurt something out that's stupid; I have to focus on what to say before I say it . If I can stay relaxed, I can at least pull it off.
It's funny really... I have heard conversation between people is ~94% body language and 6% actual conversation. I think I analyze a little too much sometimes, but if someone greeted you happily v. sadly, who would you want to talk to more?
Take yourself in from their eyes, and try to see yourself when you attempt a conversation. Are you giving off signals that show you're nervous or that you want to be alone? Do you intimidate them with that scowl on your face? Are you crossing your arms(a sign of defensiveness; I really have to focus on this as I do it all the time to make myself comfortable)? Eye contact, probably the biggest one of them all; looking into eyes is the hardest for me... I must focus on this or I will avert my eyes from theirs. I remember this quote: "The eyes are the windows to the soul" and it feels exactly like they're staring into me; it's so creepy!
If you master body language... somehow I think the words would just flow from people's mouths. I'm no master at conversation or relationships, but I'll tell you that there is more to it than just words.
Coming up with what to say. How about something that has happened to you instead of them? It won't look self centered as long as you let them give opinions and talk in the conversation. If they don't find an interest in what you have to say, you could leave them alone or try to change the subject to something about them or a general idea. If they still don't want to talk, it's best to leave them be. They most likely wanted to be left alone, and they won't think you're weird for trying to be friendly. Of course, you could tell that from their body language, if you can read it, in the first place!
Wow... when I type thoughts connect so much better than when I try to think about it. I need to listen to my own advice...
How do you talk to a woman? Let her do quite a bit of the talking, but you need to pay attention to the details of the conversation and let the conversation flow from one idea to the next instead of jumping ideas often. It's pretty much the same as talking to a guy except women will notice body signals and tone of voice more often than men.
It's easier said than done. I find myself forgetting things sometimes, because I'm afraid I might run out of something to say or blurt something out that's stupid; I have to focus on what to say before I say it . If I can stay relaxed, I can at least pull it off.
It's funny really... I have heard conversation between people is ~94% body language and 6% actual conversation. I think I analyze a little too much sometimes, but if someone greeted you happily v. sadly, who would you want to talk to more?
Take yourself in from their eyes, and try to see yourself when you attempt a conversation. Are you giving off signals that show you're nervous or that you want to be alone? Do you intimidate them with that scowl on your face? Are you crossing your arms(a sign of defensiveness; I really have to focus on this as I do it all the time to make myself comfortable)? Eye contact, probably the biggest one of them all; looking into eyes is the hardest for me... I must focus on this or I will avert my eyes from theirs. I remember this quote: "The eyes are the windows to the soul" and it feels exactly like they're staring into me; it's so creepy!
If you master body language... somehow I think the words would just flow from people's mouths. I'm no master at conversation or relationships, but I'll tell you that there is more to it than just words.
Coming up with what to say. How about something that has happened to you instead of them? It won't look self centered as long as you let them give opinions and talk in the conversation. If they don't find an interest in what you have to say, you could leave them alone or try to change the subject to something about them or a general idea. If they still don't want to talk, it's best to leave them be. They most likely wanted to be left alone, and they won't think you're weird for trying to be friendly. Of course, you could tell that from their body language, if you can read it, in the first place!
Wow... when I type thoughts connect so much better than when I try to think about it. I need to listen to my own advice...
Right ell here's just a coule of ointers
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2) Additinally best nt lk directly at us, we miht pwnce at yu
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4) If we ge aggitate just have smethin shiny nearby eg: tinfil this'll istract us
stic t this yu shud b fine
1) females cn't reconise the followin letters:aogpwkd-try nt use them
2) Additinally best nt lk directly at us, we miht pwnce at yu
3) yu need t knw the ncient psswor 'f the sisters 'f the munt
4) If we ge aggitate just have smethin shiny nearby eg: tinfil this'll istract us
stic t this yu shud b fine
A Many Splendored Thing
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megalon
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A Many Splendored Thing
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Wait, I think I got it now.
...
*gives shiny necklace*:
:Brilliant
MikeyC
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I've heard that, too, but I've found that men aren't talkative in general. I know I dislike talking on the phone and my brother's girlfriend could talk all day on that thing.
I always focus on eyes. I find it makes my conversational partner feel wanted and they have my attention. Also I focus on them because my eyes sometimes want to wander down to their chests....
alwaysrunning
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just talk to them. i talk to most people who talk to me regardless of looks of social status, gender or sexuality. the only thing i don't respond to is rudeness. girls really aren't that hard to talk to, sometimes its just perception. I enjoy when other people take the initiative to talk to me, takes the pressure off talking first. Off course there are always girls.women who are picky with whom they wish to speak with, why get upset over that they won't talk to you, if they are this type of person, why talk to them or get upset that they don't respond then? anyhow just my two cents =p